Dating

OU Ariakas · 2026-04-30T09:42:22-0400

ShakyJake said:
Popping back into this thread instantly reminded me why dating isn’t worth the effort. Good grief.

You’ve only been divorced for a year. Why are you already rushing to date someone new? Take some time to enjoy being on your own first.

If you follow the Marriage/Divorce thread you would know that my situation was different and the idea of spending time with women who wanted to be around me is something that had been missing for a long time. Also, how the fuck do you know what I am or am not enjoying? I have already had plenty of time on my own over the last year even while dating (and enjoying that quite a bit). Fuck, I am already planning a degenerate gaming session of POE2 league start instead of almost guaranteed romance at the end of May.

ShakyJake · 2026-04-30T11:39:45-0400

OU Ariakas said:
If you follow the Marriage/Divorce thread you would know that my situation was different and the idea of spending time with women who wanted to be around me is something that had been missing for a long time. Also, how the fuck do you know what I am or am not enjoying? I have already had plenty of time on my own over the last year even while dating (and enjoying that quite a bit). Fuck, I am already planning a degenerate gaming session of POE2 league start instead of almost guaranteed romance at the end of May.

Yeah, you're right, my apologies.. Just had triggering visions of the typical needy individual that HAS to be with someone constantly.

Rajaah · 2026-04-30T20:35:27-0400

TJT said:
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......6 men?

LOL what quasi-virginal women has this guy been dating?

Rajaah · 2026-04-30T20:36:24-0400

Cad said:
My wife's parents initially refused to meet me when we were first going out, but after they realized it wasn't a short term thing, they were cool with me. We have 4 in-laws, I'm the only white one, and I'm their favorite in-law.

Your initial read is correct but once they open up to you they treat you like authentic family.

Are her parents Jewish?

I think having money might also be a requirement. Or at least being on the path to having it.

Rajaah · 2026-04-30T21:00:18-0400

ShakyJake said:
Popping back into this thread instantly reminded me why dating isn’t worth the effort. Good grief.

You’ve only been divorced for a year. Why are you already rushing to date someone new? Take some time to enjoy being on your own first.

Not sure who you're talking to, but I concur, a lot of folks here need to get better at being alone for a little while. Jesus H. No need to spaz out that you've been single for six months. I've had plenty of year+ single phases where I made zero effort to meet anyone and been fine, I'm always busy.

Though it's true that we have a finite amount of time in the world and I suppose I get that some folks need to be with someone else to feel like they aren't wasting it.

Khane · 2026-04-30T21:05:45-0400

Guy stays single for a year, which is a long time, and he gets grief about "rushing back in".

I suspect you guys spend more time at your local hobby shop than you do in the shower.

ShakyJake · 2026-04-30T21:46:44-0400

Rajaah said:
Though it's true that we have a finite amount of time in the world and I suppose I get that some folks need to be with someone else to feel like they aren't wasting it.

Something I need to realize is most people are (very) different from me. Last relationship I had was over 20 years ago and quite frankly have zero desire to look for or be with anyone at this stage. I recognize later in life might become rough, but the sacrifice I'd make inviting someone into my life isn't something I want to pursue.

Cutlery · 2026-04-30T22:14:21-0400

ShakyJake said:
Something I need to realize is most people are (very) different from me. Last relationship I had was over 20 years ago and quite frankly have zero desire to look for or be with anyone at this stage. I recognize later in life might become rough, but the sacrifice I'd make inviting someone into my life isn't something I want to pursue.

Sorry you feel like that, man.

I will tell you this - they're not all the same, as much as it may seem like that sometimes.

Cad · 2026-04-30T23:06:28-0400

Rajaah said:
Are her parents Jewish?

I think having money might also be a requirement. Or at least being on the path to having it.

No, asian - and both they and my wife demanded I graduate college first, so yea there's some of that too.

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