Marriage and the Power of Divorce

My wife expects me to come to bed when she does, which is sometimes annoying if I am working on something. But our bedroom is a nerd paradise, so I can literally play games and watch TV in there, too. We call it the Wall of Shame and refer to the bedroom as the Reality Deprivation Chamber. Three TVs (one each for game play, one to watch TV), a bed with dual reclining controls, and a multi changer for our consoles and computers to route to the two game TVs. Not having kids is pretty awesome.

But the come to bed when the wife does thing is not unique and as was stated, they have that bullshit pounded into them at an early age. Trying to reverse the field on it is only going to cause an argument, because its a totally emotional thing. My wife does not give a fuck if I stay up all night playing shit on the PS4, as long as I am in bed next to her snoring ass when I do it. And to a degree I understand this, because having been with her as long as I have I have issues getting good sleep when we are not together.

Tarrant_sl said:

My first wife hated video games and hated my playing them. It didn't matter if I was playing them even while she was at work, she hated anything and everything to do with World of Warcraft. She also hated D&D. About a year ago when my kids were visiting I took my son with me to a game and got him into D&D as well and she got super pissed off about it. I told her I didn't care, he loved it and as long as he did I would encourage him to play if he wanted.

Anyways, back to the first marriage...I didn't even play WoW much, I raided only after she was in bed but it didn't matter. I never understood it.

When I play games now I can go all day with her doing her own thing and me doing my own thing but as soon as I load a game up she senses it and wants me to do something, so I usually just play after she's in bed as well, which she's fine with. I still play D&D twice a month, which she sometimes doesn't like (most the time) but it's mainly because shes so introverted that she wants me to be too and she gets upset at times that I'm not. (which sounds weird to me, but whatever.)

So I still game quite a bit, just the hours altered to fit the life I have now.

Here's a question though, which I found weird when a friend was telling me about it. Does your wife expect you to go to bed at the same time she does? Mine thankfully doesn't but I have a friend who can be in the middle of something and his wife will be like "well, I'm going to bed" and she will expect him to do the same. Doesn't matter when it is, what he was doing and it doesn't even have anything to do with sex...he just has to go to bed too. That shit blew my mind.

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My wife was jealous of EQ2. She called it my mistress. I know she was saying it jokingly, but I think the feeling was real. We eventually got a chair she could sit in and watch me play. We called it her creepin chair, because she sat in it and creeped on me. She couldn't see the screen, but she said she at least wanted to be with me. She'd sit there and knit or read or whatever (I don't know because I didn't watch her). Anyway, I think that's that your experiencing. I think your wives were jealous and if they never said it, it's only because they knew how ridiculous it sounded. My wife doesn't have any problems sounding ridiculous.

She also wants me to go to bed the same time she does, but she goes to bed at insane times. Like 8:00. There's no way in hell I'm going to bed at 8 when I often don't get home till 7. She doesn't really expect me to do it most of the time. She's started asking me every night when I'm coming to bed, as if me going to bed at midnight every night since she's known me isn't enough of a clue. She's also started going to bed later, which is actually cramping my style. I can't be looking at the PGT while she's up and running around! Also, I have shows like Vikings and Arrow to watch that she has no interest in. So lately, I've been telling her I'll be going to bed about 2 hours after she does.

We've only been married a couple years, so the sleep schedule is still working itself out. I know her ideal is me coming to bed the same time she does, but it's not going to work. Not only does she need to get up earlier than me, but I need about 2 hours less sleep than she does. I'm fine with 7, she needs 9 or feels like a zombie.

Izo_sl said:

Woah, woah, RP stuff there. Snicker.

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