YAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY!
I had a cat that hated everyone but my wife and I. He attacked everyone and we had to lock him in a room or the garage when guests came over. He bloodied the first guy, my brother, pretty good before we figured out he couldn't be around other folks. It was impressive to watch in a cat/prey sort of way, but not a happy situation.
Sounds exactly like my dog was. Seems you aren't "pack leader" yet. Despite success in training right after rescuing, my dog did the growl/nip/bite when scared thing for months after. Maybe 6 months in he actually tried to bite my hand for real so I lifted him off the ground and flipped him over on his back and pinned him with both hands - got loud so he knew I was not playing and stared at him making sure he couldn't look away from me. He retreated from me for a few hours after he relented and I let him go, tail between his legs, but he's now a fantastic dog. The worst he will do is whimper when he's scared instead of growling. I was afraid we'd have to put him down (I can't own a dog that I can't trust not to attack people) but he really responded well and even started trusting me more and wants me to play catch with him where before he would run away with toys afraid I would take them. Now he knows I will so he's OK with sharing and playing fetch since it's really "my" toy in his eyes. When he does something bad and I call him out on it instead of hiding, he will slowly walk over with his tail between his leg and I will scold him verbally and he looks away. I just treat him passively for a little while then we go back to normal. He doesn't really have many accidents but I never punish him for reasonable ones (like when he's sick or we were gone for 12 hours) - he will still show deference when I go to clean up the mess but I just pretty much ignore reacting to it otherwise and he is fine right after.
My dog is like that too, and definitely sees me as the alpha. When I raise my voice the tail goes between the leg and she either hides behind my wife, goes to a corner, hides under a table, or slowly waddles towards me with her ears back scared shitless. Unfortunately, she's always been a bit fucked up since we rescued her. I don't know how much it has to do with it, but she was taken from her home and placed in quarantine due to a parvo scare, and I think it messed her up pretty good. She doesn't trust new people unless we have them give her a treat first. We tried to have my son give her a treat but he kept trying to eat it.
1. This was ridiculous. No judgement, but a birfday meal for a dog is ridiculous.
My in-laws are Chinese. I do not understand their approach to food. When they cook poultry they will gleefully eat the wing tips, face, spine, feet, and kneecaps and then cut out the breast meat untouched and feed it to the dog. Dogs love them, but wtf.
I am yellow, i will tell you why. breast meat sucks. There is ZERO flavor out of it, most every asian recipe will call for chicken thighs/drumsticks, cuz that's where all the flavor is. Also if you don't know what the yummy chicken oyster is... well thata's just deliciousness.
Do japanese have any voodoo about ashes? when i went to spread my dogs ashes in my childhood home backyard, moms said i had to walk around the house thru the backyard, basically i couldn't bring the ashes inside the house.
