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Sheriff Cad

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I’m not sure if I’m trying to protect my feelings or his. I feel like I have the weird opposite problem in this situation where I’m scared I’m going to stop loving the person instead of the other way around and I’m scared of the hurt that will give them. I had a similar episode to this early on in my relationship with my ex-husband, where I had a night I sat awake in bed inconsolable and in a shitload of pain, wondering “what if I don’t actually like him?” and the idea that I didn’t made me want to puke. That’s the same fear and gut feeling I’m having now, just also enhanced because those initial worries about my ex were correct.
Thats the same thing in different clothing - you're saying you're protecting his feelings, but thats not your job. Certainly not at this stage of a relationship. You're using that as an out so you don't have to take the risk and put yourself out there. He's a grown man, he can put his feelings out there if he wants to. And so can you!

Don't want to be too forceful with how I say it, but DO IT ! :)
 

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Thats the same thing in different clothing - you're saying you're protecting his feelings, but thats not your job. Certainly not at this stage of a relationship. You're using that as an out so you don't have to take the risk and put yourself out there. He's a grown man, he can put his feelings out there if he wants to. And so can you!

Don't want to be too forceful with how I say it, but DO IT ! :)
Doing like my wife does on many subjects, anxiety takes hold then goes looking for every possible reason to self sabotage.
 

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Doing like my wife does on many subjects, anxiety takes hold then goes looking for every possible reason to self sabotage.
Believe me, if I could swap out woman brain for literally anything else, I would. It is fucking torture.
 
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I get way more chicks hitting on me in my 50s than I ever did in my 20s and 30s. Daddy issues is very real.

My twice divorced friend is having a fucking field day right now and I'm watching from the sidelines.
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I'm going to give a lighter update to post-divorce dating.

I recently realized that every girl I have gone on even a single date with was a C-cup or larger. It has been glorious.
 

Sheriff Cad

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I get way more chicks hitting on me in my 50s than I ever did in my 20s and 30s. Daddy issues is very real.

My twice divorced friend is having a fucking field day right now and I'm watching from the sidelines.
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I get more chicks blatantly looking at me/trying to talk to me even when my wife and kids are with me now that I'm almost 50 than I did when I was younger. It makes the whole "gross old men were looking at me" thing chicks say all the time seem to be serious projection. Y'all are the ones looking at us, hoes.
 

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Doing like my wife does on many subjects, anxiety takes hold then goes looking for every possible reason to self sabotage.

That's just what I was thinking and there's only one way to handle it.

Believe me, if I could swap out woman brain for literally anything else, I would. It is fucking torture.
PM me his info. I'll fix it. Don't click the spoilers if you are koushirou. I said don't click, you can't handle the plan. I'll call him and tell him to just buy her a fucking ticket to NY already
 

Koushirou

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That's just what I was thinking and there's only one way to handle it.


PM me his info. I'll fix it. Don't click the spoilers if you are koushirou. I said don't click, you can't handle the plan. I'll call him and tell him to just buy her a fucking ticket to NY already
Just, please, don’t show him my Politics post history…
 
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TJT

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Have talked with my parents, my brother, my cousins. Parents’ first thought was yeah, go try and stay with him for a bit. Brother’s first thought was why do I feel like I need to end it? Cousins all said to just try because why not?

There are times when we hang out online and I think I just feel like doing something else but I feel like I need to stay. Lots of times where I feel like I just need space. Lots of times when I just want to make decisions without having to consider someone else’s opinions or feelings along with it. There’s a big part of me that just wants freedom, I guess? And I don’t think I can get that if I’m committed to someone. Are those just normal feelings inside relationships, too? I honestly feel like I don’t even know what a real one is or even what actual love is. Feel like I’m an idiot teenager who just has no clue about anything. I don’t know how any of this actually works. It’s just a constant back and forth of wanting to be with him and wanting to run away.

I worry that what if it is an issue of affection? Christ that would fucking break him if I figured out I just wasn’t that into him, and he was just convenient. I feel like I only want him around when I need him. Is that normal?

I'd say don't spend all this time waxing philosophical. Go for it. Simple as.