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Does it fall under domestic abuse laws if you break up with a girl before beating the shit out of her for cheating on you? Since beating up the other man is passe.
With all due respect, fuck that shit.I let the fucking bridges burn, it is a torture for my soul to do otherwise.aychamo_aycono said:Best thing I"ve been reading here is about not burning bridges. I have such a bad habit with that.
Second don"t go to therapy. That"s the idiot response. Its like going straight to Gastric Bypass surgery after you gained 50 lbs. Its an overloaded response to a perfectly normal life encounter. Therapy is needed if and when you find yourself unable to perform your normal daily functions for an extended basis. If you find yourself suicidal or if it affects your emotional state for a period that would be classified longer then normal for you.Dumar said:i think you misunderstand what i"m saying. i"m saying a woman cannot be interesting to me. there"s nothing she could say that would enlighten or otherwise elevate our relationship because of words said. i never said i wouldn"t listen, but i don"t care about her views on anything. i don"t want to listen. because it"s no different than any other. yes, some women may be more interesting than others. yes, some women are smarter than others. yes, some women are more experienced and traveled than others. that matters for about an hour. after which there is no difference. there is nothing special about any. like i said, measure your convos and see how wildly and uniquely different they are from person to person. they"re not.
if friends ask my advice, i tell them to find the dumbest girl without an education they can find. those types of girls are probably the most fun to be with not considering sex. because they do things and say things totally unexpected and surprising that don"t make sense. this at least offers some deviation from the monotony of numerous dates or misc daily junk. a woman with an education is probably the most boring. because not only does she talk about things that you can find out about in a minute by yourself, but she"s more opinionated and therefore talks much more about the shit i don"t want to hear about.
i don"t mean to insult btw.
The thing I never understood about breakups is how drastically the dynamics between the two people change. At one point you are the two most important people in each others lives, you love each other, can"t imagine living without the other one, everything. And then a few days later, you never talk again. It"s weird how hard it is to keep a person in your life who used to mean so much to you.wamphyr said:But she breaks your heart and then she has the nerve to insist to remain friends ? Fuck that shit ! That is freaking Dr. Phil bullshit. All break-ups are definitive for me, and the fires of the bridges i have burned lit up the skies of my despair.
Dude nothing but experience here can really explain just how important it is to not burn your bridges.This works for all things in life including past relationship but burning your bridges is almost always a universally bad idea. You never know when you"ll find yourself on the other side of that burn bridge needing a rope. Or better yet when she sabotages one of your future relationships out of pure spite.wamphyr said:Burn baby BURN!!
little substance? the women i look for are of substance. churping about politics or shoes isn"t substance.Sharmai said:Do notevertake advice from Dumar on relationships. I have defended him on his personal choices in other threads but whereas I believe in a persons freedom to date how they choose I do not necessarily agree with it being the best method to do so. This is how he treats his relationships (read the thread to see him go into more detail) if you are as detached from your women are or looking for women with as little substance as he is then mabye its good advice. But in 9.95 out of 10 of all cases his advice is nothing but fail. Ever.
Do not take advice from this man...
I just read through your posts on women, and how you apparently like really dumb ones and ones without brains. Do the smart ones emasculate you? I can"t stand dumb girls. I need someone who is right there with me on the same level mentally, and who I can geek out about stuff with.Dumar said:little substance? the women i look for are of substance. churping about politics or shoes isn"t substance.
my advice is fail if you"re just looking for more bedpost notches or drama. if you"re looking for dignity and self-respect, come see me. my advice will never get you laid, but it will give you a good night"s sleep knowing you"re being honest with yourself and with other people.
maybe men should stop listening to their penis every 5 seconds.
i don"t want to derail, but i"ll answer your questions if you ask.aychamo_aycono said:I just read through your posts on women, and how you apparently like really dumb ones and ones without brains. Do the smart ones emasculate you? I can"t stand dumb girls. I need someone who is right there with me on the same level mentally, and who I can geek out about stuff with.
Are you seriously dumb about everything in life?Dumar said:i don"t want to derail, but i"ll answer your questions if you ask.
not emasculate. dumb girls are more interesting on a daily basis because they do things that are illogical and might not make sense. this includes words and actions. this could also lead to more drama, but if you want unexpected day by day, there it is.
educated girls are boring. what do you mean right there with you mentally? do you want to discuss a textbook or a wiki article? why not just read it then? i don"t understand why you want to discuss something with someone for hours when you can find what you"re looking for in 10 minutes. there"s no reason for the discourse at all. unless you"re just wanting pillow talk, in which case any subject will do, from quantum mechanics to seinfield; it doesn"t matter what the convo is about.
i think you misunderstand kinda. i don"t just want a robot; all women are robots. it doesn"t matter if one has a certain view on god or another likes purple shoes. it doesn"t matter if she"s a republican or was raised in alaska. it doesn"t make a difference. one woman traveled to italy while another went to bootcamp at 18. okay, great dinner convo for an hour. how are these women any different after a month? they"re not. there"s no difference.Sharmai said:You want a women who lives to perform a function. One that would be no different from a highly advanced machine capable of fucking, cleaning, raising your kids, and cooking you dinner. If it talked it is merely the reasonable result of having no one else to use her voice on. You responding is the naturally courteous thing to do but merely a formality of a substance-less relationship.
