Bronze Baronet of the Realm
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I chose small city but I may live in same the large urban hellscape as Quaid and Alex.
Our village is slowly creeping up to a population of 100. We might make it next year.
Next "town" of about 8k people is 10 minutes drive away, 30k people 20 minutes drive, 100k++ 30 minutes.
I like it where I am, no reason to leave. I know everyone. Everyone knows me. Everyone leaves everyone the fuck alone and minds their own business.
Pleasanton should definitely be considered a part of the Bay Area urban hellscape. I live in downtown SF and can be in Pleasanton in less than an hour because the train system goes there. I work with 2-4 people who live there and commute to SF a couple times a week. The Bay Area hellscape definitely has a huge influence on that area. And wouldn't be what it is if it wasn't for that.
I voted the 1mil+ option although I think SF is more around 900k. It feels like it's over a million people, though. City is the right size for me. I really enjoy big city life.
I live 44 seconds away from a fire station full of paramedics in a rural area. They could walk to me before the ambulance bay door was even open.Live in the 'burbs and it's how I like it. Here's my logic why:
City living is expensive, dangerous (crime-wise), and I'd be prone to becoming an alcoholic with so many bars in walking distance. Cities are where shit goes down should shit go down, and not in the good way. Parking is a bitch, and some people's solution to that is "well yeah man, once you live in the city, you don't need a car" Well how about no... I want to take a vacay sometime to the mountains or the beach etc. Noise pollution is a thing too. It's just so ugly, the concrete jungle.
Country living is too far removed from things. We're not wasps.. we're social creatures and I like being around others (yeah I know, crazy right? I actually like people!!!). If you're living out in the country, your chances of surviving a medical emergency is lessened due to response time. Plus, 30 minute drives to nearest Wal-Marts are not what I'd call "time well spent" in your life. Not to mention the bugs and creatures (large and small) and big swaths of land to maintain (underground yellowjacket nests? Lovely).
The 'burbs is just the best of both worlds. A happy medium if you will. I have trees and a creek right outside my window and hummingbirds, cardinals, and bluejays will all come and visit, but the nearest gas pump, gallon of milk, and EMT station are just a mile or two away.
It is amazing what humans can get used to, and eventually Stockholm themselves into preferring.
You're the type of person that I always assumed "fits" in the city, as opposed to a lot of other people that I think just haven't ever seen anything else before. I can't really make a compelling rural vs urban argument to someone that is passionate about stuff that only cities can offer.Or maybe people are different and many of us humans actually enjoy big city life. I fucking love living in SF. I'm active in the music community and I live where it's all happening. Walking distance from at least four prime music venues. I have a 10 minute walking commute to work. Easy access to so many cultures (i.e. awesome food scene). 24 hour convenience and access to many commodities. Every fun city event where people have to think about parking or getting a hotel? Not a problem for me! All the sudden everyone is asking if they can stay at my place. I also travel a ton - for work and pleasure. Being a 30 minute drive from SFO is fantastic. When i think about people who might live in Wyoming and have to plan for a multi-hour drive just to GET to an airport? WTF!
Every time I think about moving and losing those benefits I decide it's not worth it.
And I'm in California so getting to nature is extremely easy. Just this past weekend I took a 30 min drive north of the city to be here:
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I love living here and don't have any plans of leaving soon.
4 years ago I moved from the greater Atlanta metro area (4mm+ overall, 100k+ in my "suburb" town) to the country. Bought 60 acres and theres maybe 50 people in a 2 mile radius. I'm 30 miles from a city of about 200k people. Not much but farms in between. Its heaven.
I have a fire/ems station 4 miles away. Closest trauma center is 30ish miles. Closest grocery store/gas is 16 miles.
You learn to stock up on the basics so its not a big deal. The only thing I miss is restaurant delivery and a really good sushi place.
I don't miss:
- a 30 minute drive to the grocery store thats 2 miles away from my old house because the traffic sucks. I could usually walk there faster.
- Urban outdoorsmen
- "hood" attitude everywhere
- Lack of general friendliness
- Rediculous property taxes
- Bernie /Obama /<your government Santa here> stickers on every Prius.
- I could go on...
Real talk? Seems like everyone's kids around here are fucking autistic. Not because how they behave, mind you-- I've gotten used to screechy nonverbal 4-5 year olds. But it feels like almost every time someone drags their kid into our work the first thing out of their mouth is 'Aiden/Jaeden/Potato is autistic' -- I know it's a lot more often than a 3% or whatever the fuck occurence rate is supposed to be now. Everyone's got one in the family now and it's become a weird badge of honor that people put as rainbow puzzle piece stickers in the back of the van window.
I'm jealous.I live in a town of close to 200k. The wife and i bought a farm tbis year in an earea where noone can see or hear a neighbour. the farmers are super friendly and helpful but also mind their own business. I am going to love living there.I hate cities. Spent my wbole adult life grying to get out. I want someone to find my corpse face down in the dirt not the pavement.