I'm sure it varies by state but he needs to do this shit before any divorce proceedings take place. If he does it in the middle of it all, yeah shit's going to get turned around on him. There's no reason he can't start putting his paychecks in a separate account right now. Maybe Cad can elucidate.
A paternity test in this scenario is perfectly reasonable. It's also perfectly reasonable to not get one. Neither course of action is crazy.
Agreed, it should be done before any divorce proceedings. Valos referred to a post-nupital agreement. That is probably the proper legal term. It doesn't mean you are definitely getting a divorce or even a separation. But it is a legal agreement that clarifies handling of finances and such going forward. Separating income could easily be part of that.
The Ancient lives by The Zelda Boss RuleT. He must be cheated on 3 times before checking paternity.
Look, I am not one to side with the Aspies on stuff like this, but one thing that is certainly often true is that cheaters always cheat again. In fact, its entirely plausible that she did so discretely before and (as people often do) started getting careless about covering her tracks. This is true of BOTH men and women. They have been together 15 years and they are likely going to be dividing up a lot of shared relationships. The fact that he made her confess to her own parents what she did suggests that the propaganda war is already going. We know how people when they get caught (both genders) rationalize it to acquaintances by talking shit about the person they cheated on, because they don't want to admit that they were weak/untrustworthy. Asking for this is completely reasonable and lays certain questions to rest. And if it really isn't his? Then he just made it really hard for her to garner sympathy from any mutual acquaintances when things start to get ugly. If I were in his situation, I would assume nothing at this point. He has to build trust back up from the foundation, brick by brick, if he even wants to move on with his life, let alone repair things with his wife.
this is some profound shit.
well the marriage counselor agrees with me hurr durr obvious perspectives are obvious
I'm gonna neg you if you don't join us in calling for a paternity test. Swear to god, a neg. Don't push me.
I will jerk off to Left Tilda a second time if you don't join me, The Ancient and the marriage counselor. Don't test me buddy!
Wat? Left Tilda was fine, even if it took a pound of makeup to accomplish. Did you mean Right Tilda?
Yeah because the bitch who stepped out with a co-worker repeatedly after 15 years of marriage is totally not the cause of any trust issues, nor should be held to a higher scrutiny when trying to fix the relationship (if its even possible). /sarcasm
Nope Left, my dick might be orange after but it would be so worth
