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Because it would ruin the relationship?

Yes, all I really need to hear is someone provide useful feedback to the exact question that I ask in a reasoned manner. That"s nonsense right? I"m not interested in getting into philosophical "lifeboat" scenarios (well what if it"s a halloween party and I"m wearing a mask and forgot my ID at...

This is exactly the type of response I was looking for, especially the last part. Thanks, and respect for arguing on the terms I laid out. For the record, the condition of "0 chance of getting caught" is fair game to challenge as impossible. Any of my premises or inferences are.

Well, most of my points are kind of on the sideline of the main point I"m trying to make. And I will spoiler that point because I don"t wanna ruin the surprise: Spoiler Alert, click show to read:I am not Dandain

I absolutely agree with this, and your entire post as well. But I"m missing where deceiving someone else necessarily means deceiving yourself.

Well, I don"t think you have to lie to yourself in order to lie to another person. But you touched on something else, that constantly deceiving someone else takes a toll on you in some other way, no matter what, and you end up worse off because of it? Could you elaborate on that?

Relax buddy. I even said that if girls could have emotion-free sex, there is no reason why my future wife shouldn"t cheat on me. I"m seeing both sides. Also, intellectualization isn"t a defense mechanism when you aren"t protecting yourself from anything. I"m not looking for justification for a...

"How would you feel" implies that I would find out. I"m speaking of a scenario there finding out is impossible (ie international trip, no one you know is around, etc). In that case, even if the tables are turned, if a woman is capable of detaching sex from emotion (they aren"t), I can think of...

You"re cool with being backup plan? Strictly based on pride I will not take backup role. If a girl makes more effort to spend time with another guy, it"s over forever.

No one answered my question. Except brekk but his post was just words that don"t actually mean anything. If there is 0 chance of getting caught, what logical reason do you have not to cheat? If you can"t get caught, you can"t hurt her. And what else is there that makes the act of sex with...

I"m torn regarding lying about cheating...I tend to think you should lie, UNLESS there is something that made the situation different with the other girl and your current girlfriend will have no reason to believe you"ll do the same with her. Like you were 16, or something else. Telling her...

As much as I don"t like thecutlery, I love his view on Etoille because he"s so accurate. For herpes boy: if you knowingly fuck a girl with herpes, you deserve it. A condom will make transmission less likely, but condoms don"t cover your balls, the area above your dick, or your thighs that all...

Etoille and Darus, no need to personally insult the guy if you don"t agree with what he"s doing. Etoille I know that"s your MO here, wait for brad or eomer to post then attack them, then buy more diamonds and eat a McGriddle, but darus I don"t recall that being yours. Be constructive or stfu...

My girlfriend used to work 70-80 hours a week and still managed to see me 2-3 times a week. She currently works about 60 hours a week and travels 75 minutes one way to see me 2 times a week. That"s 2 1/2 hours round trip, + 60 hours a week of work. She works so late that she arrives at 1am and I...

Correction: You shouldalwayslisten to a girl"sinterpretationof a situation with another girl. You shouldneverlisten to a girl"sadviceabout what to do about it.

You see her the same night. Don"t talk to her much. She sends you a text and you immediately ask her out the first message you send. Then comment that she makes excuses with you, openly acknowledging that you want to see her more than she wants to see you. Pretty self explanatory. I...

Fixed She"ll probably try to manipulate you into getting back with her. Pulling all kinds of "I miss you, [whatever she did wrong] was a mistake, I love you blah blah" But...it"s only bc you"re banging other girls. If you go back with her and she thinks she has you, she"ll get bored of you...

Arguments between Etoille and TheCutlery are great. I don"t care who wins as long as someone is being made a fool. P.S. TC you fail bc you didn"t make an eating reference.

Haha yea this. It could ruin any chance you had, or make her 5x more into you. TheCutlery, jesus dude. It"s like you take everything that is true in life and say the opposite. I"ll go ahead and tell you that, as the product of a marriage that stayed together "for the kids," it"s the worst...

