Eomer
Trakanon Raider
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Drama, but for once not mine!
Spoiler Alert, click show to read:Feel bad for a good bro of mine, as I was kind of involved in things going sideways. Making a long story as short as possible, he hooked up with a girl last summer one drunken night, and the two of them really hit it off. However within a couple months, she was leaving for a marine biology course on Vancouver Island that she"ll be taking for the next few years. They have The Talk and decide to do the long distance thing, as she"ll be back a couple times in the school year and he"ll drive/fly out to see her a few times. All of his male friends tell him that this is a bad idea. He does not listen, or rather rationalizes it in various ways that most of us don"t buy.
All goes seemingly well, and Eomer is happy to book flights for his buddy to turn visa points in to several thousand dollars cash, while also warning his bro that he"s spending an awful lot of money to go see her, that it"s all good when they see each other only a week every month or two etc, be careful when she moves back for the summer etc.
So her school year ends, but bro flies out to the Island so the two of them can take a week to drive back and camp along the way. Apparently one of the days they"re camping, she gets extremely snarky with him, that he"s supposedly talking down to her or patronizing her about things. He"s done a lot of camping, her not so much. My bro is one of the most patient, non-patronizing people I know. When he told me this story prior to things really blowing up over the weekend, warning bells went off in my head. It was supposedly their first argument/fight, and without telling him it sounded to me like she was starting to look for things to pick fights about because she was starting to feel trapped or that the relationship was moving too fast now that the reality of actually seeing him on a daily basis for the 4 months of summer was setting in.
Unrelated to this chick/situation, my bro"s weed hook-up (which he"s cut back to virtually no consumption on because he knows she"s not a big fan of it) calls and says he"s double ordered mushrooms, and is looking to get rid of a lot of it fairly cheap. So my bro asks me if I want any, and I ask a few other people I know, and I tell him to get me 4 ounces. So last weekend I was done some work at the office on a Saturday, knew he was chilling at home, hopped on my motorcycle and swung by his place to grab the mushrooms as later that evening I was going to BBQ some steaks with the other guys who"d asked for some, so it was convenient to bring them along.
I didn"t warn him ahead of time, which was a mistake, but I had forgotten she was even around as they"d just gotten back to town. So I pull up in front of his house, and they"re sitting on the front step enjoying the sun. I walk up and chit chat a bit, cut to the chase fairly quickly and say "hey, I"m seeing Mike tonight so..." and he clues in right away and says "oh yeah, gimme a sec", goes in to the house, comes out and tosses me a small grocery bag with the ziplocks inside. I tell them to have a nice weekend and go on my merry way. She didn"t appear put off or anything, and we didn"t discuss specifically what it was, but it was obviously drugs.
Fast forward to this past Saturday, and my boy says that his GF and some of her friends are doing dinner and then hitting a club after, we should grab some dinner ourselves and join them later as she might have some friends I"d be interested in (nope). So we meet them at the club, and it becomes apparent that it wasn"t just girls at the dinner, there was a couple guys. No idea if that bugged my boy or not, but one of the dudes both of us immediately did not like because he was a pink shirt, bow tieing wearing emo fuckstick. Pretentious and smarmy as all hell.
So we"re in the club for 20 minutes or so, when my bro says to me "What the hell man. I just saw Ellen walk out the door with that bowtie fucker, looking back to see if I was watching or not. What do I do here?" I respond that I don"t know her, I don"t know Bowtie, I don"t know the situation, but from where I stood the more you stir shit, the more it stinks and it was probably best not to bring it up since she was reasonably drunk and no good would come of it. Naturally he does the opposite and politely asks her when she gets back what was up. He wasn"t accusatory or anything, he was just genuinely curious where she went and why she seemed to be doing it on the sly. He then notices she smells of weed. My boy has been a chronic pothead for most of his adult life, so he does not give one flying fuck that she smoked weed, but again he"s a little put off by her being sneaky about it. When he points out that she smells of it, she initially denies it. Then admits to it, but gets super defensive, won"t elaborate as to why she was doing it on the sly etc etc. I wasn"t there for most of the conversation, off chatting with someone else. I came back towards the end, and it seemed like things were fine as they were kinda joking about it.
