Think I may have encountered a woman under 30 who doesnt care to text.
Originally got this coworkers number so I could send her a picture of something on my phone when I didnt have it on me. Month goes by with her never responding to the message but thought nothing of it.
Well two weeks ago I ask her out. Send her a straight forward text "Would you like to get a drink 7pm Sunday at xyz?". No response that day after asking her. Wake up the next morning to a text from her saying she works that day but tells me what her schedule is. Okay obvious layup to ask her out on a day shes not working so I do. No response the rest of the day. Wake up again to another text from her saying this Friday isnt good for her so how about the following Friday. I say sounds good you seem worth the wait. No response.
Friendly and talkative as usual at work but over a week goes by with her not texting me back. Has me thinking did this woman give me a really soft rejection or was she serious so I send her a text asking if her if were still on for Friday. Responds with nothing more than "Yes! 7pm at xyz".
Friday afternoon comes by so I send her a text telling her where to meet at exactly. Says great ill see you there. Actually ended up having to change where we went as there was an event and parking as a major pita. Meet up with her where she parked and she was dressed surprisingly nice, clearly taking this seriously. Ends up being a pretty good date, lasts for almost 4 hours, plenty of physical contact, setup a second date this weekend and kissed her and felt her up a little bit at the end.
She did text me after she got home saying she had a great time and looks forward to this weekend but beyond that not much. Aside from confirming a time to pick her up Saturday shes only sent 3-4 text.
A little jarring just because every other woman ive talked to that was interested me in was fairly texty. It is nice to get any awkward good morning texts but so used to it makes me go hmmm. Though maybe shes perfectly healthy and just warming up to be communicative like a well adjusted person normally does.
Not sure what that means when a woman acts like that. It's kind of baffling.
Story Time with Raj: Had a similar experience with a 27 year old back in 2014 or so. She was a ten in every regard, for me at least. Looked like a young Olivia Munn and was smart as hell, told me Obama was an empty suit and I should stop expecting much out of him, thought we needed a "Ron Paul type" to come in and overturn the whole political apparatus. Fantastic at everything physically, was fun and passionate. Carried herself super-well, everyone who met her seemed to instantly be a fan. Probably my favorite girl I ever dated short-term (too short, unfortunately). Met her through her sister, who I went to school with. She was in grad school herself.
We went on a couple dates and they were amazing (we could talk for 7 hours straight and have it never get the least bit dull, and would be together until like 4 in the morning on school nights), but her texting was atrocious. She'd take about an entire day to respond to things, would give these short answers and not follow up until I pressed. Then I'd see her again and it'd go great, I'd text her I had fun, then get nothing for three days. Then she'd send a "I had fun too, can't wait to do that again" and then nada. I'd text and ask if she was free the next weekend and would get no response until after the weekend was over, saying sorry she had been super busy. At that point I kinda gave up and figured she was sending me "go away" hints, so I stopped texting her and never heard anything else. She wasn't meeting me halfway, hell, she wasn't even meeting me 10% of the way.
Couple years later I ran into her during a friend get together and we ended up hanging out one-on-one for a while and having dinner, then sitting outside on a park bench, making out. Realized I was still as into her as I used to be. I told her about how I liked her, but also that I basically gave up on her before because she didn't answer shit and gave me the impression she wanted me to go away. She said, and I quote, "No, I liked you too, you just needed to be more aggressive with me". So...text her more when she's giving me the impression she either doesn't care or I'm bothering her? Wat?
Goddamn, chasing and I don't mix anymore, confusion and I mix even less.
Anyway the next day I texted her how good it was to see her again and I'd like to go out with her that weekend if she was free. No response...ever. LOL.
Saw her again a couple years later at an event her sister invited me to. Hung out, had fun, didn't even try anything, didn't care anymore (I was with someone then anyway). There was another guy there who'd been hanging out with her as a buddy and was losing his mind because he liked her so much and didn't know how to broach the subject or if she'd reciprocate. Me and another guy were talking to him about it over beers, trying to offer advice. Turned out she gave him zero hints of any kind of attraction, and he felt like she didn't care, so he was apprehensive about taking any kind of action. Meanwhile she was on the other side of the room talking to this buff guy with a motorcycle and playing with her hair.
I advised Captain Friendzone McBeta to not even bother. Two minutes later she comes over and talks to him... while leaning back onto me, pressing her entire body against me while I rested my chin on top of her head and looked off into space. Case in point. Never saw her again after that party. Still might be my favorite girl I ever dated... while we were actually around each other, but goddamn, it was like she lacked any object permanence once I was out of sight.
Writing it all down, I actually kinda see what she meant though. She probably wanted me to take her if I wanted her and didn't do wishy-washy stuff. She gave me all the physical green lights multiple times over and it was my turn to seize the day (and her). However, if I didn't, no biggie. She might not have seen me as anything serious, hell she might not have seen anybody as anything serious. She was usually a loner from what I heard from people, with the occasional hookups.
Wonder what she's doing now. She'd be 38 or so. Last time I saw her she was about 32 and still gorgeous. Maybe I should give her a call (lol a text would sit on "read" for 3 weeks).
Zero object permanence though... da hell.
