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Hatorade
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Not easy sharing this information and this is my daughter. Remember where you are.
If we ever meet up in person first beer is on me. In fact we doing a gathering soon here in Houston. If you around in a couple weeks hit me up would love to talk more about in person.
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Gavinmad
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so you're one bad day from burying him in a shallow grave? lol
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Maybe deep down she’s just not comfortable talking to her dad about sex and thought giving you those answers would make the conversation never occur again.
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Izo
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moonarchia
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Hatorade
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Nah, it started because she came to me and then I said well this will get awkward but I am down to discuss if you are. That is always how it goes, rarely she says nevermind I will talk to mom but when we start talking after that it is candid.
Years ago only thing I wasn’t sure of was pads and tampons, she didn’t like tampons and I wasn’t sure where to go from there(wife took over). 3 months ago mid gaming session she out of nowhere said she finally found a tampon that worked and was comfortable, I asked oh yeah what brand? She told me and we moved on. So yeah sex and all that is hardly taboo.
Hateyou
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Yeah all families are different. My friend and his daughter have a very high trust relationship and they have conversations like this. She goes to mom for the detailed sexual stuff like what her and her husband are doing but having general sex conversations with dad is like any other conversation. I know other families where the dad and daughter pretend like sex isn’t a thing that exists and never talk about it. I’d rather have the open conversation relationship, even if I felt awkward talking about it.
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Youngest has autism as I've mentioned a few times. He really struggles to make friends. He's only had 1 ever, and she dropped him when he started having issues at school (not blaming her, it's a lot for a 6 year old to deal with) and acting out.
Last year I went as a chaperone on his field trip and none of the kids interacted with him at all. I felt super depressed about it. My other son has a core group of 3 best friends and while they always are real good about including him, I can tell it's not the same.
He went to the school dance last year and told us he didn't want to dance because he had no friends and thought people would make fun of him. That's heavy to hear from such a young kid.
School started this week and the kids had to write a letter to the teacher explaining their summer and what they wanted to achieve this year. His of course said "I want to make at least 1 friend." It's really heartbreaking because as a parent there isn't much you can do here.
Today he came home super excited telling us he had big news. The big news was a kid in class asked him if he'd be his friend. Had to keep my mind away from thinking about the girl that just dropped him and just to be happy about the victory today.
Parenting is tough
Last year I went as a chaperone on his field trip and none of the kids interacted with him at all. I felt super depressed about it. My other son has a core group of 3 best friends and while they always are real good about including him, I can tell it's not the same.
He went to the school dance last year and told us he didn't want to dance because he had no friends and thought people would make fun of him. That's heavy to hear from such a young kid.
School started this week and the kids had to write a letter to the teacher explaining their summer and what they wanted to achieve this year. His of course said "I want to make at least 1 friend." It's really heartbreaking because as a parent there isn't much you can do here.
Today he came home super excited telling us he had big news. The big news was a kid in class asked him if he'd be his friend. Had to keep my mind away from thinking about the girl that just dropped him and just to be happy about the victory today.
Parenting is tough
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fred sanford
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As adults we can handle most social issues and not care, but man when your kid is having those kinds of problems it's tough. My son (12) has gone through phases of changing friend groups, but he's always had one best friend, and they've stuck together. The group/clic changes were hard for him because he's a very friendly kid and just wants to be friends with everybody. My daughter (9) on the other hand is just ramping up. She has school friends but doesn't have friends that she hangs with outside of school. My kids go to a private school in our downtown area so all of my kid's school friends are spread out around town. We've been getting her more in contact with her school friends outside of school but it's one of those situations where my wife and I don't click with the parents so it's not as easy to get together. Girls at her age are very social and she's really wanting to hang with other girls outside of school. Thankfully she's at an age now where we're ok with dropping her off to hang at another kid's house without mom or me being there for an awkward sit with the other parents.
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moonarchia
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Have you given him any personality type tests, or done some for him? Just curious, because a lot of autists are INTJ/INTP which can help you think of ways to help him work on ways to combat some of the things that cause communication barriers with others.
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Have you played chess with him? My kid doesn’t have autism but he’s really high ability and into chess. We go to chess camps and meetups that have a bunch of highly intelligent kids, some which I can tell are autistic. However when they have a shared interest like chess and are with a bunch of intelligent kids they kind of fit in together. Worth a shot if there’s one around you.
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Noodleface
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Not chess but he's in a few social skills groups. He plays with kids there, but none that he'd call a friend.
It's funny because he's a grumpy old man and tells us all the time board games are boring as shit and he hates them.
In terms of personality tests.. eh. He's in ABA and counseling and stuff. It isn't his personality that I think is the problem, but when he has outbursts I think it scares kids away. He sees red and immediately goes ape shit. He's 8 mind you, so other kids aren't equipped to handle this.
One good thing is last year he got a 1:1 paraprofessional at school that works with him everyday and that has helped. The biggest benefit is if you catch him getting worked up early you can usually deflect the behavior and talk him off the ledge. I'm hoping we see more benefits from that this year.
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moonarchia
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The personality types are descriptors and common behaviors/thoughts, not about an individual's unique personality. Not sure how accurate they would be for 8, but they are quite useful as an adult.