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Vim you lost the moment you told her you couldn"t stop thinking about her. Certainties: (1) Don"t give her the gift. Alcestis is right, you aren"t friends anymore, you are her supply of attention. When she isn"t getting enough or wants an ego boost, she contacts you for a guaranteed esteem...

A wise man once said "you can"t next a girl until you sleep with her." if you were interested enough to post once about her, you may not next her! Yea it"s a little dogmatic but I live by it because it prevents backwards rationalization ("oh I didn"t really like her anyway" after I puss out on...

Sounds like she needs to establish her own identity. At 19 she was living with you and having you provide for her, but she was just a server and hadn"t finished school yet. There is implicit pressure in that circumstance. Even if you as a person don"t put any pressure on her (it doesn"t sound...

Eomer I"m getting the same impression on this convo as the last one: you are trying too hard to impress her. Absolutely everything you say is built off something she says. It just feels like you are taking any chance possible to be witty in an attempt to impress her. And if I feel it, she feels...

Eomer you gave too much in your responses. The divorce line itself is lengthy, so if a girl responds with only 1 sentence, I would keep my response to 1 sentence or less, but as carefully crafted and intriguing as possible. "By the way I forgot the dog died last week while I was in japan," (or...

1. It"s possible, though I have no idea the likelihood of success since I will never settle. Only that there are steps I can take to maximize that chance. 2. Certainly. 3. Once I"ve played the field enough, I"ll be willing to give up other conquests for the greater intimacy and closeness of a...

This is smart. You can bypass "go out with me" language by leading her into it in an ambiguous manner. She can"t tell if you"re simply being polite and social or if you"re interested in her, and really that"s the best place you want a girl until she gives multiple sure signs of interest in you.

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Contrary to popular belief, the dance floor is not a place to pick up girls. Just because a girl is into dancing with you doesn"t mean she wants to fuck, many/most just like dancing, being a little edgy and dangerous on the dance floor, and going home safe and sound with their girlfriends. You...

How do you fuck without kissing? That"s just so weird to me, never done it.

First, your balls have to drop. Second, once that happens you don"t need any more advice because you will realize that obsessing over a slut that fucked you over and has no actual redeeming qualities is juvenile and a waste of time. I"m confused, you broke up a month ago (and also found...

lost, that"s odd behavior from her. No idea whether it means anything about her interest in you or not, but at best it"s just stupid (whoever said she should be de-friending the ex, not everyone else, is right). He"s obv. got power over her still so even if she"s still interested in you, you...

Yea, vim you basically told her these things directly. In fact, never tell anyone anything about a girl unless it"s a male friend and you know he is incredibly loyal to you. Girls will always tell each other anything whether they"re friends or not, and many guys are eager to tell an attractive...

Don"t be that fuckin guy. Can"t believe you are even considering it. Revenge over hurt feelings is about the lamest thing you can possibly do. I can"t even think of a single thing that would make someone more of a loser. And the kicker is the hurt feelings are from someone other than the...

I finally got laid again. Random westerner I met recently. Thank fucking god I thought my dick was gonna fall off. There is no real story because while she is attractive, I wasn"t particularly interested so I just did whatever I wanted and it fell into my lap. Sex was ok, but the good thing is...

Flying out there when you aren"t in a relationship and she"s not depressed about not seeing you is a terrible, terrible idea. No, it never works, even movies are getting the hint.

Question answered. Lead.

I think the right solution is date another girl from the car scene. Ignore the fact that girls who hang out with douchebags are also douchebags. 3rd time"s the charm!

Sorry, but anyone who contemplates sending a 2nd package after a first highly-questionable package is ignored does not find getting laid easy. If you aren"t gonna be honest here you shouldn"t ask for advice. Here"s the thing: a certain type of girl may love that type of stuff...when you are in a...

I don"t think I need to explain my position on sending the package. Of course, it could have been harmless, but stuffed animal + flower petals is a little...too romantic for so early, and I"m guessing that the letter contained some confession of how much you enjoyed her company blah blah blah...

I feel for you Eomer, no doubt the frustration of getting involved w/ anyone is a large part of the appeal of just saying fuck it and being a man-whore. It"s worth it in the end though when you meet someone that you truly line up with perfectly. I wouldn"t put much weight in her explanations...

