Dabamf said:
I have a question for married people or guys in long-term relationships. Whenever a girl acts crazy as Zhen described, I always tell them they"re being insane, then explain, briefly, why. Do you just give up at some point and begin tolerating it? I always feel the need to kind of put my foot down immediately to any insanity so the girl doesn"t think it"s cool to go thinking her absurd twists of logic will be taken seriously.
I know I"m in the minority and everyone"s just gonna rail on me for it, but hey, you asked, I"ll answer.
No, I don"t put up with crazy, but I have an advantage of not marrying a crazy chick to begin with. My wife has been very reasonable from day 1, it"s the reason I married her so quick...I knew she was different and didn"t want to let that one slip away. 12 and a half years later I"m still happy I did and wouldn"t have changed a thing. Yeah, absolutely, she does get hormonal and weird from time to time (and by that I mean seriously, no more than once every 2-3 months), but usually all it takes from me to correct the problem is saying "You"re being ridiculous and I"m not going to continue this conversation with you right now," and then I go downstairs and play some games. She comes down 15-60 minutes later and we talk about things like an adult, and she realizes that logic wins over emotion. Done and done. I know not all of you have the benefit of not being with a crazy woman, but go above and beyond and don"t let them drag you into the crazy and you"ll get a lot more respect about it. That doesn"t mean you need to be violent or be a dick, it means you be the better man and say "Honey, we"ll discuss this when you realize that you"re being ridiculous" and then ignore her until she calms the fuck down.
I know I"ve told this here before, but my wife is awesome because of reasons like this - After the birth of our first child, she got really bad postpartum depression and one day just handed me the kid and said "I"ve gotta go get help" and checked herself into the psych hospital. I had no fucking idea what to do...I was 22, with a 4 week old kid, this couldda been really, really bad. She called me 2 days later and said "Okay, come get me. I"m not crazy...these people in here are crazy." Her ability to pull herself out of her hormone induced bullshit and rationalize situations is the reason I"m with her. Yeah, she"s got flaws....but none of them even come close to making me put up with anywhere near the bullshit that you guys have to with crazy chicks that you tolerate simply to get your dick wet.
aychamo_aycono said:
I"m interested in knowing what you married guys do about your sexual cravings? We have a nice sex life, but I fear that I"m a fiend. I want some young pussy. My sex life has always been on the taboo side. I enjoyed meeting new women (strangers) and having sex while knowing almost nothing about them. I"ve been a good boy since being married, but I still crave having sex with other women.
I dont want an emotional relationship with other women, but I do want some "extra-curricular" sex with other women.
Honestly, you just make choices about what"s important to you. My relationship is more important to me than random pussy. It has nothing to do with being a "good boy" and everything to do with priorities. My life right now is on the track I want it to be on. I have a woman I love that I can live with every day of my life and not get annoyed by her to the point where we argue consistently, we have 2 daughters to raise and we want to do the best for them that we can. Those goals aren"t met by me chasing random skirt just for the sake of doing it. On top of that, I kinda like my dick NOT ribbed for her pleasure, so we"ll just stay away from the STD"s that condoms don"t protect against and can show no visible signs.
I"d be lying if I said that my wife met 100% of my sexual needs (she comes pretty close however...she"s pretty fucking good about the blowjobs when she"s not in the mood), but on the other hand, I think that most guys, even if they"re getting sex every day, would still watch porn and would still jerk off. If that"s gonna be the case, then how can you blame that on the chick? You just are what you are, and the woman"s not gonna change it.
And if you think it only goes one way, that"s definitely wrong. The wife"s got a friend she works with that"s a solid 9, no fucking doubt. Barbie doll figure, fake DD"s, works out almost excessively, needs sex every day and makes 70k a year. She"s settling for a guy who can"t even get it up half the time, and is pretty much just a douchebag in all other regards. I have no idea why, but I find it hilarious, and strangely comforting that even the people that you"d expect to be able to pick and choose their partners still get stuck with Limpy Jones or whatever the fuck his name is.