I hear you but let me put it into context for aychamo_aycono like I described earlier so he can better understand what I mean. You said for, for example,Dumar said:Stuff.
Now aychamo_aycono let me ask you in your life would these two women Dumar described be the same after a month to you?one woman traveled to italy while another went to bootcamp at 18. okay, great dinner convo for an hour. how are these women any different after a month? they"re not. there"s no difference.
actually not at all, and its not that i have issues with him hooking up with a lot of chicks (many of my male friends do), or even having sex on camera (not really that kinky imho).Lowk said:Weird question for you, did you come from a overly conservative or christian family?
I really don"t think you know enough about Aych, nor has he put enough out there to say some shit like that. Be aware I"m not saying it"s the opposite of what you are saying, only that there simply isn"t enough information out there to make a judgment like that to make that assessment of his character.
Source blows but its actually chock a block full of good information regarding socio"s. I"m no therapist but thats the first thing I thought of when I read this tbh. I"m not saying he"s prone to violence but socio"s arent these horrible lurking people. Yes they include people like Ted Bundy or Scott Peterson but as the article points out there are many functional cases.Sociopaths are very egocentric individuals that lack a sense of personal responsibility and morality. They may be impulsive, manipulative, reckless, quarrelsome, and consistent liars. Sociopaths are usually unable to sustain relationships and have a total lack of remorse for their actions...
Despite these previous symptoms, the sociopath may be an excellent actor, always appearing charming, calm, and collected. They usually have a normal or above normal intelligence level and good verbal fluency...
Primary psychopaths/sociopaths are considered to be the true sociopath. This is the sociopath who appears to be very normal, calm, and educated on the exterior, but on the interior, they are incapable of experiencing any form of emotional content. They rarely come in contact with the law, but when they do, they are often able to talk themselves out of trouble using their verbal skills. Despite this verbal eloquence, the words often have no real emotional meaning for the sociopath. When the primary sociopath does commit crimes, they are usually petty, meaningless, and without logic, such as daredevil acts and disturbing the peace. It is believed that a constant state of boredom and the lack of ability to truly feel deep emotion are what lead to this random misbehaviour or thrill seeking. This form of psychopaths "can basically be thought of as emotional shells; the surface is all there, but there is no substance"...
An estimated 3% of all adult males have this sociopathic disorder. (The antisocial personality disorder is uncommon among women.) Only a small fraction of this percentage actually develop into violent criminals. Most sociopathic individuals are able to control their disorder within the boundaries of social tolerability...
They are considered only "socially obnoxious" or hateful personalities, and every one of us knows of someone who fits the description. Corrupt and callous politicians, social or career fast climbers, authoritarian leaders, abusing and aggressive persons, etc., are among them. A common characteristic is that they engage systematically in deception and manipulation of others for personal gain. In fact, many successful and adapted non-violent sociopaths can be found in our society. An NIMH epidemiologic study reported that only 47% of those who met the SPD criteria had a significant arrest record. The most relevant events for these persons occur in the area of job problems, domestic violence, traffic offences, and severe marital difficulties.
this is why i asked you to ask yourself the question i posed in the previous thread. i said to measure your convos. measure what what you talk about and the words said. what conclusion do you reach? to me, there"s really no difference except blue or purple shoes.Sharmai said:stuffs
earning respect means knowing your role and not lying to me (or yourself) about what you"re doing and what you want. and shutting up while eating dinner, too.Vatoreus said:more stuff
I really hate modern therapy. It makes the assumption of right vs wrong. Morale values which are entirely opinion based. Loosely related research highly directed to reflect a wanted goal. Modern Therapy. We use it too often as a crutch instead of as a reactive helpful but uncommonly needed tool...Etoille said:2. he"s talking about how he wants to settle down because the times hes around his married friends he wants to be married too.
it would seem to me that he just wants whatever makes him feel good at the time, and to hell with anyone else"s feelings. he cant even understand that what he did was wrong and is very self focused.
you cant treat people like chattel then turn around and whine about how youre lonely without "the one".
And Eomer you got to the root of why i think sociopathy cant be ruled out/he needs therapy.
He fundamentally claims to "care about" people but behaves in ways that he either doesnt understand or doesnt care will hurt them. His behaviors seem to be influenced on societal rules, not emotional connections which would tell him "hey if i do this ill hurt this person and i love them i dont want to do that."
If I were to start making a list of the differences between two women how long would it need to be before you considered the difference substantial enough? If I were to say Sally did her hair in braids and Michelle did her hair not at all would that not be a difference? If I were to say Sally has big breasts and loves giving head but Michelle only has big breasts is that enough?Dumar said:this is why i asked you to ask yourself the question i posed in the previous thread. i said to measure your convos. measure what what you talk about and the words said. what conclusion do you reach? to me, there"s really no difference except blue or purple shoes.
Man, you"re missing out on the best part of a relationship. As much as we all like to believe we"re the smartest people and know everything, it simply isn"t true. We need other people for ideas.Dumar said:enlightening my mind with some amazing discourse on philosophy that i could wiki in 5m doesn"t make her deserve it.