Depression
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Izo
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Do you buy it off the streets or presciption? Which racemic if the latter? Enantiomers matter greatly in ketamine. Dose?
I use it professionally for pain relief, low dose, and also induction for tubing. Never done it myself
Punko
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I buy it from a website from a dutch company that is officially registered, you can pay through normal bank transfer.
They state that it is for research only, not for consumption, also its all designer drugs so they aren't illegal until legislation catches up. They deliver it in the form of crystals.
0.5 grams sniffing over a few hours puts me extremely close to the K-hole, but aware enough to stay in the house.
I binged on it for like 72 hours when Elden ring came out and had the best trip ever. I literally thought I was in the game. Incredible experience,, but never aiming to repeat it.
Drinking enough water while doing it prevents all kinds of hangover. When you finally go to bed it feels like heaven.
They state that it is for research only, not for consumption, also its all designer drugs so they aren't illegal until legislation catches up. They deliver it in the form of crystals.
0.5 grams sniffing over a few hours puts me extremely close to the K-hole, but aware enough to stay in the house.
I binged on it for like 72 hours when Elden ring came out and had the best trip ever. I literally thought I was in the game. Incredible experience,, but never aiming to repeat it.
Drinking enough water while doing it prevents all kinds of hangover. When you finally go to bed it feels like heaven.
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Control
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Koushirou
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Parents are up again this weekend. Had another long talk with them. Seems pretty much a given now that I’ll be moving in with them once the divorce is settled. I feel like a colossal failure. I often think to myself if it would have been better to just let things be; I should have just been happy that someone was willing to put up with me enough to stay with me, even if it was basically just for handouts. But no, I had to blow it all up because I got infatuated with some other dude that doesn’t even like me; I’m no different than every other delusional whore out there convinced that they deserved something better. No, I had exactly what I fucking deserved and now the future is an abyss of punishment for not staying in my lane. I have to go show up tomorrow to my aunt and uncle’s 50th anniversary party, a milestone that’s forever out of reach to me now, and once again be the only single loser in my entire extended family.
Everyday I struggle to convince myself to just keep going one more day and everyday it gets harder to succeed. I feel like I’m just delaying the inevitable and my brains are going to decorate the wall eventually. Everyone keeps talking about how this is all just an optimistic fresh start and the chance for new opportunities, but I just don’t see it. To me it’s just the dying gasp of a pointless and disappointing life. I just want the pain to stop.
Everyday I struggle to convince myself to just keep going one more day and everyday it gets harder to succeed. I feel like I’m just delaying the inevitable and my brains are going to decorate the wall eventually. Everyone keeps talking about how this is all just an optimistic fresh start and the chance for new opportunities, but I just don’t see it. To me it’s just the dying gasp of a pointless and disappointing life. I just want the pain to stop.
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moonarchia
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Depression is just the tint on your glasses that keeps you from seeing the positive things. Keep going if you have things you still want in life. It might be a slog right now, but it will get better. Have you tried any meditation yet? If you never go fully into it to get to the YouOS hax level, even the beginning and intermediate levels offer some massively life changing benefits. Breathing meditation is amazing for physical relaxation. Excellent sleep aid. The next part, letting go of the self, is pretty much the same, except for the mind. All those negative thoughts you are chaining yourself down with? You can let them go and be free.
You are worthy of happiness. You are not a failure. Life is an accumulation of ups and downs and dings and scratches.
When I was 27 my life was pretty fucking shitty. I had to ask my parents if I could come home for a bit to rebuild. I get the whole guilt and self recrimination stuff about it. I also know that if you can keep moving. Find new dreams to pursue. You'll be back on your feet soon enough. Getting away from your ex and getting the divorce over and done with will help so much with that.
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Rajaah
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Lambourne
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I bolded some parts there. A lot of different ways to say "i am a failure if I am not in a relationship". This is insecurity talking and you already know it's not helping you. I was reminded of something you posted a few months ago:
You don't think of that guy as a loser for not having a relationship. If the guy isn't secure by himself and clamps on to you because he can't bear the thought of being seen as a single loser, that's unattractive and you wouldn't respect him very much.
