Marriage and the Power of Divorce
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Leadsalad
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Well, some of "young guys" don't make 7 figures, look like Brad Pitt, and actually appeal to women. It's all we've got.
But yes, porn does weird things to the brain. But after spending 60 days doing the "no fap" thing I still had 0 desire to interact with women in the current social climate with the huge downsides to being a guy these days. *shrug*
But yes, porn does weird things to the brain. But after spending 60 days doing the "no fap" thing I still had 0 desire to interact with women in the current social climate with the huge downsides to being a guy these days. *shrug*
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Chanur
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We decided to get maried last month and got married on the 31st . Private ceremony. Did not even tell anyone until after. She is very practical and it cost basically nothing. We both did the big ceremonies our first go around when we were younger and thought it would be a big waste to do it again. We have been together for about a decade.
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Mrs. Gravy
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Holy crap, Alex. That is very sad. I feel for all of you, especially your sister and their children. Damn.
moonarchia
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Holy crap, Alex. That is very sad. I feel for all of you, especially your sister and their children. Damn.
You get New in to the Dr yet?
Mrs. Gravy
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Nope, he is incredibly stubborn. His allowing me to help him in the least of ways is a challenge. He always says, when it is obviously not true and I ask him of his state of being, "I'm fine."
This is a man who in his past, suffered first degree burns over his hand and arm and other degrees of burns on the rest of his body and who should have been in hospital a long time...he did not stay more than two nights. Getting him to get medical attention will take an act of God or the flying spaghetti monster, of which I am neither.
jayrebb
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The thing about porn is you can be watching it for a decade and not necessarily have a problem, and then all of a sudden you find yourself checking off porn addiction boxes like crazy during a certain period of your life. Abstinence is the answer. *glances nervously at the same 40 Firefox tabs open from last month...year..]* Just filled another HDD up too. I blame Royal. That motherfucker's sandbagging...
Craiglist M4burly sociopath: to come in and AMOG me and grab my PC and throw it out my window. Like how in order to clean and organize your desk, you sometimes have to swipe it to the floor. 8 stories up-- should be enough to kill the fucking thing.
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Noodleface
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I don't really understand saving off porn. If I need a quick blow off I just go to pornhub, peruse their fine selection and beat the everloving shit out of my dick. I guess I've never been addicted to porn, not sure what thats even like
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moonarchia
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Crack the tears out and say it's eating you up inside, not getting professional verification that there's no lingering after effects from the accident. Use Gravy as an example of why you are so sensitive about losing him and won't he please please please go see a dr?
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So, my wife is going to the women's march tomorrow in Seneca Falls. I'm not going and I've had trouble explaining exactly why. After a long conversation(not heated at all), I finally arrived at probably the simplest and best explanation: I have trouble supporting a movement that begins and ends with "we don't like That Guy". We meandered through a whole bunch of topics to eventually reach that point. I had to debunk belief of the pay gap. I supported her support of better family leave.
We talked at length about the #MeToo movement and how it's a perfect microcosm for how guys have to watch their backs on social media, so there's an extra step for a guy to support something called the women's march without understanding the specifics.
And after all that, she told me that I was mansplaining. She couldn't elucidate why she felt that way, so I'm not sure she understands the term very well. But at the same time, how is that not insulting and worrying?
I think this was her response to me positing that Trump isn't misogynistic, he treats everyone with equal disdain and lack of manners. But still, even if I'm right or wrong about that, I told her after the mansplaining comment that I would have had the same conversation with a dude.
Sorry, just venting a little bit. Never thought I'd ever hear that comment from my wife.
We talked at length about the #MeToo movement and how it's a perfect microcosm for how guys have to watch their backs on social media, so there's an extra step for a guy to support something called the women's march without understanding the specifics.
And after all that, she told me that I was mansplaining. She couldn't elucidate why she felt that way, so I'm not sure she understands the term very well. But at the same time, how is that not insulting and worrying?
I think this was her response to me positing that Trump isn't misogynistic, he treats everyone with equal disdain and lack of manners. But still, even if I'm right or wrong about that, I told her after the mansplaining comment that I would have had the same conversation with a dude.
Sorry, just venting a little bit. Never thought I'd ever hear that comment from my wife.
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Srathor
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Fuck, Deathwing. The cult is getting another one. When they start in on shit like that, you are no longer a person to her, just an obstacle.
Fuck that, I had a long term girlfriend years back go into the vegetarian/peta thing while I was working at a fur shop and a 2 year relationship crashed and burned really really fast. Like in 2 weeks her "friend" had such a hold on her that she was a totally different person. She just stopped seeing me as the man she loved and went all in. It was scary as hell.
Good luck.
Fuck that, I had a long term girlfriend years back go into the vegetarian/peta thing while I was working at a fur shop and a 2 year relationship crashed and burned really really fast. Like in 2 weeks her "friend" had such a hold on her that she was a totally different person. She just stopped seeing me as the man she loved and went all in. It was scary as hell.
Good luck.
Zaara
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When your wife uses the term 'mansplaining' at you unironically it's time to break out the swift boot to the head, metaphorically
Had a nasty fight a couple weeks back where I was giving him shit for being a stubborn asshole. Caught myself in the middle of a rant where I typified a certain behavior of his as 'HURRR DURR MASCULINE MAN BULLSHIT.' The weird part was the emphasis I put on 'masculine', it sounded very gender-studies and bitter. Maybe they're putting something in the water.
Had a nasty fight a couple weeks back where I was giving him shit for being a stubborn asshole. Caught myself in the middle of a rant where I typified a certain behavior of his as 'HURRR DURR MASCULINE MAN BULLSHIT.' The weird part was the emphasis I put on 'masculine', it sounded very gender-studies and bitter. Maybe they're putting something in the water.
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moonarchia
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Cash out the pension. Sell the house. Cancel all credit cards. Run like hell.
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Big Phoenix
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Alex
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That's an issue in every liberal major city. You can agree on 90% of political and social issues but they'll latch onto that 10% and demonize you for it. If you can't have level headed discussions with fellow liberals how the fuck do you ever hope to reconcile with conservatives? It's very frustrating and concerning.
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Noodleface
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Dude if my wife went to a woman March I'd think a divorce was the next step after she starts joining a feminist support group
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Haast
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Yeah, that's worrisome. Attaching yourself to a cause and slinging around related buzzwords (incorrectly, too) isn't a good sign.
I'm not sure exactly what I'd do, but I think I would remind her that our relationship is more important than the fad cause of the day, and that sort of disrespect won't stand. Supporting the march is fine, treating me like I'm suddenly an enemy isn't.
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The issue that I have is that in your conversation she doesn't see you as her spouse and partner trying to talk and discuss issues but instead as just a man trying to keep her down with your condescending explanation.
If I ever distilled my wife down to just being a woman or her to me just being a man it would be indicative of a rift that needs to be mended.
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