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Phazael

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You attack where I live (and by extension, my wife), but I should take that "difference of opinion" at face value and not a personal attack?

Sure sparky.
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Show me where I or anyone else in this thread have said anything about entitled Dallas women that you yourself has not also stated prior. Show me where anything I said was an attack on your wife. Or is being interested in someone's opinion and agreeing with it an attack now? You are arguing for the sake of arguing over petty BS we agreed to bury the hatchet on, but evidently that was a falsehood. This is the wrong part of the forum for this behavior and you know it. But since I can't put a Mod on ignore and I don't want the Beagle treatment, you win Millie.
 
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This would have had to have been a setting that the women can choose, right?

You don't think that such a setting would have been discussed or mentioned... ANYWHERE... in 15+ years?
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I feel like this will be the 3rd time I have mentioned that it wasn't obvious exactly what the setting did just from the description. It might have been something like "block people looking for hookups". Pretty sure it was a (or maybe THE) dev who outlined it on the forum and said they would never provide a way to clear the flag from your profile. You could always uncheck the filter on your side, but your profile always had that flag.
 
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I feel like this will be the 3rd time I have mentioned that it wasn't obvious exactly what the setting did just from the description. It might have been something like "block people looking for hookups". Pretty sure it was a (or maybe THE) dev who outlined it on the forum and said they would never provide a way to clear the flag from your profile. You could always uncheck the filter on your side, but your profile always had that flag.
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Thats fine, I'm just not sure I buy it for the reasons mentioned, I am pretty sure you must be misremembering, but since there's no evidence either way, maybe PoF guy was trying shit sure.

That in no way means that is available today or these chicks are checking it and lying to me or not telling me about it, and absolutely no source on the internet has ever heard anything about this... so... what are we arguing about again?

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Show me where I or anyone else in this thread have said anything about entitled Dallas women that you yourself has not also stated prior. Show me where anything I said was an attack on your wife. Or is being interested in someone's opinion and agreeing with it an attack now? You are arguing for the sake of arguing over petty BS we agreed to bury the hatchet on, but evidently that was a falsehood. This is the wrong part of the forum for this behavior and you know it. But since I can't put a Mod on ignore and I don't want the Beagle treatment, you win Millie.
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What have I ever stated about "downtown dallas career women" as a group? Since that group would include my wife, I'd be very interested in what you think I've said on this topic.

I don't care about any hatchet with you, I don't have any beef with you. You guys imagine that I view you as villains, you're just words on a screen man.
 
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Dude this is not the forum for that kind of discussion. I am not going to engage you here, so please adhere to the rules of the Grownup Forum and start this convo elsewhere if you want to have a chat about it.
 
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Maybe they where mistaken about basic filtering? All of the apps allow you to search for people based upon their stated intentions or friends, short term, long term, casual etc.
 
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The closest I ever got to a dating app was meeting my wife playing EQ, which is not a dating strategy I can recommend to anyone. But I worked at a Cali college IT department so I was somewhat aware of the culture behind it. There absolutely were different options for women than men in some of them, because the fucking Troon thing in our department would not shut up about it, but I am not aware of the specifics. But again, peak MeToo era and you could get away with anything if you slapped the "protection of women" label on it, so it would not surprise me either way.
 
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Thats fine, I'm just not sure I buy it for the reasons mentioned, I am pretty sure you must be misremembering, but since there's no evidence either way, maybe PoF guy was trying shit sure.

That in no way means that is available today or these chicks are checking it and lying to me or not telling me about it, and absolutely no source on the internet has ever heard anything about this... so... what are we arguing about again?

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Yeah, if there's any evidence, it will be on the PoF forums which appear to have been nuked years ago. We can argue about something else now. But I am still going to ask my wife if she remembers it since we met there.
 
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OK. Interesting guy and an interesting follow if like me you are fascinated by the numbers and stats behind dating...


Full disclosure : He does, of course, run his own matchmaking service supposedly based on AI and deeper profiling to make better long term matches.
 