This isn't a gotcha or anything, it's just to show that you already know what a healthy perspective looks like. You just haven't started applying it to yourself yet.
I realize that you can't change this mindset overnight but you will get there in time. It's a perspective shift that will happen as you adjust to the new circumstances.
That fresh start optimism people talk about is a hindsight perspective so it won't feel like that to you right now. Realize that you were just stuck in a local maximum, things will suck for a while until they get better on the other side. Same reason people put off going to the dentist, they decide a mild toothache now isn't as bad as the perspective of sitting in the dentist chair. Only once it's over do they feel like they did the right thing, but you need to force yourself through the sucky part.
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Rajaah
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I think I asked you about Ketamine a while back. Yeah, I'd love to do something twice a month that keeps depression away the rest of the time, that sounds tremendously useful. Unfortunately, finding something like this to order in the US is hard, and ordering powder to snort from the Netherlands seems like a terrible idea.
Maybe a doctor prescription for shots every couple weeks would work out. I don't know, one of these months I'll ask the doctor about it. The guy pretty much gives me whatever I ask for at this point since I'm so goddamn beat-up and mangled from 15 years of physicality. I'd like to find something that isn't an opioid or addictive, that gives that same "makes everything a little easier" motivational boost. If such a thing exists. And no, adderall won't work. I actively turn that down too because it keeps me awake for days on end and causes me to run at the mouth / type 4 page essays.
I've got my own depressions currently. My mom's health isn't good and she probably only has a few years left at best. And that might be optimistic. She really wanted a grandkid. I feel like I'm going to finally have one right after it's too late and that's going to eat me up for the rest of my days. Being 40 (though I look 30ish so that helps) puts me on a bit of a clock anyway, at least in terms of finding a desirable young woman who wants to sire me a spawn. Also I just spent two years actively avoiding women and social situations because I needed quiet after losing the girl I was with.
Not to sound like I want to use someone just to get my mom a grandkid. That seems like a terrible life plan. Would be great if it just happened from natural events, though it hasn't and I feel like it won't. It's at the point where just relaxing at home makes me feel like shit because "I should be out meeting women".
Here's a big ol essay about it, spoilered so folks who don't care can skip it:
Main two "mistakes" I've made that depress me are:
A) I got a vasectomy over a decade ago to avoid (the extremely likely chance of) accidents with the girlfriend I had spontaneous sex with like 3x a day, so my chances of having a kid by accident are nil (which is how most of my friends had their kids, a surprise that just kinda happened). Nope, I have to actually plan it out, and have someone who actively wants to go through the procedure of being inseminated artificially with my sperm from when I was 28. Who'd want to actually plan that out with somebody like me? I fuck everything up and haven't had my shit together in like 3 years. In some other universe I never did the vasectomy, we had a happy accident one of those times, and everything turned out differently. Maybe I had to settle down and be more responsible, maybe we broke up eventually and I see the kid for two weekends a month or something, but at least my mom has a grandkid.
B) I spent almost a decade with the same woman, which was a lot of spent time, and then we took a break, dated other people, and she went and died. Still not sure if the guy she was seeing was abusive, as there's evidence of that but nobody knows it for a fact, and we can't fuckin' ask her can we? Besides her death crushing me on a soul level, that ended my main prospect for grandkids. While we were together we took a number of breaks and I hooked up with a lot of other women, sometimes even when I was with her, she had a "I just want you to have as much fun as possible" attitude about all things sexual. It was always a pretty open relationship, though she also at times wanted to get married and have kids, two things I was afraid to do for a long time so we didn't. Mostly because I didn't want the fun train to end. Now I want nothing more than marriage/kids and it's too late.
