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Gotta be lucky and have your kids either smart enough to get an academic scholarship or black enough to get a sports scholarship

I have been affiliated with Notre Dame long enough that my kids get Notre Dame tuition's worth at a whole consortium of schools, so living expenses will likely be all my kids have to pay for. That said, they'll contribute to their own education, and all three of my daughters already told me that they have no expectation we'll pay for their weddings. We didn't have help with weddings or undergrad, we'll help as we can within reason. A $40,000 wedding is just fucking stupid. That's no way to spend money for a young couple, and if parents have that money to spend, buy them a fucking house or something.

These are, of course my own views. I've tried to raise my kids to share my values in many areas, including finances. I'm sure we'll contribute a few thousand toward making their weddings a great big party, but I didn't raise any princesses that have to have the storybook wedding with the meringue dress and every person they've ever met in attendance.

ZyyzYzzy said:

Coworker's son is going to Duke. $70k/yr

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Ouch, and he has to live in Durham.

If he's going for law or medicine it's worth the price tag. Those fields, the prestige of the name will equate to money in the bank.

Anything else though and I can't see it. I mean it was a lab at NC State invented the 3d printing technology. Not UNC. Not Duke. Crappy old NC State in Raleigh. The cow college that mainly trains vetinarians and gives out engineering seals.

ZyyzYzzy said:

Coworker's son is going to Duke. $70k/yr

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That's only $35k per semester. Not too bad, compared to the $50k/semester noodle said.

Congrats in advance Ryanz, we likely won't see much if you for a bit, I will try to keep the pics and gifs threads stocked while you're away

I was being facetious

ZyyzYzzy said:

Didn't even see "semester". What private colleges are 100k/yr?

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Looks like your yearly number is more accurate than his semester number. Here's a website of the top 50 most expensive colleges in America. All of them fall between $64,500 & $69,700 per year.
The 50 most expensive colleges in America

Where as this is just Harvard University.
"The total 2016-2017 cost of attending Harvard College without financial aid is $43,280 for tuition and $63,025 for tuition, room, board, and fees combined."

What a cheap school.

Boston has mit, Harvard and Berklee. We're winning

My undergrad engineering degree was like $3k per semester when I started for tuition, room and board was $1700. By the time I left tuition was about $6k per semester and room and board was $2100. I ended up with scholarships that covered almost everything until the last two semesters, they ran out while I was getting my second bachelors.

Think I ended up with about $15k in student loans, never worked more than 5-10 hours a week (for the school, basically just did homework and got paid min wage). The thought of having $30k+ in loans per semester blows my mind

Xarpolis said:

Looks like your yearly number is more accurate than his semester number. Here's a website of the top 50 most expensive colleges in America. All of them fall between $64,500 & $69,700 per year.
The 50 most expensive colleges in America

Where as this is just Harvard University.
"The total 2016-2017 cost of attending Harvard College without financial aid is $43,280 for tuition and $63,025 for tuition, room, board, and fees combined."

What a cheap school.

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This list is bogus, as there are schools that should be on it that aren't included. Notre Dame, for example, had a tuition cost of $51,505 and a total cost of $69, 395. How did this list get made?

It's ridiculous to spend that kind of money on pretty much any undergrad education. Specialise in your advanced degrees, and find funding for them. I never paid for any of my schooling through aggressive scholarship solicitation.

But I guess we'll see what's going to happen with my kids. I have two who will be doing college visits very soon. It's freaky as shit to consider sending them off on their own, frankly, even though I trust them and believe they have a good head on their shoulders. Sigh. Are there any parts of parenthood that are an absolute snap and don't potentially put your heart through a wringer?

After the conception it's all downhill

Or uphill. I suppose it depends on your perspective.

lurkingdirk said:

This list is bogus, as there are schools that should be on it that aren't included. Notre Dame, for example, had a tuition cost of $51,505 and a total cost of $69, 395. How did this list get made?

It's ridiculous to spend that kind of money on pretty much any undergrad education. Specialise in your advanced degrees, and find funding for them. I never paid for any of my schooling through aggressive scholarship solicitation.

But I guess we'll see what's going to happen with my kids. I have two who will be doing college visits very soon. It's freaky as shit to consider sending them off on their own, frankly, even though I trust them and believe they have a good head on their shoulders. Sigh. Are there any parts of parenthood that are an absolute snap and don't potentially put your heart through a wringer?

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No reason at all to get an undergrad degree at a private school

Noodleface said:

No reason at all to get an undergrad degree at a private school

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Unless you don't have to pay for it and it's a great school. But there's no reason to pay for a private school, I agree.

lurkingdirk said:

Unless you don't have to pay for it and it's a great school. But there's no reason to pay for a private school, I agree.

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Well sure but that's the exception rather than the rule for most. If you got a full ride by all means take advantage. Save the private schools for grad studies, that's where they shine.


Update on kiddo. Tonight was finally my turn and my wife got disgusted lol. I went in there, read his books and immediately he's getting salty because he knows I'm gonna ask him to go to bed. He said "sit here. Couple minutes" so I said, ok I will but just 2 minutes then I'm going to go in the hall and sit outside your room ok? He said ok so after 2 minutes I said "ok dude, I'm gonna be right outside in the hall just call for me if you need me" and that was that. He went to sleep and I just laid in our bed down the hall a bit to make sure I didn't disturb him. Don't know if this will work 100%, but it's the best we've had in a couple weeks.