The Tanoubliette: Pussy Hurt and Delusions or TTPHAD for short.

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Tanoomba

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To The Edge:

You'll likely never read this, but don't take the "ditch her crazy ass" advice too seriously.

From what you said it sounds like you love her and were very seriously considering marrying her (unless you were bullshitting about wanting to buy a ring). It also sounds like she (at least in the past) loved you enough to also seriously consider marriage (talking about kids and the like). Now it's possible she actually did fall out of love with you (like she said), but its also possible she's confused and scared and not sure what the hell she's doing. If it's something she needs to figure out on her own, let her figure it out. If it's something she needs your support for, support her.

Now it's also entirely possible that she's bipolar or has borderline personality disorder. The peanut gallery will have you believe that the only reasonable choice either way is "get the fuck out and never look back", but I think you realize it's not that simple. Sometimes someone has issues, and if you truly care about that person it's something you end up working through together. Yes, it means additional challenges that not everyone will have to face in their relationship. Putting aside the fact that there's no such thing as an "easy" relationship, if you think you absolutely can not handle a girlfriend/wife/mother of your children who has mental health issues, then that's the end of that. But if you see it as just part of who she is, part of the bad that comes with the good but not something that's worth writing her off altogether for, then it may be worthwhile to discuss it with her and how it would affect your future together.

I'm definitely not saying that you should take her ass back every time she decides to temporarily dump you. Going through a "scared and confused" phase is one thing, but if it becomes a pattern then you'd seriously have to question whether both sides value the relationship equally and are equally willing to make it work. If she sees you as a plaything she can dispose of when you're not needed and pull off the shelf when she needs you again, that obviously won't lead to a healthy relationship. But if she loves you and truly wants to spend her life with you (obviously I'm just an outsider, but there were signs) and you feel the same way, then it might be worth the effort it takes to make the relationship work.

At the very least, don't assume any random strangers on the internet (including myself) have any idea what they're talking about when it comes to your relationship.

(Would have posted in the GWBYHT, but didn't want the ensuing inevitable bitchfest to cause a derail.)
 

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Its probably best for everyone for you to just keep every response you want to give anyone on the forums in this thread.

If anyone is interested in reading it, I'm sure they'll stop by.
 

Tanoomba

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Ooh, my fan club is vocalizing!


Gravy: "I heard that if you hold tanoomba against your ear, and be really quiet, you can hear the ocean."

Caribbean queen! Now we're sharing the same dream... And our hearts they beat as one... No more love on the run.



Noodlemod: "Tanoomba is a vagina in every sense of the word - literal, figurative, ethereal."

Ethereal shame you've got me making puns.



Hoss: "Is that why it took a douchebag to clean up her act?"

OK, that one was pretty good.
 

Tanoomba

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Phazael: "I love how a few celebrity nudies that they took and clouded are going to end up getting some guy tossed in pound me in the ass prison while a lot more ludicrous shit barely gets investigated."

Last line of the article: "Mr Hererra has not been charged with any crimes and the FBI has not responded to requests for comment by press time."
Having said that, while I agree that significantly more serious shit goes unpunished, this guy (if he's guilty) absolutely SHOULD do jail time. Fuck that asshole.
 

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Wednesday, June 10th. 8:13pm EST.

The day I agreed with Tanoomba about something.
 

khalid

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I enjoyed the Fappening. That being said, of course whoever did this deserves to get pound me in the ass prison time.
 

Tanoomba

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Cantatus: "It's hard for a site to take the stance that shitAmerican Inventorssay should be allowed on Reddit without being jumped on for being racist."

You don't say?

Whatever happened to "Play stupid games, win stupid prizes"?
 

Chanur

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Cantatus: "It's hard for a site to take the stance that shitAmerican Inventorssay should be allowed on Reddit without being jumped on for being racist."

You don't say?

Whatever happened to "Play stupid games, win stupid prizes"?
I often wonder what game we played to win you madam.
 

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Ooh, my fan club is vocalizing!
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Tanoomba

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Lith: "Ghazi member wrote a letter to the admins pleading for KiA to be taken down. Amazing people are this delusional. When he discusses harassment, he links a thread where Anita was on the Colbert report and a bunch of people were talking about how she was wrong. That, discussing a public figure, who is speaking or broadcasting publicly, is harassment."

Wow, that sounds terrible.

(Checks link)

Oh, that's not what the author said at all.

From the open letter in question:
"This subreddit was created specifically to harass Zoe Quinn and has then gone on to personally attack and direct doxxing attempts against women like Anita Sarkeesian, Brianna Wu and etc (Leigh Alexander) etc etc."

No mention of how "discussing a public figure, who is speaking or broadcasting publicly, is harassment" at all. Well, that's selection bias for ya.
 

Tanoomba

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Lith: "This was posted a few days ago, but now it's shown up in a few papers but I'm still having a hard time believing it's true--it's just too ridiculous. Man was passed out drunk, girlfriends roomate blew him while he was drunk--sent a text literally stating she molested the guy while he was unconscious, confessing that she did, in fact, sexually assault him (And even felt guilty about it, because it was her roomates bf.)"

Why would you think he was unconscious? Why would you interpret her texts as "literally stating she molested the guy while he was unconscious, confessing that she did, in fact, sexually assault him", when that's not at all what her texts said?

Holy shit, Lith, you are through the looking glass with your confirmation bias.
 

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Lith: "This was posted a few days ago, but now it's shown up in a few papers but I'm still having a hard time believing it's true--it's just too ridiculous. Man was passed out drunk, girlfriends roomate blew him while he was drunk--sent a text literally stating she molested the guy while he was unconscious, confessing that she did, in fact, sexually assault him (And even felt guilty about it, because it was her roomates bf.)"

Why would you think he was unconscious? Why would you interpret her texts as "literally stating she molested the guy while he was unconscious, confessing that she did, in fact, sexually assault him", when that's not at all what her texts said?

Holy shit, Lith, you are through the looking glass with your confirmation bias.
Because the Title 9 trial literally said there was evidence he was unconscious? If you're going to troll, at least read dip shit. She told her friend they had sex, and she told others he was passed out--hence I reached the same conclusion as the Title 9 inquiry in that regard.

Also, I'm openly stating I don't believe it. While you're misrepresenting what was in the article to the opposite effect of what was stated, and trying to confirm my belief as biased. Someone's bias is showing little buddy.
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(But it's okay, I know you're trolling, carry on.)
 

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This is an example that really shows how absurdly Tanoomba will go to believe any story given by a woman and dismiss any opposing story by a male. The term "white knight" is very often overused, but I can't really think of a term that fits his silliness (or trollishness) better.
 
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