Brad is doing a pretty classic "take control of one"s life in irrational ways in order to regain a sense of control." Like the teenage girl with ultra strict, controlling parents that becomes anorexic or the wife with a controlling/domineering husband who puts on mass weight for seemingly no...

When people are going through a tough time, they don"t leave people they feel really close with. If anything they lean on them more and become closer to them. If she wants to take a break from you while things are rough in her life, it means you add stress to her life in some way, rather than...

Cross-post WHAT THE FUCK TOO EARLY

Dude it"s not that we think you go out with a girl on one date and if you like her enough you start preparing for your wedding. It"s the simple fact that you even SAY things like "I could potentially fall for this girl really fast." That thought never even enters my mind when I meet a girl. It"s...

Meet her in person, don"t lie, break up. Success. And why do you say shit like "this could be a girl I fall for really quick"?? What the hell happened to "I really like her so far" the end? Why are you already predicting some all-or-nothing scenario? It"s always either "This isn"t a girl I...

Well?

Yes, herpes, which 50% of the pop doesn"t have because I"m obviously not talking about cold sores, is damn huge std scare. And chlamydia, which doesn"t make men sterile and is usually symptomatic in men thus leading to quick treatment, given that this thread is all fucking men, is not an STD...

Chlamydia isn"t an STD scare, unless you call having someone call you and say "yo, I got the flu, and I know we hung out yesterday so you might wanna get checked out!" a flu scare. Suffer a little bit, go to doctor, it goes away forever. I never had an STD but if I found out I got something...

Normally I"d say grow some balls, make a move, make something happen, and if she responds then great, and if you get rejected, you at least know the answer and you can move on. But she"s in Europe for 6 months? What a stupid time to "realize" your infatuation for her. Sounds like you want...

Ok good call on 3 month blocks. I moved people arbitrarily to a 3 month block within the 6-mo block they chose. And moved myself to fill an earlier gap. Sorry to hear that you lost your job Brad. But, I will still keep this chart running unless you decide to go to court (of course waiting on a...

Hey math wizards, I said 6 month blocks. That means that your dibs on month 27.865 makes no sense. And no, you can"t call x period after the ex"s wedding, unless you know when the wedding is and do the math on your own. Start time is April for sake of ease: 0-6 months: 7-12 months: 13-18...

For the love of god listen to this man. It"s not about saying "fuck her, we"re going to court." It"s about protecting yourself. As it is now, she has a giant "fuck brad over" card she can play ANY TIME SHE WANTS. I know you don"t like being in that situation. It"s about protecting...

Good post. Brad, every time the board comes together with advice that is against what you instinctively want to do (which is what advice IS), you fight it tooth and nail with more vigor than Etoille eating a cheeseburger. It"s a god damn pain in the ass. Then finally you get beat down so much...

Given that odds are any one person you talk to not being good relationship material for you, ending up with a story like that is batting WAY above par. Think of all the stories here of things not working out after the first, second, 10th date and nothing interesting at all happens, and in 3...

u mad?

I never gave credit for what caused the insecurity to be cured (no)--decreased. I would attribute it to life experience.

I really like this point. When I started learning how to talk to women, and right up until about 7 months ago when I was forced out of it, I always looked for overt signs of interest from the girl and never pursued any that didn"t basicallytellme in one way or another (maybe cryptically) she...

Sleeping with a girl for the first time and not calling her the day after (2nd day after at the absolute latest) is a really bad move. It"s a huge insult. "Since we slept together I have no reason to contact you anymore." Might as well just tell her that.

More often than not they"re just trying to convince themselves rather than convince you. Meaning that they fuck, and are unsuccessfully trying to stop fucking.

On the other hand, most girls refuse to acknowledge that, if they"re attractive, most guys they talk to want to fuck them and are constantly scheming at how they can accomplish that. "Oh we"re just friends, he"s not interested in me, he won"t try anything" can lead to some bad events, to her not...

In effort to derail the hate now, I will tell a story of epic fail. (Spoiler unimportant backstory)Spoiler Alert, click show to read: Short summary of me and DG: my year contract is over, I"m moving into Seoul and will be 1hr+ by subway away from DG instead of 20 min bus ride. This is gonna...