cant believe I"m about to say this but - exactly.aychamo_aycono said:Agree. When you"re around someone everyday you are going to see some shitty behavior. And you are going to act like an ass. What matters is how you and the girl handle things after the shit behavior occurred. We"ve had some fights after a long night drinking, and we said bad things or acted poorly, but we wake up and both know we were tards, so we just apologize and move on. Don"t hold grudges.
If you"re in a long term relationship, and you just start saying a girl is insane when she"s have an emotional outburst, you aren"t going to be in that relationship much longer. That does sound very antagonistic.
having a healthy relationship doesn"t mean an absence of conflict. its the ability to handle conflict well.
it took our neighbors a LONG ass time to understand when my husband and I would say "fuck you" to each other that there were times we meant it (<5%) and times that we didn"t really mean it and that it worked for us. no - we"re not like a jersey shore ronni/sammy thing where we fight all the time - we just know how to diffuse very low level bullshit by saying "look you"re being a dumbass" and moving on 3 seconds later. but they (neighbors) were the type to view conflict as a total negative so they avoided it and really didn"t handle it well - when they moved in together it was a tough go at first and there were some really awkward moments because we"d be over there and neither one knew how to diffuse the situation and my husband and I were only successful a few times in (temporarily) diffusing it for them.
we don"t have *actual* fights that often but when we do we"re generally pretty good at working through them and figuring how why it happened and how to avoid the escalation next time.
as far as insanity goes he gives me a break because I genuinely try to know when its hormones, and I try to give him a break with his complete failure to be able to remember anything because he"s secretly the dude from memento.