Not long after that, I leave because her friends are uggo and I wasn"t a fan of the club. When I wake up the next morning, I see several texts from my bro not long after I left saying she blew up on him again, thought it was shitty of him to be pissed about her smoking weed (which he wasn"t, it was the circumstances) when he"s selling his friends drugs (he was just a conduit and I could have gotten the shrooms direct from the guy as I know him as well) left and right, and to fuck off and get out of her face etc so he left and then she was pissed that he left and on and on, and now won"t even respond to texts or phone calls.
He"s in shock since as far as he knew they were in a great place, she was moving in for the summer, they loved each other yadda yadda. I talked to him on the phone Sunday afternoon and said that I certainly was not a good person to be seeking relationship advice from, but unfortunately from where I stood and what little I knew of the situation, she"s either feeling trapped/pressured with the relationship quickly going from a long distance, absence makes the heart grow fonder situation to living together (not sure if she has ever lived with someone before) or that now that they"re spending lots of time together over the past 3 weeks that she may be losing interest and subconsciously looking for things to pick fights about or otherwise blame him for her changing feelings. I don"t believe he liked those explanations.
Apparently she dropped by his place later on last night for an hour, but he just mentioned that briefly in a text and said she was extremely "cold" while there and that he thinks she"s now likely not moving in but not saying anything about the relationship being done, likely because I don"t he can bring himself to think that yet. Apparently she did mention that the reason she left with Bowtie on the sly is because she knew he didn"t like him, as if that somehow justifies it. He asks me what she"d be likely to do if he fucked off with a chick she didn"t like in the same situation. I tell him under no circumstances should he attempt that line of reasoning with her, and I think he did listen to me that time.
This is his first real relationship since he broke up with his high school sweet heart a couple years after school, and he"s not going to cope well I don"t think.
I foresee strippers.
No idea why I felt the need to type this up since it"s not happening directly to me, but please feel free to comment.
TLDR: Bitches be crazy.
Spoiler Alert, click show to read:Feel bad for a good bro of mine, as I was kind of involved in things going sideways. Making a long story as short as possible, he hooked up with a girl last summer one drunken night, and the two of them really hit it off. However within a couple months, she was leaving for a marine biology course on Vancouver Island that she"ll be taking for the next few years. They have The Talk and decide to do the long distance thing, as she"ll be back a couple times in the school year and he"ll drive/fly out to see her a few times. All of his male friends tell him that this is a bad idea. He does not listen, or rather rationalizes it in various ways that most of us don"t buy.
All goes seemingly well, and Eomer is happy to book flights for his buddy to turn visa points in to several thousand dollars cash, while also warning his bro that he"s spending an awful lot of money to go see her, that it"s all good when they see each other only a week every month or two etc, be careful when she moves back for the summer etc.
So her school year ends, but bro flies out to the Island so the two of them can take a week to drive back and camp along the way. Apparently one of the days they"re camping, she gets extremely snarky with him, that he"s supposedly talking down to her or patronizing her about things. He"s done a lot of camping, her not so much. My bro is one of the most patient, non-patronizing people I know. When he told me this story prior to things really blowing up over the weekend, warning bells went off in my head. It was supposedly their first argument/fight, and without telling him it sounded to me like she was starting to look for things to pick fights about because she was starting to feel trapped or that the relationship was moving too fast now that the reality of actually seeing him on a daily basis for the 4 months of summer was setting in.
Unrelated to this chick/situation, my bro"s weed hook-up (which he"s cut back to virtually no consumption on because he knows she"s not a big fan of it) calls and says he"s double ordered mushrooms, and is looking to get rid of a lot of it fairly cheap. So my bro asks me if I want any, and I ask a few other people I know, and I tell him to get me 4 ounces. So last weekend I was done some work at the office on a Saturday, knew he was chilling at home, hopped on my motorcycle and swung by his place to grab the mushrooms as later that evening I was going to BBQ some steaks with the other guys who"d asked for some, so it was convenient to bring them along.
