No, I was never even encouraged in the way you claim or she claims. The sexy women available to be shot at were always a bad thing to shoot at, and quite obviously so. It was never "maybe if I just eliminate her this will be all good". it was always "is there anything relevant in here? (brain tunes out 5 irrelevant hot chicks) nope. moving on."
No, because a bottle is shootable does not mean the game encourages me to shoot it. It's likely shootable only as a "hey cool bit of detail there" when you miss a person and hit a bottle. Or because people actually do shoot at bottles IRL for fun (not for real practice unless you have a shit ton of bottles because who goes through bottles that fast?, has a pile of intact ones?, and is willing to destroy their retarded bottle collection with bullets?). The same "what if you missed?" type of thing can be applied to women in hitman or other non-essential characters. What if I shot at them and they didn't actually get shot? Well that's an easy way to show they're extras and unimportant. All actors must be interactable to the player so you can't spoof relevance through indiscriminate violence.
Attention to detail and the interactivity of ancillary characters/objects has been a big push with the improvement in physics engines and frustration of players seeing the edge of the matrix too easily. So the design of games has improved to further muddy up the reality of things by making everything more interactive. Buildings you can walk into, people who will push you back when you push them, etc. It pulls you into the world. Cherry picking that because women exist and can be shot that the game encourages you to shoot them is cherry picking. They're not special. They became more interactive along with everything else. It's also sexist. What if the women are important? There are more men that aren't important that can be shot, but they don't matter? Are they somehow less capable of being vulnerable because they're men? Are the women less capable of being dangerous and central to the plot? Sexist. Sexist. Bitch gives no fucks about men being killed. She is advocating special treatment. And considering her type aren't the audience for Hitman, her input is not relevant to that audience, only to people that are already prejudiced against a game like Hitman. She's preaching a safe message to her people that these other people are bad people because they don't put women on a pedestal. It's a contradiction, and it's moronic to agree, and more so to defend it. I don't even like Hitman, but you could at least criticize it for its bad gameplay rather than claim it promotes misogyny.
"who said that shit?"
Dave Grossman among others. I wanted to raugh, but I was just too annoyed. In just the 20th century we had pulp fiction, comic books, alcohol, reefer (and other drugs), music, movies, videogames, etc. being the reason bad people do bad things. The devil's work blah blah blah. Moralist authoritarians are the same generation after generation. They are ignorant and preach to their ignorant choirs about how everybody unlike them is that way because of X, so we must make sure NO ONE can have X. Shit be tarded. We live in the most musical, cinematic, gamer period of human existence, and violence has never been lower. Hmmmmmm.