Marriage and the Power of Divorce

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I know a guy who gave the same woman 2 different houses.

Divorced his first wife, and she got the house. Remarried her a few years later, divorced her again and she got the 2nd house.

I wonder if he posts here...
Strangest divorce I am aware of, woman wanted divorce. Had two huge houses and luxury cars and all that stuff. Decided she didn't want to take part in white male patriarchy and left it all. Didn't take any money with her. Lives in a small apartment now.
 

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Hey thanks for asking.

All is well. My only complaint if any is I’d like to see her more often, but she works 60-72 hours a week, and understandably needs some time to herself, or sometimes she just wants to see her son by themselves. But we’re making it work pretty decently. She comes over to sleep a couple of nights a week since she works near me twice a week, she gets off at 9 pm. Then we go for a walk in the day a couple times a week. About every two Saturdays we spend the entire day / night together, and sometimes Mondays. She is “working on” working less and trying to slide into a similar but less strenuous job. So it is hard to plan things sometimes. I’d like to go on a little vacation with her at some point when possible.

Other than that, no red flags. She still buys me random stuff constantly. Food, household items, etc. Her English has noticeably improved as she’s been working in study when she can. She’s a lot of fun to be around in general. Just a happy, positive person. She’s really, really cute too. Tall, gorgeous face. Every time I see her, even months later, in my head I think damn she’s attractive.

Women I’ve dated, I mean I’ve always been attracted to them, because what’s a relationship without physical attraction. But this lady, I’m like fuck yeah I want to show this off! I’ve got I would say an unusual amount of “oh she’s really pretty” comments from friends.

So it’s going good.

ummm

Are you sure you're her only dude? If the genders were reversed your girlfriends would be telling you that you're the side chick.

None of that wth me, I was talked into selling my MTG collection by wife #1 that today woulda been valued at over $1,000,000.

Super glad I did that. I don't ever think about it. At all. ......ever.

Better than what happened to my wife's MTG collection. The son of the dude she used to live with burned the house down and they had no insurance. The dude let his kid run wild and probably should have had him medicated. She similarly never thinks about them.
 
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Izo

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I always just set up first dates at bars that have good food. Get a drink, if there's no chemistry, vamos. If there is get another drink or two and if you're still having a good time and get hungry ask for a menu.
How come you're still single then?
 
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Kirun

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Strangest divorce I am aware of, woman wanted divorce. Had two huge houses and luxury cars and all that stuff. Decided she didn't want to take part in white male patriarchy and left it all. Didn't take any money with her. Lives in a small apartment now.
Got her number?
 

Cad

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How come you're still single then?
It’s definitely something of a conundrum - people who date a lot are undoubtedly better at dating and the ins and outs of all the things people do when casually dating or initially dating. I would be completely lost in this arena.

However, do you take dating advice from people who have been dating 20 years (not directed at you Khane - just an example) or from people who were able to date a while and then have a successful LTR/marriage? The married people may be idiots as far as dating games go, but we know how to make relationships work.
 
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It’s definitely something of a conundrum - people who date a lot are undoubtedly better at dating and the ins and outs of all the things people do when casually dating or initially dating. I would be completely lost in this arena.

However, do you take dating advice from people who have been dating 20 years (not directed at you Khane - just an example) or from people who were able to date a while and then have a successful LTR/marriage? The married people may be idiots as far as dating games go, but we know how to make relationships work.
Reasonable. I guess it goes towards ones goal, endgame. Some, presumably, wants to date/STR, different from most of us here, I guess. What do you think, Khane Khane - can you sum it up, your pov?
 

fris

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The only thing that sucks is I don't think I'll ever be able to give my GF what she wants (getting married) because of how fucked up laws and relationships are. I was lucky I managed to keep my house and my pension. I am sure as fuck not rolling the dice on anything I can control again.
this is my current prob. i got out of my 1st marriage pretty even. 50/50 custody, we each kept our own 401ks, i kept the house and refinanced, gave her half the equity it was valued at the time. i'm not dating a girl for about 8 months and i can hear the click ticking. no kids, but i can tell she'll wants to get married again soon-ish. she's been married twice, technically still married to her 2nd now. dropping hints that family are suggesting she buy a house w/ me. i told her i could see myself not marrying again until my youngest is 18, he's 9 now. i've meet her daughter, 10, but i'm not ready to introduce her to my 2 boys.

why can't i meet a mostly sane, reasonably well off financially woman w/ decent tits that likes to give head and not needing to see me every day for the rest of our lives?
 
