Marriage and the Power of Divorce

fris said:

no way could we wait ... 8 years before we lived with each other. I don't know if she's good w/ 2.5, and that's assuming both oldest actually move out after high school. i'm pushing mine to college, her oldest doesn't want to.

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I'm probably the worst person on earth to give any advice about kids, so listen to everybody else instead, but imo, the oldest ones probably have their minds on everything except what's happening at home. They've got one foot and 10 brains out the door already (or if they don't, you've got other problems... go teach her oldest to weld or something). And the younger ones could probably benefit from having both a mom/dad living together in a healthy relationship.

Also, are the exes married yet? If not, bet on them sowing some discontent with the kids whenever possible. Not that that should change your plans, but you might be able to mitigate some of it if you're expecting it.

no, neither x is married. I bring my 2 to see my parents every other week so they can see 'happily ever after'. my parents are coming up on 55 years, both my grand parents were close to 60 before one on each side died.

her oldest has some weird goals, that his father either supports or is the model of. i plan to encourage him in ways I htink are best. but the kid has no intention of going to college, despite having a free ride due to his father's time in the army.