I think that"s a good call Eomer, for your own sake. Don"t get down on yourself too much, everyone has multiple could-have-been girls that didn"t work out for one reason or another, and they just get back up and move on. And again as someone else has said there are many other girls, likely you...

This is what I meant. I didn"t read the stories about Chuck, but for what its worth, I thought these quotes were about Anne until Alcestis said otherwise. The wording was different but the message was the same so I assumed that I remembered the details wrongly. Let me offer an evaluation of...

Congrats on the success bofa. I think Tenks may be right. Be cautious about letting go of the reigns. It"s annoying, but a fact that every guy accepts at some point: you are gonna have to take control most of the time, even in an established relationship. Here"s a good rule of thumb: don"t give...

lost, you"re a fuckin douchebag when you tell her daddy on her. What are you 4? Revenge is good when it"s in the form of "holy shit I found out my girlfriend is cheating on me while I"m currently doing her a big favor (moving), fuck it I"m turning around, using her car that she lent me to do the...

lost: You are driving her car and find her cell phone proving she"s cheating on you. Under no circumstance should you have moved her out. Ideally you should have turned around on immediately, driven home to your house, left her car there, and take yours out to meet some friends for a beer...

I"m not set against dating a korean girl, in fact my intention when I came here was to do just that, if only for the learning experience. I was more referencing the unlikelihood of finding a real relationship, and also a reliable lay outside of a relationship (which would likely never be of any...

Man I hit a sore point with aych. I haven"t got laid in months because I"m...wait for it...in fucking Korea. I"m 24 and still looking for what I want out of life and still establishing my identity. I"ve been to a number of different places and met, and left, many groups of friends in the...

Aychamo, you yourself has said that game is very important for people who aren"t naturals, because it teaches you how to think and act like a natural. I"m paraphrasing but I know for a fact you"ve said or implied this because I remember agreeing with you. If bofa is telling a girl to call...

bofa, only kiss on the first date if the interaction warrants it. If she and you are both having a good time, do it in the middle of the date. The last-minute kiss is cowardly and cheesy. Hey, I"m gonna kiss you, but if it doesn"t work out I can escape because the night is over. The first date...

I would think not until she has some solid interest shown, maybe around when you could kiss her. That way her desire blocks the potential negative of you being even younger than she thought. This is barely more than a guess though. Regardless it"s probably important to make sure you say it in...

First off, thanks everyone for the input and advice on my situation. It was a good bit of advice and all constructive, so thanks. For ancalagen: I would bring it up to him, not in a whiney "we never see each other" kind of way, but just point out that since he"s been dating this girl you"re...

It was whiney, you are right. And you are right about the underlying issue. If we had more time, canceled plans wouldn"t be much of an issue and I would be able to handle it better. The frustration lies in the fact that I"m aware of the time difficulties and from the getgo made a point to work...

Holy fuck this is long. But please read it. I try my best to give long and thoughtful advice to a lot of you guys, so I ask you try to return the effort and suffer through the length and read all of this. If it makes you feel any better, I almost broke up with the new gf yesterday, and am...

Everyone makes mistakes, acts poorly based on new emotions, etc. You gotta allow a little leeway for people to make a bad decision here and there. What matters is what happens next time. If she does something similar the next time, then you"re 99% wasting your time with this chick, not simply...

Do you realize what you are describing? I thought we already established that Eomer was, in fact, dating a female?

I think you have the right idea. It could turn out either way, so stay with it until it"s no longer worth the uncertainty. EVERYONE has an ex they think about. That alone means nothing. When, after one year, I broke up with my girlfriend a couple years ago and she started dating another guy...

I would also suggest semi-demanding she tell you over the phone. Say that you understand it"s maybe difficult, but you"ve been patient and its causing you a lot of frustration, and its time to let it out. If she won"t, ask her if she expects you to sit around for another week wondering wtf is...

The guy doesn"t need wild speculation based on nothing. Everyone"s had shitty times. Maybe she"s reevaluating her life and wants to run away and dress up like a pelican and fight cats, no one fuckin knows so don"t add more bs to be paranoid about. I think eomer you need to shut up and give...

No shit. Every single response was 2 sentences of "Oh take your time it"s ok it"s ok. Did I do something wrong? I"m sorry." And that"s just what you quoted. You can be understanding and patient, but jesus tone it down. Once, MAYBE twice you can reassure her, then shut the fuck up. All that...