Marriage and the Power of Divorce

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OU Ariakas said:
There were probably warning signs, but she bottled things up and would never talk to me. Before our conversation in October she had never, not once, said "this is something that is affecting our marriage and could end it," or something to that effect. When I look back it seems like it was death by a thousand tiny things over a long time that just had us end up that way. She may say otherwise, because she never said it out loud, but it was mutual comfort and the effort of both working and raising 4 small kids that sort of put us slowly on this track.
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It's not hard bro. Srs.
 
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Nirgon said:
It's not hard bro. Srs.
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Marriage and kids are the absolute hardest things you will ever experience in your life. That does not make them not worth it. My ex is a great mother and a good person; we just ignored the warning signs and did not put enough effort into it. I know you think this is some sort of own because of my situation; but it is, in truth, the opposite because I acknowledge my part in driving us towards divorce and still love women even after the negative experience. It is simple as not being a cowardly fucking complainer.
 
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OU Ariakas said:
Marriage and kids are the absolute hardest things you will ever experience in your life. That does not make them not worth it. My ex is a great mother and a good person; we just ignored the warning signs and did not put enough effort into it. I know you think this is some sort of own because of my situation; but it is, in truth, the opposite because I acknowledge my part in driving us towards divorce and still love women even after the negative experience. It is simple as not being a cowardly fucking complainer.
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How dare you take personal responsibility and not just blame women for all your problems in life!
 
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OU Ariakas said:
Marriage and kids are the absolute hardest things you will ever experience in your life. That does not make them not worth it. My ex is a great mother and a good person; we just ignored the warning signs and did not put enough effort into it. I know you think this is some sort of own because of my situation; but it is, in truth, the opposite because I acknowledge my part in driving us towards divorce and still love women even after the negative experience. It is simple as not being a cowardly fucking complainer.
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If u were 6'3 none of it woulda happened. I'm not going for an own, I don't even dislike you. I am here to help.
 
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If u were 6'3 none of it woulda happened. I'm not going for an own, I don't even dislike you. I am here to help.
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Nirgon this is the grown up forum for real talk, don't do this shit here. Take it back to the incel thread.
 
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Nirgon this is the grown up forum for real talk, don't do this shit here. Take it back to the incel thread.
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I'm more grown up about objective reasoning than you could ever be, sir.

I'll take your advice and move on from this "told ya so" thread. I have nothing more to add (wheezing lol)....

 
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OU Ariakas said:
Marriage and kids are the absolute hardest things you will ever experience in your life. That does not make them not worth it. My ex is a great mother and a good person; we just ignored the warning signs and did not put enough effort into it. I know you think this is some sort of own because of my situation; but it is, in truth, the opposite because I acknowledge my part in driving us towards divorce and still love women even after the negative experience. It is simple as not being a cowardly fucking complainer.
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I always shake my head when a man or a woman talks about their ex as if he or she is a purely evil demon or something. I'm like "so why did you choose to move a demon into your house for many years and have multiple children with them?" What does that say about you? However bad they are, you picked them. If I was dating, talking about an ex like that would be a big red flag.
 
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Nirgon Nirgon This is not the forum space or thread to pull troll antics. Stow that shit for the POL section or Amod will drop the hammer. Even the Welcher and Felcher know not to screw around in the Grownup forum area.
 
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On topic, yeah no kids here by choice but marriage is both the best thing and hardest thing life has to offer. Even if it all works well, its tough and takes effort. Its rare as hell for a split to be equal blame, but in any breakup there is always a little bit of blame on both sides. Bare minimum, you might not have engaged emotionally/mentally with your partner enough which can lead to resentment from feeling isolated. Always have to be vigilant and never take anyone for granted.
 
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Nirgon Nirgon go back to the blackhole Incel thread please. This is the only chance to do so willingly.
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He chased me here because he is losing the argument in that thread and thought that he could rage bait me with my recent divorce. Talk about Beta fucking tactics.
 
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I agree with his broader points, but he has more or less lost the plot on his cause. Kind of the same path I went down with Wormysyar. Got so wrapped up in the tolling that he forgot what point he was tryiing to make and stopped reading the room. Taking battles into this part of the forum is one of my few lines around here, though.
 
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I'm 6'1 and slept with the wife of a guy thats 6'4ish a couple weeks ago. I dont know if we can use this is empirical evidence that the theory is wrong, but its a start.
 
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