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The first comment, what is the context? If you were not directly in the content of the conversation, comparing "he" to you makes no sense and is weird. For example, if the conversation went something like "blah blah blah now his business is really successful blah blah blah" and you say "yea...

Wait there are people thatdon"thave ark on ignore? The guy does nothing but make posts about how cool he is...on the internet. I"m actually embarrassed for him.

Fake it till you make it. It works.

First off, I don"t think being a "giver" is a natural state. Human beings are, by nature, traders, as are all creatures. When you evaluate a girl as a potential interest, you are weighing her goods and faults against your own. It"s been shown in studies that people naturally seek out those whom...

"Nice guy" is too broad a description. If it means pushover, then yea, it never pays to be a pushover. Or a guy who has no self esteem and overcompensates by buying excessive gifts and showering a woman with affection before he knows her well, then yea, that doesn"t pay either. But if you mean...

So I had lunch date with DG on Sunday. I made some chicken fried rice & dumplings (ok, I heated frozen dumplings in a pan) and we watched a movie at my place. I really didn"t put much effort into it, making an easy, unbalanced meal I"ve made a ton of times before and not even finding a movie...

You seem to activity-drop (like name-dropping, but for activities) quite a lot, like you are trying too hard to impress her with your interesting life. How about just "did a little rafting and downhill mountain biking...had a lot of fun, it was [insert emotion here and build on that]" or "had a...

what are you talking about...a dad that wants his son to get laid, alert the authorities!

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hahaha @ alcestis. Nice post --------- I will post boring info in an attempt to stop this horrible derail (personal attacks, to etoille-brad dickmeasuring contest, to the merits of the claim that one can teach oneself to read (WTF was this anyway? no one gives a shit) to some guy who...

This isn"t a post sob stories and feel sorry for yourself circle jerk thread. And with that viewpoint towards women, you are sure to not get any ever. Brad was acting like a retard and etoille, still enraged from brad having killed her cat or something, called him on it...ruthlessly. You expect...

Can we start linking to backstory posts? So many to keep track of now I"m lost.

Haka I really like most of it. I don"t like "well traveled" (pretentious imo), the nice guy references, letting me treat you like a princess, the excessive "hopefully"s, and "per say" (plus I"m pretty sure you spelled it wrong...per se, right?). Other than those I absolutely love the profile.

I look forward to the day Ronaan discovers she"s a post-op tranny or something equally weird as fuck to warrant 10 years without ever dating. Does she have a giant goiter on her neck? <object width="425" height="344"><param name="movie"...

I"ve always wondered if in-your-face attacks like Etoille is dropping ever inspire any change. At first they always create defensiveness and make the listener close off completely, but after a time and some distance I wonder if they inspire any change. Tactful approach is pretty much always more...

Really, tarrant, I"m starting to think if you don"t do something soon you are fucked. The "feeling" of fear that you will revert is not "going away." What event will make it go away? Because the same shit you are doing isn"t eliminating it. You are gonna come to resent her, and she is gonna get...

Maybe that"s why most of my short-term relationships have been short-term. Girl always seems to pull something stupid after a few weeks and I ignore her when she does it, then a few days later she pulls back big time. Congrats ronaan, glad to see you got somethin good again. 1 step behind is...

The only "faith" in this thread is YOUR faith that it WON"T work. All anyone is saying is TRY IT. And you are putting up so much of a fight against trying something once. My mistake, you have a sample size of 1. Honestly, I don"t think counseling will help you, because I don"t think you are...

What other opinions do you hold with absolutely nothing to base them on? When I volunteered for a crisis hotline in college we had the phone number of most of our repeat callers" psychologist in order to contact them during off hours, and we frequently had to. They always called their client...

You lose nothing but a negligible amount of money if you go and its not worthwhile, and you stand to gain hugely. It"s not even a question, there is no downside to just trying it. So any hesitation or apprehension is you just being lazy and/or afraid to take a step to improve (akachange) your...

