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That is disgusting. Tell the bitch showering regularly with any soap is better than being a cesspool of bacterial overgrowth.
Marriage and the Power of Divorce
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Famm
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The whole "antiperspirants are scary cancer chemicals" shit (and this is kinda hippie shit even if she's not really hippie) is pretty stupid and annoying but not necessarily a deal breaker. But FFS at least shower daily? I mean, use ivory soap, fragrance free, plain old soap.
On one hand you maybe could have handled it differently. Power through and get her out of there somehow and next time be like "hey I know you are anti 'chemical' and though I think its not true, I got some natural soaps and stuff for you to have here when you stay over" and try to make her comfortable using your bathroom and stuff.
On the other hand maybe it was best to be blunt about it and not have to deal with it later if she just doesn't want to fucking bathe and would rather be a lazy stinkbomb every weekend or something.
On one hand you maybe could have handled it differently. Power through and get her out of there somehow and next time be like "hey I know you are anti 'chemical' and though I think its not true, I got some natural soaps and stuff for you to have here when you stay over" and try to make her comfortable using your bathroom and stuff.
On the other hand maybe it was best to be blunt about it and not have to deal with it later if she just doesn't want to fucking bathe and would rather be a lazy stinkbomb every weekend or something.
Not using soap is actually fine (it may actually be better for your skin), but you need to shower every day and after vigorous activity of any kind if you don't want to smell. Remind her that it isn't her, it is the bacteria eating her sweat and creating waste products. You love the way SHE smells, but not the way her bacteria's waste products smell so you want her to wash it off so you can smell her.
On the prior topic, why would having an advanced student be harder? Being able to go at their pace instead of the pace the school would set for them is much better all around. The number one comment I hear from from people who were "gifted" in high school is complaining how slow classes were and how easy the work was. If you get to a point where they've covered all the AP material... just let them start college early.
@The Ancient: Not backed up by the only actual point of data available. That was the point.
On the prior topic, why would having an advanced student be harder? Being able to go at their pace instead of the pace the school would set for them is much better all around. The number one comment I hear from from people who were "gifted" in high school is complaining how slow classes were and how easy the work was. If you get to a point where they've covered all the AP material... just let them start college early.
@The Ancient: Not backed up by the only actual point of data available. That was the point.
Khane
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Well I didn't say it in the terms I used to describe it. That was an ultra shorthand version of our conversation, and it was an entire conversation not just a quick line because... I don't even know why. Seriously, how is that even a conversation with a 31 year old woman?
By the way, not using soap might be fine, but not using deodorant is just ridiculous.
By the way, not using soap might be fine, but not using deodorant is just ridiculous.
Khane
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That's the strange thing about it. She's not like that about anything else. Just the goddamn fragrances and deodorant. I wonder if she's anti vaccine... brb gonna ask her.
EDIT: Whew, she's not an anti-vaccer.
You need to split that up. Deodorant is a scent to cover up smells. If you don't smell, doesn't really do anything except make you smell like the deodorant. Not helpful. Antiperspirants actually prevent sweating, which prevents the cycle I alluded to earlier of stuff eating your sweat and creating waste byproducts. Also not an issue if you shower every day and after any vigorous physical activity. You can buy things that are purely antiperspirants, but again it isn't needed if you shower. The problem here is her not showering after for a full day after sweaty intense sex.
Slightly related: You should put antiperspirant on at night before you go to sleep. It doesn't work instantaneously to prevent sweating and can be rubbed away with to much movement before it settles. Since most people don't know this, most people actually wear antiperspirant and receive no benefit from it.
McCheese
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That is not true for everyone. I sometimes sweat when I'm just sitting at my desk working, not to mention at dinner and at various other times. I shower daily and always after the gym/cycling/hiking/etc., but if I didn't wear antipersperant I'd have to take like 20 showers a day sometimes.
I think that'd be a deal breaker for me. Smell is such a HUGE part of attraction, not to mention the ickiness of not showering daily. And if she does that, what other nasty shit does she do? Does she wash her hands after using the bathroom?
It could be worse, though. At least she doesn't have a mustache. I had a friend once ask me how to talk to his girlfriend about her mustache.
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That's fucking disgusting. That's one of the best parts about the "fairer" sex to me - they usually smell heavenly. A chick who smells like a horse trough would be a total deal breaker.
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This, the issue is the perception that the metals inantiperspirantscan lead to Alzheimers. There is no truther shit out there about deodorant, no reason not to use it.
Soygen
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As someone who likes to jam my tongue into every possible orifice, this kind of shit is a deal-breaker.
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THE HAPPY HIPPY SOAP COMPANY - The Happy Hippy Soap Company
Do you also need to find organic GMO-free razors to trim the jungle back?
Do you also need to find organic GMO-free razors to trim the jungle back?
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Meh, I'll admit that the idea of clogging up my sweat pores bothers me on some level. Doesn't stop me from using the stuff though.
At the risk of outing myself, if I didn't do or plan to do anything vigorous that day, I'll skip the shower. How gross do you guys get after 24 hours of sitting at a computer/couch/bed?
At the risk of outing myself, if I didn't do or plan to do anything vigorous that day, I'll skip the shower. How gross do you guys get after 24 hours of sitting at a computer/couch/bed?
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Not showering and smelling like complete ass may be a deal breaker for me. Sometimes my wife smells terrible, but she has a physical job and whatever - but at least she has the self-knowledge to know that she smells bad ("Can't have sex, I smell terrible").
I don't care if you want to use deodorant made out of recycled ferns and rabbit turds, just don't smell like 'bad'.
I don't care if you want to use deodorant made out of recycled ferns and rabbit turds, just don't smell like 'bad'.