I know a teaching assistant at university that had to give up her goal of a PhD because she decided to have a family with her man and apparently schools don't like to hire profs older than in their 30s. Lame.
Marriage and the Power of Divorce
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Pretty much, if she's yelling at you for things like "sitting wrong" then you need to really look at things because it sounds like the relationship is wrong.
Even with wedding planning and all the stuff that goes a long with it at no point should she be acting like she is, as I said before sex should never be a weapon and as soon as someone thinks it is it will forever be thought of as such.
Granted, Noodle is only telling us his side...for all we know he's being a douche bag to her without even realizing he is. Sometimes we as people, not even just men tend to do that. What we consider to be no big deal could infact be a huge deal. Small things about my wife irk me to no end....like not filling the ice cube trays and leaving them on the counter or putting them back with a single ice cube.
FILL THE DAMN TRAY FOR GODS SAKE!! IT TAKES 12 SECONDS!!
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We all have our quirks but shes picking you apart from the sounds of it and you need to put a stop to it or else she will fall into the frame of mind that acting that way is acceptable and the sooner you put your foot down to that the better. Once that is in her head as being acceptable it will be much harder to change and will just lead to way more problems in the future.
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The first year of marriage was more stressful than before we were married or the subsequent years. We fought a lot more as we adjusted to living together, adjusting our daily routines and needs. But it got easier. And before marriage... that was the honeymoon stage. We were so madly in love and everything was exciting.
If you guys (Noodleface) as a couple can't handle routine stress (it comes up all throughout your life, in many forms) now, when everything is still fresh and shiny, I don't see you being able to handle it well later on. If she is worth it, work on it. Talk to her about how you can both handle shit better, what outlets you have available to you to vent stress. Maybe she needs a couple hours of icecream and a good book, or a pedicure or some time at the gym where you can help with one thing on her task list that is stressing her out and vice versa. It is all about learning to work through the problems together without becoming the enemy.
If you guys (Noodleface) as a couple can't handle routine stress (it comes up all throughout your life, in many forms) now, when everything is still fresh and shiny, I don't see you being able to handle it well later on. If she is worth it, work on it. Talk to her about how you can both handle shit better, what outlets you have available to you to vent stress. Maybe she needs a couple hours of icecream and a good book, or a pedicure or some time at the gym where you can help with one thing on her task list that is stressing her out and vice versa. It is all about learning to work through the problems together without becoming the enemy.
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My wife doesn't handle stress well....at all, she in fact probably handles it worse then any peson I know and for the longest time we would argue hard over her looking to pick a fight in order to make herself feel better by her blowing off that stress, she even took it as far as doing things she knew would annoy me.
I put that lid on that, fast. Now if I know she's had a bad day or isn't taking something very well I tell her to go take a bath and relax. This works for two reasons, A. It helps her relax when stressed and B. When I tell her this she takes that as a cue she's acting crazy without realizing it and then oes and gets some alone time for her to collect her thoughts and unwind.
She might just need something along those lines....or she may be a crazy.
I put that lid on that, fast. Now if I know she's had a bad day or isn't taking something very well I tell her to go take a bath and relax. This works for two reasons, A. It helps her relax when stressed and B. When I tell her this she takes that as a cue she's acting crazy without realizing it and then oes and gets some alone time for her to collect her thoughts and unwind.
She might just need something along those lines....or she may be a crazy.
I am still trying to wrap my head around tarrant having a fridge that still uses ice cube trays. Maybe she is being passive aggressive, tarrant, as a way to tell you to buy a fridge made after 1990?
Tarrant
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The fridge is brand new actually.
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I have an Electrolux, $2000 fridge that's 3 fucking years old. That door panel that dispenses your ice and water and controls the temperature? Yeah, it's fried. What's that, 1 year warranty on appliances? $250 for a new one?
I'm going back to 1990 fridge if they haven't worked out the bugs with the new one.
Cause I don't use comma's(where the fuck is that button on the Galaxy S3 key board)
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Yeah my brand new Maytag fridge with the freezer on the bottom has some kind of known bug that the drain for the coils in the back can freeze and then start to spill water all over the freezer section. My wife is really, really good at getting customer service. She called and had a tech come out, on Home Depot's dime even after the warranty, and he somehow rigged it so that shit won't happen anymore.
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Chaos is married to Carrie Hefernan from King Of Queens.
But seriously, I would marry the hell out of a good indian woman. Cook, barter, dark skin etc.
It does depend on the part of Minneapolis. But, if you're talking South Minneapolis around Franklin ave./Seward, white faces are a very clear minority. I believe parts of North Minneapolis are very similar. The surrounding suburbs are shockingly, predictably white in contrast.
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We also sport the nations largest concentration of Somalians and Hmongs in the nation.
And yes there are a lot whites in the burbs, but Minneapolis sports a range of minorities that I would hazard a guess is much broader then many cities of its size nation wide. Pretending like Blacks are the only minority is silly for one but Whites in 2012 made up 48% of Minneapolis population. It's far from the great "white" north that is being spouted in the ignorant post by K13R up above.