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OK. Interesting guy and an interesting follow if like me you are fascinated by the numbers and stats behind dating...


Full disclosure : He does, of course, run his own matchmaking service supposedly based on AI and deeper profiling to make better long term matches.
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Been that way for decade. Very common to see "if you voted for x im not for you" or some other reference to politics.
 
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We live in a world where you are competing with the attention of 4 billion other dudes. Youre but a single man with likely reasonably health approach to pursuing women. How do you stand out against the endless horde of tap dancing monkeys willing to treat every woman they come across like helen of troy? In between the time you setup that day and the day of she probably got a dozen different offers from all sorts of dudes.

Social media and smart phones are the worst thing to ever happen to human interaction.
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Wouldn't be an issue if developers designed in good faith. Given their knowledge of how the marketplace is, they had to know allowing unlimited new matches while currently talking to a match would have this result.

If there were apps with moral good faith consideration in the design, the match process would halt upon 1 match, or even 5 matches. Hell, allow 10 new matches while talking to a new match. Instead it's giving her an unlimited number of new matches while you try to plan your date. That's not a good faith arrangement. The current design relies on women to self-regulate the bombardment of guys she swiped on while she is talking to someone she matched with. I'll go as far to say women are mostly incapable of this, and this is the cause of the flake phenomenon. People's minds just weren't designed to have to self-regulate the current dating app dynamic. It's unnatural to begin with, but the predatory monetization gives incentive to want as much ghosting and flaking as possible, to keep you on the app. keep you engaged, and keep you paying, keep you rolling the dice. The app developers accomplish this via unlimited incoming new matches while you've already matched and are talking to someone. The engineers behind these decision at any given app company need to be held accountable for it. Someone needs to get them on a project veritas hot mic admitting what pieces of shit they are and how the app is designed to make men less successful on them intentionally.
 
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Been that way for decade. Very common to see "if you voted for x im not for you" or some other reference to politics.
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This is an old tactic that dates back to both the passing of the 19th Amendment and prohibition. But they kind of shot themselves in the foot with the whole sexual Revolution thing because the Monopoly is nearly meaningless these days. So they essentially made one of their own oldest tricks obsolete
 
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Absolutely soul crushing. Also not mine. Dudes starting posting their bumble stats on the bumble sub reddit and they're all around 1% or less of women swiping right on them.

And that's not even matching, that's just a woman swiping in you that you may have swiped no on.

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This data doesnt also show the bigger picture. Most women dont swipe. They just go through all the Yes's sent to them and then choose.
 
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Is that how these swipe apps work now? Back in my day you had to both swipe yes to get matched before you even knew who had swiped on you/could communicate.
 
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Absolutely soul crushing. Also not mine. Dudes starting posting their bumble stats on the bumble sub reddit and they're all around 1% or less of women swiping right on them.

And that's not even matching, that's just a woman swiping in you that you may have swiped no on.

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I just don't see how we can infer anything from random guys posting this data. If you have a face for radio and nothing stands out about your profile then you are going to get those sorts of responses. Those dudes, unfortunately, are going to have to find a different place to meet women. He still had 35 incoming "yes" as well. If your numbers look like that then you are in no position to be refusing those 35, right?
 
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This data doesnt also show the bigger picture. Most women dont swipe. They just go through all the Yes's sent to them and then choose.
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That's not the way most apps work. They still have to swipe themselves to match with guys.
 
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Is that how these swipe apps work now? Back in my day you had to both swipe yes to get matched before you even knew who had swiped on you/could communicate.
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They all are different. A lot of the apps let you see messages or who swiped on you. Some you have to pay for to get the added bonuses.
 
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OK. Interesting guy and an interesting follow if like me you are fascinated by the numbers and stats behind dating...


Full disclosure : He does, of course, run his own matchmaking service supposedly based on AI and deeper profiling to make better long term matches.
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Makes sense. Bitches are more likely to change their politics for a guy. Most of them say they must match politically because they know deep down that's true. But when they meet the guy with 6 feet and 6 figures, that idealism shit goes out the window.
 
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