I didn"t warn him ahead of time, which was a mistake, but I had forgotten she was even around as they"d just gotten back to town. So I pull up in front of his house, and they"re sitting on the front step enjoying the sun. I walk up and chit chat a bit, cut to the chase fairly quickly and say "hey, I"m seeing Mike tonight so..." and he clues in right away and says "oh yeah, gimme a sec", goes in to the house, comes out and tosses me a small grocery bag with the ziplocks inside. I tell them to have a nice weekend and go on my merry way. She didn"t appear put off or anything, and we didn"t discuss specifically what it was, but it was obviously drugs.
Fast forward to this past Saturday, and my boy says that his GF and some of her friends are doing dinner and then hitting a club after, we should grab some dinner ourselves and join them later as she might have some friends I"d be interested in (nope). So we meet them at the club, and it becomes apparent that it wasn"t just girls at the dinner, there was a couple guys. No idea if that bugged my boy or not, but one of the dudes both of us immediately did not like because he was a pink shirt, bow tieing wearing emo fuckstick. Pretentious and smarmy as all hell.
So we"re in the club for 20 minutes or so, when my bro says to me "What the hell man. I just saw Ellen walk out the door with that bowtie fucker, looking back to see if I was watching or not. What do I do here?" I respond that I don"t know her, I don"t know Bowtie, I don"t know the situation, but from where I stood the more you stir shit, the more it stinks and it was probably best not to bring it up since she was reasonably drunk and no good would come of it. Naturally he does the opposite and politely asks her when she gets back what was up. He wasn"t accusatory or anything, he was just genuinely curious where she went and why she seemed to be doing it on the sly. He then notices she smells of weed. My boy has been a chronic pothead for most of his adult life, so he does not give one flying fuck that she smoked weed, but again he"s a little put off by her being sneaky about it. When he points out that she smells of it, she initially denies it. Then admits to it, but gets super defensive, won"t elaborate as to why she was doing it on the sly etc etc. I wasn"t there for most of the conversation, off chatting with someone else. I came back towards the end, and it seemed like things were fine as they were kinda joking about it.
Not long after that, I leave because her friends are uggo and I wasn"t a fan of the club. When I wake up the next morning, I see several texts from my bro not long after I left saying she blew up on him again, thought it was shitty of him to be pissed about her smoking weed (which he wasn"t, it was the circumstances) when he"s selling his friends drugs (he was just a conduit and I could have gotten the shrooms direct from the guy as I know him as well) left and right, and to fuck off and get out of her face etc so he left and then she was pissed that he left and on and on, and now won"t even respond to texts or phone calls.
He"s in shock since as far as he knew they were in a great place, she was moving in for the summer, they loved each other yadda yadda. I talked to him on the phone Sunday afternoon and said that I certainly was not a good person to be seeking relationship advice from, but unfortunately from where I stood and what little I knew of the situation, she"s either feeling trapped/pressured with the relationship quickly going from a long distance, absence makes the heart grow fonder situation to living together (not sure if she has ever lived with someone before) or that now that they"re spending lots of time together over the past 3 weeks that she may be losing interest and subconsciously looking for things to pick fights about or otherwise blame him for her changing feelings. I don"t believe he liked those explanations.
Apparently she dropped by his place later on last night for an hour, but he just mentioned that briefly in a text and said she was extremely "cold" while there and that he thinks she"s now likely not moving in but not saying anything about the relationship being done, likely because I don"t he can bring himself to think that yet. Apparently she did mention that the reason she left with Bowtie on the sly is because she knew he didn"t like him, as if that somehow justifies it. He asks me what she"d be likely to do if he fucked off with a chick she didn"t like in the same situation. I tell him under no circumstances should he attempt that line of reasoning with her, and I think he did listen to me that time.
This is his first real relationship since he broke up with his high school sweet heart a couple years after school, and he"s not going to cope well I don"t think.
I foresee strippers.
No idea why I felt the need to type this up since it"s not happening directly to me, but please feel free to comment.
TLDR: Bitches be crazy.
