Dating.....the dating world right now kinda blows lol.
I've been seeing someone for about 2 months, but she lives 2 hours away, so mostly just weekends. It started off well, we are both active and in good shape, but her mask has come off and time to say it isn't working. I knew the dating pool was preety broken, but holy hell I wasn't prepared (married for almost 20 years, widowed for 1.5)
I don't even go out on dates anymore, because quite frankly almost every woman I even spend any real time talking with proceeds to find a way to completely turn me off. Like I started to really hit it off with a woman in my complex last year, a cute one, only to quickly discover she's batshit fucking whacko (she's in some sort of mental health facility now, so...)
The tip-off was when the police were called on an unrelated issue in the complex and I watched her just interject herself into what was going on, as if it had anything to do with her, then realized she knew the officers by name already, then realized they knew HER by name already and had a generally exasperated tone towards her. Sure enough, a couple days later she got into some kind of argument with an old guy from the neighborhood (a really nice guy who frazzles easily, basically an easy target), and started belittling him and shit, to the point that I went over like "the fuck is going on here? why don't you leave this guy alone and go have a cigarette or something"
What a turd.
More recently I started to like the niece of one of my neighbors, but when I got to know her a little bit, she turned out to completely not have any of her shit together. Like she's driving on an expired license with zero reason not to go fix it. She got a flat tire and I went to help her out, only to find that she doesn't have a working tire jack, just a rusted piece of shit years ago that immediately broke when I used it. She couldn't deal with any of this because of her chronic headaches. I said she needs to see a doctor about that and she said she doesn't have health insurance. Why doesn't she have health insurance, when she's in the income bracket where she could get free health insurance? Because she "doesn't have time to make the phone calls". Kinda like how she doesn't have time to stop by the DMV and renew her license.
Literally every fucking problem she had, when I proposed the incredibly simple solution, she had some lame as fuck excuse for why she didn't do it yet. I lost interest incredibly fast. At least she's nice and not a whacko, but geez.
Then there was a woman at my local library who I hit it off with and thought I might have something with, but next thing I know she was on vacation every time I stopped by, for like an entire month, and by the time I saw her again we didn't have any of the initial chemistry. Matter of fact she is awkward as hell around me, the way you are with either someone you have a crush on or someone you're wary of. Like I try to carry on convos with her and there's nothing remotely relaxed about it, she literally acts like she's a high schooler in a teen movie who has a crush and is terrified of saying the wrong thing. She's like 27 years old.
There have been a few other women I met/liked in recent times who all turned out to be either taken or a raging leftist (usually, the two don't cross over, interestingly enough).
I'm interested though, how has your woman's "mask come off"? I've had several women in the past who were super great at first and then after 1-3 months of dating (it's always after 30 days and before 90 days) they "fall off" and suddenly I start seeing their alcoholism, stupid behaviors, they start being more bossy or negative, etc. Had one girl who I thought was basically perfect, like I was legit in love with her, and after a month I discovered what a spaz she was when she cancelled a date so she could cross state lines to buy a carton of cigarettes tax-free and save $15 or something. After a while with these kinds of women I start to wonder if they have a working brain.