The key point behind what I suggested was to correct her and say "no, I am not a different person. If you think I am a different person, you are making a mistake. (...long pause) I have just adjusted my attitude. If you didn"t like the person I was when we broke up, you won"t like me now (long...

holy fucking shit a woman who knows whats going on in her head tarrant, in what way have you acknowledged that you"ve changed or are making a point to change? She brings it up every now and then, right? I"m curious, because I was thinking about it and don"t know when this "I"m still...

Etoille, sorry, but terrible, terrible advice with the ramen bullshit. Women are great for some things but "how to get the girl" is not one of them. They envision ultra romantic grand gestures that in reality make girls weirded out when it actually happens, because they are thinking of Disney...

24, current pursuit is 31. I WIN. Oh and great post Etoille, I knew there was a reason I didn"t put you on ignore before . Some of those things even made me think back and realize "duh, of course it woulda ended like that, I had all the warning signs from the start." Maybe it"s just me...

She"s also apparently a hill giant judging by the size of the pic. jesus

He"ll be back, only this time aliens will have abducted his girlfriend

That"s not being unavailable fyi. You denied her saturday but as a result she saw you (err, planned to see you) earlier. "Friday? Oh...sorry, this weekend just isn"t good, how about [some day early next week]." Also, obviously, ignore Sutekh

Tarrant, if even 1% of what you posted is a result of any advice I"ve given, I"d consider that time well spent for me. Have to give you huge props for the attitude change and the way you are handling it. You hit on a key point that anyone who is tryin to get back with an ex should be thinking...

Eomer, sounds really, really like she is probing for attention. Have you told her that you like her random comments in the past? If so, it"s definite probing for attention. Seriously, just don"t message her. Brad is right (I happen to speak the foreign language that he typed in, I believe he...

As a guy, you will never know the source of your desire until you bang and experience the 30 minutes after it happens. I remember I had a booty call agreement with an ex and around 3 weeks of not getting any I started to develop emotions for her again, and questioned whether breaking up was the...

I"m in Korea. And when in Rome.......... I"m not some Asian fetish weirdo, but I do like the Asian look quite a bit, better than any other ethnicity. And the remainder of my interest is mostly a combo of curiosity, and just for the experience of dating an Asian woman. I get to learn a lot...

I"ve run into that once, though a little more extreme. Girl from Cali visiting her family for a week when I was in NC. Had an amazing night and the next day just hung out and talked all day. When it came time to fooling around I got the no-go since she was leaving the next day, while no doubt it...

Don"t wait for an opportunity, when you first meet her again, go for a hug. The hug is fucking amazing for Asian women because they only hug the opposite sex when they are dating...but most people know that western people hug the opposite sex more liberally. So the beauty is that you get to do a...

I only know Korean, but I"m sure there are tons of similarities, and I had a hell of a time (and still do) trying to understand them. First, you may have been a little pushy about meeting up, offering 3 days in 3-4 days, yes? Cut it back a little. Send a couple texts a day, some days send none...

whyme is a smart man and... good job being smart and upholding your dignity And who cares what Ronaan used to weigh? If he is a tubby now and complaining about the girl being a little overweight, yea that wouldn"t make sense. But he"s in good shape now, meaning he can be more selective...

Not everything means something. Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar, as Freud says. Ever have something trigger a thought about someone and sent them a random message for no particular reason? I do it all the time and it means nothing except that something amused me and I wanted to share it. There...

Magic Bullets by Savoy - Focuses on canned material and unnatural game. But you can learn a *lot* of fantastic concepts in this. You may not want to lie and say "I have to get back to my friends in a second, but....." when you approach a girl, but to learn WHY that works, even if you never use...

Honestly I think you"re interpreting malice where there likely is none. Just because we overanalyze everything here doesn"t mean most people do. Most people just follow their desires without evaluating why they have them. I know so little info here but I have a strong intuition that you had her...

Rarely does a situation present itself so clearly that inspires me to comment immediately and with 100% confidence that everything I say in this case is going to be correct. Forgive the arrogance. Beautiful. The time-table is perfect, well done so far. She is giving some minor but expected...