Marriage and the Power of Divorce

Deathwing said:

Sometimes post partum can be hard to put into words, if it is that. You're being a bit too hard on her.

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I don't know how I'm being hard on her. Venting here? Sure. But it's not like im walking around the house bemoaning about my lack of getting laid. If anything I act supportive about it

Deathwing said:

Sometimes post partum can be hard to put into words, if it is that. You're being a bit too hard on her.

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To be fair, Noodle is probably just using this forum as a way to vent

Deathwing said:

No one here sees how you're acting at home, just keep that in mind.

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...Are you fucking sure about that?

P Picasso3

Can't see anything because of the kitchen table

Picasso3 said:

Can't see anything because of the kitchen table

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P Picasso3 in that mess on the table, confirmed.

I'd prefer your wife man. I'm having anxiety about this shit.

The worst is when she invites people over. Even if I don't know or like them I get anxiety because of how it looks. I'll do anything in my power to not be home.

Ok the paper plates things and sweeping would be mildly insulting if I were over someone's house. As equally insulting as brushing aside random shit on a table.for them to have a place

LulzSect said:

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Thankfully my wife is pretty appreciative of being allowed to be a full time stay at home mom. I'm glad she's raising our kids. I just wish she'd clean shit up. I'm not super high income but I'd guess my salary is above average for my area

It's not even trash, just clutter as you saw

If only it was "just clean shit up" for me. I mean that would be lovely, but there is so much stuff my husband doesn't even see that needs to get done. If it's on a list maybe sometimes he'll do some but there is so much shit I can't put on a list. Like today I did a ton of laundry and noticed my kids drawers were getting full, so I sorted through them, donated a bunch, tossed other stuff in the garbage. Our dog was getting really matted so I spent half an hour brushing her out and cutting out the mats. Then I called around to get estimates for a new fence and emailed middle daughter's teacher. None of that is shit I can put on a list, but it's just stuff that needs to get done.

I mean I don't blame him - I've been the one managing the house for ten years so I know the transition is going to take a bit. But like... I'm exhausted. I'd be totally fine doing all this shit if he was picking up more of the other stuff.

Is there some sort of weird rule in your house about what you can and can't write down on a piece of paper?

Because I'm pretty sure you just gave us all a list of what you can't put on a list.

But none of that is stuff I knew I needed to do until it popped up. Well some of it was, like the fence shit. But the rest is just stuff I come across while doing other stuff. Does that make sense? It's that I think that way - I'll see something that needs to be done that may not have been obvious. And like I said, I'm not blaming him for that. He's never thought that way about household stuff. Maybe I need to just not do it and put it on a list for a later date. I don't know.

Ahh yes. Housework. The quantum mechanics of the stay at home mom.

I wouldn't bother trying to teach him, it's hopeless.

Ho boy.

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I haven't been stay a stay at home mom for years though I've continued to do it while working full time for the last several years. We've had some major changes recently though and we're dividing it now. Or trying to. It's just a tough transition.