Mist Mostly Mightily Blames Other People or MMMBOP for short.
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Kiroy
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So what. If you have this need to take care of your mother you're doing a shit job not helping her to discharge the debts she can no longer pay, to save a house she can't afford. If you insist on wallowing in your misery forever, help her discharge, get her a little apartment and give her a few bucks a month extra on top of what she already gets from all of us.
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kegkilla
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her mom might be a retard but I doubt she's dumb enough to believe that Mist could have a career as a high end escort.
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trex
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Yeah. And sometimes people spend their lives helping fam, hanging with fam and donating to fam because fam is fam. It makes them miserable and the other side of the family is obviously already miserable and will never not be miserable. Just because your family's life sucks does not mean yours needs to also suck "just because they're family".
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Harshaw
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That is why I said sometimes. I dunno, maybe it's just how I was raised and it part being my Filipino heritage. It's one of those things where we take care of family as much as we can, even to making it harder on ourselves. My grandmother has dementia and I've already given up the last 13 years of my life to taking care of her. Does it suck for me in a lot of aspects? Yes... but it's worth it to make her comfortable.
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yerm
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Taking care of a grandmother with dementia sounds terrible for both of you. Just get her to a decent facility. Are you a skilled LTC professional? No? Well then!
As for the dratini nest, glad I got my dragonite before the DNC. And a baller fucking t-rex shotglass from the museum of natural history. Mist is missing the fun...
As for the dratini nest, glad I got my dragonite before the DNC. And a baller fucking t-rex shotglass from the museum of natural history. Mist is missing the fun...
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Harshaw
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We aren't at that phase yet. We have been actually pretty lucky with her so far. It's mainly that her memory is fucked. She can't cook for herself, or drive, do bills, or anything like that. She's still functional enough to take her out to eat, and luckily she really likes word puzzles and she does them for hours everyday.
Also it's been 13 years but the first 5 was me helping her take care of my grandfather who was dealing with liver failure/dialysis before he passed away. Her slipping away mentally didn't really start til that happened.
Also it's been 13 years but the first 5 was me helping her take care of my grandfather who was dealing with liver failure/dialysis before he passed away. Her slipping away mentally didn't really start til that happened.
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radditsu
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Mist
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I don't think I'm dumb and I'm only a bitch sometimes, but I definitely truly suck at life.
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Mist
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I'm not sure how that produce an objectively better result, so what is your point?
I mean, if you hypothetically dulled the parts of my brain that put value on other people, and I already don't value myself, in what way would the result net anything for anyone?
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Mist
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A lifetime of being conditioned to have no sense of self-worth.
Literally no concept of what self-worth would even feel like, so it's not even something I could cultivate if I wanted to.
Objectively, I know that I am intelligent, at least statistically speaking, on paper. People tell me that I'm funny, insightful, well, when I'm not wallowing in self-pity. And yet I feel that no matter what qualities I possess, I feel they have no value, because I have no value.
It's just been a really, really long time since I had anyone in my life that made me feel like I had value, made me feel like I was even a real person. And I don't even know where to find someone like that, or if I would even be able to accept it if I did.
Literally no concept of what self-worth would even feel like, so it's not even something I could cultivate if I wanted to.
Objectively, I know that I am intelligent, at least statistically speaking, on paper. People tell me that I'm funny, insightful, well, when I'm not wallowing in self-pity. And yet I feel that no matter what qualities I possess, I feel they have no value, because I have no value.
It's just been a really, really long time since I had anyone in my life that made me feel like I had value, made me feel like I was even a real person. And I don't even know where to find someone like that, or if I would even be able to accept it if I did.
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