Look, I know the answer is "get out" - I moved to California over ten years ago to get away from my family. According to my therapist, my sanity was kept in a black box of sorts (she had a long reason, but I'll spare you the shenanigans). I went to therapy because I was afraid I'd turn crazy like him, like it would happen sooner or later. To this day I'm thankful I was left on my own, because I'm pretty sure it saved my life. What they did for him didn't help him, it made him worse.
A few things --
He was diagnosed with Schizoaffective Disorder and Bi-polar Disorder about 12-13 years ago and did do fairly well on medication. I know some of the reasons why he is fucked up in the head, as well as why he has so much anger towards me. None of that matters, however, because I know he will never change because he doesn't want to, and he sees nothing wrong with how he is. He seems to feel entitled to everything.
I'm doing the best I can given the circumstances. It costs money to do stuff. I can't ask someone to waive a down payment because my brother is a raging lunatic (that would be awesome though). Anytime he shows signs of anger, we get out before it gets bad. I've had no choice several times and had to get us a hotel to be safe. My son has been staying in my room with me, and stays with his friends on the weekends.
The police here are completely worthless, and I now realize why so many women and men in abusive relationships end up dead. They don't appear to want to do anything unless/until someone has been injured. Even my son called the cops, and told the cop that he was going to stab my brother if he came after me again. The cop acted as if it were no big deal that this little boy told him he would murder this guy if he had to. I've called every place you can think of to get help getting him out, and no-one can get him out and keep him out, which has been the main problem. I knew if I called the cops and they didn't arrest him, it would be even worse.
Last week my brother cried and begged for a last chance. Told me he didn't mean what he said, that I shouldn't be afraid of him, he wouldn't hurt me, blah blah. He's been trying to control his anger but he can't. It's only been somewhat ok the past week because he has drugs from the money he stole from me.
To clarify, I have NOT been caring for him for ten years. I cut him out of my life when I left. He called numerous times for money. The last time he said he was in a hotel and starving. He wanted me to wire him money. I sent a pizza and soda to the hotel instead (I will not let him starve), and he was furious. I knew he wasn't hungry, and wanted drug money. He called me a few times from jail, sent a couple of letters, and that is the extent of our relationship after I moved away. I was blindsided when I moved back. Mom met a new guy, and this dude has no clue about her past, her son, and all in between. She abandoned her old life (dumped it on me), and moved in with this dude.
I drove for three days, and was thrilled to finally get here, take a bath, lay down in a bed and sleep. I showed up to about 15 people, 10 of them nodding off from heroin use. One girl was out cold with a mouth full of cheetos, standing up in the middle of the room. It's crazy what these heroin people do, they're all like fucking flamingos. He had basically turned this home into a party house. I changed that fast, and no-one is allowed to come here - ever.
I told my brother he had 2 weeks to find a job or he's going to be homeless because I talked to mom and I think the best thing to do is to just sell the house. He needs to find somewhere to live, and he will not be living with me.
I do feel sad for him. I feel so guilty when he cries. The thought of him being homeless, especially in the winter, really upsets me. I know this is his fault, he has made these choices on his own to put himself in this position. Mom thinks the fix to it all is me taking him to get welfare insurance (it has a name but I forgot what it is), and he gets therapy. Therapy won't fix him. He needs to be admitted somewhere for a long time and put on really strong psycho-people medication.
I'm doing the best I can to get out as fast as possible. That's all that I can do.
OH, I called Indiana. They said they will arrest him...if he's ever in Indiana.
