My maternal grandfather was in the war as well, one of I think only 2 survivors in his air force squadron, I never met him that I remember so I can't say for sure, but from what I've gathered he was a heavy drinker afterwards, which created a lot of conflict between him and my grandmother/mother. I always had a vague idea of what had happened, but I was really surprised when my dad casually mentioned the other day that he only met the man twice, I hadn't realized just how estranged he'd been.My grandfather was kind of quiet and spooky. Very stern and no tolerance for anything he considered nonsense. Fought in WW2 and never spoke about it once. He died of Alzheimer's in his 80s.
I am not posting because it is really fucked up and far too depressing even for this thread. I should write a book called how not to be a shitty person when raised by shitty people. The few people that know specifics are amazed I am "normal" and generally a nice person. I just took it all and suppressed it hardcore well into my late 20s. It wasn't until my wife made me realize that I was unknowingly fucking her up that I actually received professional help. What a shit storm that was, all I did though was learn what I was doing to hurt her and found a way to stop it. I don't want to say I fake being normal but my first three impulses are normally frowned upon so I constantly have to think of acceptable solutions/answers.I hope that the number of fucked up families, molestations, and rapes being reported here is skewed due to the fact that people who come from largely normal families aren't jumping in to post "Everything was fine and dandy, nothing to report." again and again.
I think that's more or less the case. Although, I have to admit, I know someone who was molested. Good friend of mine was accused of molesting his daughter when he divorced his wife. Completely baseless claims, but it turns out the ex wife and her mom had both been molested, so they just kinda assumed my buddy was molesting his daughter too, cause that's what dads did. The only evidence they had was testimony from the daughter, and during the trial, it came out that grandma basically molested her every time she visited her dad and asked "did daddy touch you like this? How about like this?", and after a few years, she started saying yes.I hope that the number of fucked up families, molestations, and rapes being reported here is skewed due to the fact that people who come from largely normal families aren't jumping in to post "Everything was fine and dandy, nothing to report." again and again.
i agree.some of you had/have pretty shitty familieswe should rename the title of this thread to "depressing shit from your life."