TheCutlery said:
This is fine if you"re 22. If you"re nearing 30, you need to revise your selection criteria, becausethe only ones that don"t have kids are going to be the ones that don"t have them for a reason, and waiting for you isn"t that reason.
lol, glad to see several people have already effectively responded to you. But just in case, I googled "percentage of 30 year old women with children" and came up with this as the second link:
http://www.census.gov/prod/2008pubs/p20-558.pdf
-Childlessness amongst women 40 to 44 has doubled from 1976 or 2006 (stands at 10%, so it"s reasonable to argue that somewhere around 10-15% of women currently around 30 will NEVER have kids, depending on how much that stat changes over the next 10-15 years)
-Peak age of fertility for college educated women is 30 to 34 (gasp, maybe they weren"t waiting for you specifically, but waiting for the right guy?!?)
-Fertility of women living at poverty level is twice as high as those at double poverty level (or in other words "good" catches, if you think income is an applicable factor in determining mate selection and you"d be a fucking moron not to, are actually more likely to NOT have kids than uneducated, poor candidates)
I could go on and on with other statistics showing how the average age of first marriage, first child, and so on have all rapidly increased in the past couple decades in most developed countries.
But I can"t be bothered, since I"m pretty sure we had this argument before here or elsewhere. You"re just flat out wrong that a female without kids at 30 must have something wrong with her to explain why no one managed to put a bun in her oven. Some of them that may certainly be the case. Hell, maybe even most of them.
But you unequivocally stated that any 30 year old woman without kids must be damaged. And that"s just stupid.
Tenks said:
It pretty much seems like you have to do the horrible Q&A then it will reveal "open" communication. eHarmony was the worst and least successful of all my online dating sites. Once it gets to the "open" stage it just felt really awkward. I think I went on 3 dates with girls from the site and all were bombs.
Seems like you can skip right to "open communication" if you want to, but the chick has to accept of course. As far as the site goes, it"s definitely a bit cheesy but so far the matches it"s been sending me have been reasonably decent. I haven"t put any time or effort in to it yet, basically just looking at the half dozen or so it sends me a day and archiving the uggos, but so far 20-30% appear to be reasonably attractive (which is all you can tell from any online profile, and even that can be iffy). The two chicks I sent a list of questions to didn"t respond in the week since, and two girls have sent me questions (one of which I closed, one I"ll try responding to).
I actually know one couple who met through it that are getting married this summer, and a couple others that are dating. To be honest the main reason I tried it is because a) I wanted to try a paid site to see if they"re less of a rat race then PoF and since it thins out people who are just fucking around and b) quite honestly I"d heard a fair number of local girls that I knew were trying it. And that appears to be the case, of the 70 or so matches I"ve been sent in the little over a week I"ve been on the site, two or three I know at least passingly and half a dozen more I"m sure I"ve met before, or perhaps seen on another dating site.