I am literally "the woman who wanted to have lots of sex instead of starting a family and is now 40 and regrets it" meme. I've got like 7 or 8 "prospects" in my immediate vicinity, i.e. women I talk to who I have a good rapport with and are attractive and could ask out without it seeming weird or out of left field. None of them have ever mentioned boyfriends, which doesn't mean there isn't one. Talking about like, the Latina who works at my deli who I have a great chat with every time I see her, or the extremely fit 40 year old who walks around my neighborhood in tight booty shorts every day and complains to me about how boring her life is, and so forth. Several of them are women I used to know and haven't talked to in a while, couple of them I dated and left things on a good note, one had a crush on me for many years and I never reciprocated because she was a completely out of shape alcoholic... and now she is clean/sober and looks like Blake Lively. Asked around and got her new number. No idea if she'll even remember me, it's been like 7 years.
I guess I should start firing off feelers / asking women out, but I feel like I'll probably come off as desperate for the first time in my life (because I kinda am, as someone who feels like they're going to miss the last train, metaphorically). Hell maybe all eight will turn me down, who knows. What then? Go on Hinge, is that what people do? I haven't had to go out looking on the "dating scene" since like 2015, instead I usually had things coming my way by default. Got smiled at by a really attractive woman probably close to my age today, like a flirtatious smile, and didn't say anything, then spent the rest of the evening wondering why I didn't say anything. She was totally my type too. What would I even say? How do I do this again?
TLDR I'm pretty much fucked, made my bed, having trouble accepting it because "it's not too late" even though it very nearly is with my mom's health spiraling. Feel bad about all the time I've wasted, either gaming or chasing skirts with no goal of starting a family. Gaming has been a waste of time since I finished Elden Ring anyway, that was the final boss of gaming. The past 2 years (since I lost that woman) have basically just been a blur of nothing, I work and I go home, and I haven't even wanted anyone around. Almost feel bad even going after anyone right now, since I'm going to be looking at my watch and wondering how soon I can have a kid, if they'll even want to, and so forth. Part of me thinks nobody will want to have kids with me and I'll be running around for nothing.
A) I got a vasectomy over a decade ago to avoid (the extremely likely chance of) accidents with the girlfriend I had spontaneous sex with like 3x a day, so my chances of having a kid by accident are nil (which is how most of my friends had their kids, a surprise that just kinda happened). Nope, I have to actually plan it out, and have someone who actively wants to go through the procedure of being inseminated artificially with my sperm from when I was 28. Who'd want to actually plan that out with somebody like me? I fuck everything up and haven't had my shit together in like 3 years. In some other universe I never did the vasectomy, we had a happy accident one of those times, and everything turned out differently. Maybe I had to settle down and be more responsible, maybe we broke up eventually and I see the kid for two weekends a month or something, but at least my mom has a grandkid.
B) I spent almost a decade with the same woman, which was a lot of spent time, and then we took a break, dated other people, and she went and died. Still not sure if the guy she was seeing was abusive, as there's evidence of that but nobody knows it for a fact, and we can't fuckin' ask her can we? Besides her death crushing me on a soul level, that ended my main prospect for grandkids. While we were together we took a number of breaks and I hooked up with a lot of other women, sometimes even when I was with her, she had a "I just want you to have as much fun as possible" attitude about all things sexual. It was always a pretty open relationship, though she also at times wanted to get married and have kids, two things I was afraid to do for a long time so we didn't. Mostly because I didn't want the fun train to end. Now I want nothing more than marriage/kids and it's too late.
I am literally "the woman who wanted to have lots of sex instead of starting a family and is now 40 and regrets it" meme. I've got like 7 or 8 "prospects" in my immediate vicinity, i.e. women I talk to who I have a good rapport with and are attractive and could ask out without it seeming weird or out of left field. None of them have ever mentioned boyfriends, which doesn't mean there isn't one. Talking about like, the Latina who works at my deli who I have a great chat with every time I see her, or the extremely fit 40 year old who walks around my neighborhood in tight booty shorts every day and complains to me about how boring her life is, and so forth. Several of them are women I used to know and haven't talked to in a while, couple of them I dated and left things on a good note, one had a crush on me for many years and I never reciprocated because she was a completely out of shape alcoholic... and now she is clean/sober and looks like Blake Lively. Asked around and got her new number. No idea if she'll even remember me, it's been like 7 years.
