Alex
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Marriage and the Power of Divorce
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iannis
Musty Nester
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Well shit, if someone had fucking thought to mention to me that was an option I would have had kids too!
You guys never tell me shit. God damn it.
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Soygen
The Dirty Dozen For the Price of One
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So leave your wife, who doesn't want kids anyway and is sexually incompatible. Get one of these young, fertile chicks who are chomping at the bit to get into your skintight underoos and make a kid with one when you find a good match. I'm 43 with a 2 year old and it's a whole lot easier for me now, than it would have been as a financially-struggling 20-something who never wanted to be home.
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Lendarios
Trump's Staff
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It is not.
Sorry to hear that.
I second Soygen, kids with current wife or walk away and have them with someone else.
Kiroy
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Hosix
All labs matter!
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Kriptini
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Used this line on a third date last night and it landed really well. She seemed pretty adamantly agreed so I'm pretty sure she wasn't just saying it so I would like her.
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You're talking about kids on a third date?
Damn. Life is different from when I was dating.
Damn. Life is different from when I was dating.
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Kriptini
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Weeks, months, doesn't matter, that would be time better spent getting to know someone that at least has the same values as you.
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Khane
Got something right about marriage
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That's just the way dating is these days. With so many options people get down to what they really want in much earlier conversations. Wanting kids is a pretty big aspect of life, so it's better to talk about it early and figure out if you're on the same page. That way you're not in a situation 10 months in where you've become attached and start messing with your own mind wondering if this person you've grown to love will ever change their mind on such a fundamental difference in values. Pretending you can change their mind is how you find yourself in a bad relationship full of resentment and frustration years down the road.
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Friend of mine is 10 years married and for some reason never nailed down that his wife didn't want kids. She's 40 and doing IVF mostly because he's pushing for a family. She'd make a terrible mom, which she knows and is why she didn't want kids in the first place. The future is going to be a challenge for them.
Ask the important questions early.
Soygen
The Dirty Dozen For the Price of One
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Fifey
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Only time I'd mention kids on the third date is when we talk about if she's on BC or pro choice.
Had some lady on the first date trying to slip a finger in this week, made me think of this thread.
Grabbits having a midlife crisis, once he cheats on his wife with some crazy 22 year old gender fluid it'll get real good.
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The_Black_Log Foler
Stock Pals Senior Vice President
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Should be talking about butt play and whether or not she likes eating ass.
These are the foundations great relationships are built upon. It is known.
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The_Black_Log Foler
Stock Pals Senior Vice President
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Atta boy! Did you let her stick it in? Did you think about your Bros in this thread as she was tickling your cornhole?
We have a butt play conversion people!
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