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Cad

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why can't i meet a mostly sane, reasonably well off financially woman w/ decent tits that likes to give head and not needing to see me every day for the rest of our lives?
Have you looked into escorts? If you just want someone with nice tits and gives good head that doesn't bother you, sounds right up your alley. No woman that I've ever heard of wants to provide sex without intimacy or sharing a life, at least not for long.
 
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fris

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Obvious exaggeration, but there's seems to be a very high degree of "let's lock this down" in the 40-sometgings I've dated
 

Kirun

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However, do you take dating advice from people who have been dating 20 years (not directed at you Khane - just an example) or from people who were able to date a while and then have a successful LTR/marriage? The married people may be idiots as far as dating games go, but we know how to make relationships work.
Yeah, all the dudes in this thread seem to have very happy, very fulfilling marriages that currently aren't in trouble or ever ended poorly. DEFINITELY take advice from them...
 

Captain Suave

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Yeah, all the dudes in this thread seem to have very happy, very fulfilling marriages that currently aren't in trouble or ever ended poorly. DEFINITELY take advice from them...
Those of us who are happy aren't here complaining because we're too busy enjoying our lives. Personally, I've been with my wife 17 years and it's better now than when we started. I would rather gouge out my eyes with a spoon than go back to dating.
 
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Kirun

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Those of us who are happy aren't here complaining because we're too busy enjoying our lives. Personally, I've been with my wife 17 years and it's better now than when we started. I would rather gouge out my eyes with a spoon than go back to dating.
Nobody said happy marriages don't exist. But a bunch of EQ nerds who married their high-school sweethearts in an age before she had constant, easy access to better dick has to be taken with a grain of salt. Especially with divorce, marriage satisfaction, etc. statistics being what they are. Your anecdotes aren't really indicative of the overall "relationship" picture.
 

Captain Suave

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Nobody said happy marriages don't exist. But a bunch of EQ nerds who married their high-school sweet hearts in an age before she had constant, easy access to better dick has to be taken with a grain of salt. Especially with divorce, marriage satisfaction, etc. statistics being what they are. Your anecdotes aren't really indicative of the overall "relationship" picture.

The point is there's huge selection bias in this thread. Posting about lack of drama isn't a thing, this counter example excepted. As far as current statistics, I'm not sure they reveal anything much beyond older statistics being really bad. Shitty relationships are not new. (Plus divorce rates are down significantly in the last decade.)
 

Khane

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Marriage and Divorce rates seem to move together.


It's interesting how conversations tend to always move towards this "us vs them" dynamic in this thread.

If you removed all the single and divorced people in this thread I have a sneaking suspicion the thread would still devolve into "I'm doing marriage right and you're doing it like a mouthbreather" rhetoric. Full of stories about "date nights" and "stay at home moms" and "butt plugs".
 
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Marriage and Divorce rates seem to move together.


It's interesting how conversations tend to always move towards this "us vs them" dynamic in this thread.

If you removed all the single and divorced people in this thread I have a sneaking suspicion the thread would still devolve into "I'm doing marriage right and you're doing it like a mouthbreather" rhetoric. Full of stories about "date nights" and "stay at home moms" and "butt plugs".
Tell me more about the butt plugs...
 
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I think I've found one thing in my marriage that may cause a problem later. I am a pretty agreeable person in general and willing to compromise on just about everything as I am able to roll with the punches and adjust to most things. On my woman's side she is seemingly unable to compromise to the extent that I don't even bother. I just do whatever without her input entirely because she won't even entertain the notion of compromise in most cases. Much to my frustration.

I am not exaggerating here when I say she refuses 100% of anything. Doesn't matter what it is. She refuses outright as a first response and sometimes comes around to agreeing (if she does at all) hours or days later. It's completely stupid.

Her response is that I must keep asking until she decides to not refuse. Which is really really stupid and I am not doing that.

Not really sure how to get her to realize how unreasonable and stupid this perspective of her's is. But it's whatever for now and I deal with it.
 
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