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Tarrant
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alavaz
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I'll be monitoring social media unless the trend drastically shifts and kids stop being retarded about it. I know every old guy likes to say it was different when they were a kid, but when it comes to computer use it's true. I was anonymous on the internet and treated it like it was all a game / fantasy / joke. These kids take it all seriously and kill themselves over it.
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Drugs, getting someone pregnant, are enough compelling reasons nowadays to keep tabs on it.
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I think you have to monitor all your kids online activities. Mine are not on social media yet. But I still check browser activity and what they have been doing.
My oldest recently searched for boobs, then big boobs and finally bigger boobs. All pictures were of women in bikinis. I laughed a little. Talked to him about it. He is 12 so curiosity is a good thing. I just don’t need him sending nudes or some creeper talking to him.
My oldest recently searched for boobs, then big boobs and finally bigger boobs. All pictures were of women in bikinis. I laughed a little. Talked to him about it. He is 12 so curiosity is a good thing. I just don’t need him sending nudes or some creeper talking to him.
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Soygen
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Thank god he stopped at 'bigger boobs'. Once he goes 'biggest boobs', he's already hit the summit. All downhill from there.
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When I was 13 I watched my first full porn tape in my buddy's basement on VHS. I guess we didn't have to worry about sending our dongs to the fine ladies of middle school back then, but I don't feel like seeing what I saw turned me into a deviant. That wasn't until I found efukt
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I don't believe that's the general point. The stakes are higher now. The internet is no longer a void where your actions and misdeeds disappear forever, it's the exact opposite.
Your future wife 20 years from now is going to know that you hate sausage and peppers and there's nothing you can do to stop it!
Your future wife 20 years from now is going to know that you hate sausage and peppers and there's nothing you can do to stop it!
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Tarrant
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in 1997 once your kid was home he was pretty much cut off from the outside world. no instant image sending, no snapchats videos of him/her masturbating being sent to a friend. no dick picks being sent.
it is a different world noodles.
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I have never allowed my kids on any social media and my daughter is 17. They don't miss it one bit and see it for the human cesspool that it is.
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My kids are on social media a fair amount. The rule is, until they are 18, we have their passwords and the right to log into and look through their accounts and texts. We don't often do it, but once in a while, just to let them know that we are still checking, we will. Not to be tyrants, but to avoid the kind of situation Tarrant is talking about. What I recently found in my 14 year old son's texts was texts from a girl in his class saying she wanted to send him nudes and he replied with "I don't do that, and I think it's probably better for our friendship if we don't start." I was impressed. I talked to him about it, and I asked him if mom and I weren't looking, would he have replied in the same way? He said he was positive he would. He has seen nasty shit happen to classmates who go down that road.
My oldest daughters turned 18, and we said they have whatever privacy they want, but they haven't changed their passwords and they said we can look whenever we want (we won't).
Call me over protective or over controlling if you wish, there are serious predators online and in their classrooms, and there's a world of possible legal pain for the whole family.
My oldest daughters turned 18, and we said they have whatever privacy they want, but they haven't changed their passwords and they said we can look whenever we want (we won't).
Call me over protective or over controlling if you wish, there are serious predators online and in their classrooms, and there's a world of possible legal pain for the whole family.
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What about their friends? I think the main challenge is when "everyone else" is on it. You don't want your kid to be the one who is on the outs, but at the same time you want to shield them.
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I take a little bit of issue with your language here. I don't want to shield my kids. I want them to be full on aware of what's out there, and I want them to be of the character to make good decisions. That's my goal, and I've made that really clear with my kids. That is perhaps why they don't fight us on this. They know we aren't trying to shield them in an isolating, unaware of real life sort of way. We're incredibly open with our kids. They know what's out there. We're teaching them how to deal with it when they encounter it.
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It has come up occasionally over the years because her friends on snapchat. When she was 13-14 was probably the only time she felt "it sucked" but I'd say in the last two years she doesn't even want it. Told me most of what her friends get upset about is related to social media. Don't really want to get on a soap box about social media as I know 99% of you use it but I really feel it is a big mistake and for the vast majority of users is a very unhealthy activity that reinforces a lot of things we are better of without. Pretty much every study ever shows people are happier without it, so why would you not want your kids to be happier? I hope we are probably only a few years away from a stronger societal understanding of it being a period of madness as we explored new technology before we realized it made us even shittier than we are normally.
As lurkingdirk stated we discuss with social media with our kids all the time and have spent a lot of time having serious conversations explaining why we don't partake. Last things I want from my kids is them doing something like that "just because their friends do". But she still has friends she talks to, she texts her best friend but even with text she does very little.
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Without typing something long. I'll say I couldn't agree more. Social media has evolved into something really bad. I think it's more detrimental than good.
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