Marriage and the Power of Divorce

My wife does not have hobbies in the broad sense of the word. The times when not working are spent watching shitty reality TV and playing some shitty wheel of fortune or scrabble game on her phone. I have tons of hobbies that regularly I shift my attention to. Anything from my photography, gaming, woodworking, down to building and collecting ecig atomizers and mods.

She is messy, does not clean up after her self, and when she does the ADD kicks in and she cant do a good job of it and does it 1/2 ass. She hates the TV that I like, which is sci fi shit, history channel crap, fantasy type shit, and she has no imagination. She thinks Im a big nerd and laughs at me all the time.

But she is pretty smart, we can have good deep conversations about crap, she shares the same viewpoints about many things with me, like politics, spiritual, even some conspiracy type shit that we both laugh about. She deeply loves and cares for our kids, she respects me and what I do and the decisions I make. She accepts and loves me for who I am. I can tell her everything and she can tell me everything, in this way we are closer than any of my friends. We lean on each other when we are down and boost the other when they are down. We can both sit down, share some beers and just talk about shit for hours. She can be a strong woman when need be and totally submissive to me when I need her to be. Plus the sex is great after 15 yrs. In fact its only getting better in some ways now that we both know what the other likes and dislikes.

That to me is what makes the relationship great. Its not what you do with each other from day to day, fuck, I could not stand a woman that wants to do everything with me at all times, including my hobbies. Im sort of a loner and have been all my life and I definitely need my alone space where I can do the shit I do. And she knows this and respects it.

Khane_sl said:

Yo, a_skeleton_03 just made an HTML table to tell you what's up Phaz. You gonna let him do that to you?

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a_skeleton_03 is the same guy who snagged nudies off of his wife's friend's HD because he felt entitled to do so (/implication.jpg) and traded Vicodin for nudes from the Meagan Fox of Ohio. I am not terribly worried about any relationship advice he might have because I am fairly certain he has worse problems than most of the people in this thread and his health scare kept his relationship together. He is also, in typical a_skeleton_03 fashion, putting words in my mouth that I never said. I never said everyone had shitty relationships, nor am I so myopic that I feel like every relationship has to mirror mine. What I said, specifically, is that I don't understand how anyone can make that kind of commitment to someone and then not want to spend time with them. For all of his numerous flaws, a_skeleton_03 actually seems to have a healthy LT relationship these days (his habit of scamming friends nudies, tossing pills at hoors, and lack of interest in forplay not withstanding) by the sounds of it. Mrs a_skeleton_03 is probably overlooking a lot of bullshit because the good far outweighs the bad, which makes her a lot like my wife I guess.

And for you lone wolf guys, mkopec's description makes the most sense to me of a working relationship where there is a lot of separation, because at least its two people acting as equals and having good entertaining conversations when they ARE together. That makes real sense to me, even though its not how I am personally. What I don't understand are the guys who essentially really want a bangmaid and are then somehow surprised that they don't have fulfilling relationships. Or worse, they get bored and start letting their dick make dumb choices for them like Wormy did. Speaking of which, does anyone know what happened to him?