I guess I should start firing off feelers / asking women out, but I feel like I'll probably come off as desperate for the first time in my life (because I kinda am, as someone who feels like they're going to miss the last train, metaphorically). Hell maybe all eight will turn me down, who knows. What then? Go on Hinge, is that what people do? I haven't had to go out looking on the "dating scene" since like 2015, instead I usually had things coming my way by default. Got smiled at by a really attractive woman probably close to my age today, like a flirtatious smile, and didn't say anything, then spent the rest of the evening wondering why I didn't say anything. She was totally my type too. What would I even say? How do I do this again?
TLDR I'm pretty much fucked, made my bed, having trouble accepting it because "it's not too late" even though it very nearly is with my mom's health spiraling. Feel bad about all the time I've wasted, either gaming or chasing skirts with no goal of starting a family. Gaming has been a waste of time since I finished Elden Ring anyway, that was the final boss of gaming. The past 2 years (since I lost that woman) have basically just been a blur of nothing, I work and I go home, and I haven't even wanted anyone around. Almost feel bad even going after anyone right now, since I'm going to be looking at my watch and wondering how soon I can have a kid, if they'll even want to, and so forth. Part of me thinks nobody will want to have kids with me and I'll be running around for nothing.
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Punko
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I'm sorry to hear about your mother, but her expectations should not be a burden to you. That is not ok and if she really cares about you she will understand.
You only live once, and it is your life.
What you think about yourself and how you feel are the most important things in your life.
Having social relations that result in expectations you can't or don't want to meet is terrible. Evaluate the benefit you get from these relations, if you value them and still can't resolve the issue, cut the relation.
Imagine how much happier you'd be if this was resolved, or worst case, you'd stop caring.
You only live once, and it is your life.
What you think about yourself and how you feel are the most important things in your life.
Having social relations that result in expectations you can't or don't want to meet is terrible. Evaluate the benefit you get from these relations, if you value them and still can't resolve the issue, cut the relation.
Imagine how much happier you'd be if this was resolved, or worst case, you'd stop caring.
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Borzak
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I would definitely put some kind of happiness high on the scale of not being a failure. I know some pretty downright miserable people that are succesful but can't go 30 seconds into a conversation without talking about how much their life sucks but the business is doing good and they "own" a lot of stuff.
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Cad
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Moonarchia said it 100%. You have got to learn to look at the bright side - there's a bright side to almost anything.
Moving in with parents? Less expenses! Help taking care of chores! Parents probably cook or get food or do other things that will make your life easier. Are they also annoying to be around and will probably nag you and make you feel like a kid again? Yea, probably, but there's bright sides to everything.
Getting divorced? Yes it sucks, and yes it feels like failure. On the other hand, you get a fresh start, clean slate, you can re-invent yourself and find another guy that isn't a useless piece of shit.
You got infatuated with a guy who didn't end up going for you? Ya know, it has happened to all of us. Again - there's a bright side. You know what it is? You are still capable of love! You are still capable of infatuation and getting the tingles you probably got thinking about him. Thats fine, you'll get it again.
Being single itself also has a lot of advantages - do you know how many people I have to coordinate with if I want to do anything? Sometimes its fun, and sometimes it's a fucking beating. Sometimes you just want to do your own thing, and you're going to have that opportunity.
This is a fresh start, an opportunity to go again and see where life takes you. Picture it like you're taking a flight to a foreign country to start over, meet new people, live a new life. See where it goes.
The best adventure in life is just seeing what happens next. This might be a guy attitude or just my attitude but you said something here that you're being punished for not staying in your lane. I STRONGLY disagree. I think you're being punished for being too complacent, for staying in your lane too much.
You need to be grabbing the world by the fucking neck and TAKE what you want, it will not give it to you. The life you want is not handed to anybody on a silver platter. GO FUCKING GET IT.
Your life is in your hands to do with it what you please. Get angry, get motivated, get out there and LIVE IT.
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