Control
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And yet, somewhere there's an eq nerd reading this screaming "I can fix her!"
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Koushirou
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I like how people attribute the lack of my DMs blowing up when my marriage ended to board atrophy or increased maturity or whatever, when I'm pretty sure it's just because I'm just that fucked up and worthless.
Control
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tbf, many/most of us are married, and also blowing up your dm's via this particular thread might seem a bit distasteful. If that's what your after, some subtle "recruitment" posts in screenshots and the mmo forum might do the trick.
Koushirou
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It's not that I want it, but sad to say it still feels bad when you hear about damn near every female on the internet having the problem of creepers or weirdos, etc. and I'm over here and it's completely crickets having never had this issue ever. Like, what the fuck is so wrong with me that not even the desperate fuckers will touch me.
moonarchia
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We may be degenerates, but we're degenerates who aren't in your neighborhood. And like Control said many of us are married. You are also one of us, and we're not going to kick you when you're down. If you want that kind of attention then hit up Reddit. Post that you are getting divorced on AITA or some divorce sub and you will have creeps from around the world up in your DMs.
There's nothing wrong with you, but you're depressed, so you are preventing yourself from understanding that. That's also why you are overreacting to the stuff with your EQ group. Have you gotten the divorce paperwork in? Have you gotten started on your job search? One way of getting out of a funk is to just focus on the positive actions you can do. Start making your backup plans. You may want to take your parents up on their offer for a while now instead of later. Get your house listed and assets split between you and your ex. That would put you in a stable environment, and would be uncomfortable enough to give you a push to get a job so you could move out again.
Or you might find it comfortable, and you can build deeper bonds with mom and dad while you still have them. No wrong answers there.
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Lambourne
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Even those of us that aren't married are old enough to not do the "hey bb u wan som fuk" thing.
What's "wrong" is, for lack of a better term, logistics.
You want a new relationship where the guy is interested in you for reasons beyond some wet holes. Any guy looking for a relationship is just not going to invest any time in a woman that's still married and living with the soon-to-be ex. Anyone in that position is likely not emotionally in the right place for a new relationship, maybe the ex is some crazy MFer that's going to come after you with a gun. Maybe you have a change of heart and want to try again with the ex. Young dudes desperate for any sex at all ignore those issues but we do wise up a little with age. Too many things to go wrong, look elsewhere.
This is why all the guys here are telling you to get those deal breakers sorted. Decent guys looking for a relationship are just not going to invest emotionally before that. Finalize paperwork, move out, find your footing again and guys will be more interested.
Once that's done, you can come live in my attic and play EQ all day and I can get a green card. See, there's more worth to you already.
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Haus
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Short of the becoming an attic gnome for his green card
Lambourne
is pretty spot on.
I'd also add that from the outside it looks like you're suffering from something of a crisis in the self image department, but it's wholly normal in your situation to be suffering from that. Sounds like you are getting rid of a hubby who didn't make you feel attractive, and that's an asshole move IMHO as it's one of the roles of any spouse to help remind their other half that they are desirable, even if it's not clothes ripping pipe laying lust on tap. (for many men it's simpler things like the drive by grab ass while you're standing around) Caveat this with the fact that I'm one of those married guys (so not in the available pool), and have no clue whatsoever what you actually look like.
Add into this that you were fired from a job, and are going through a divorce which would also tend to ravage anybody's self esteem and it's a potent negative combo.
As for what to do about feeling less than attractive? I have to deal with that some since I'm heavier than I want to be, have a body that shows my stout mountain dwarf genetic lineage, and am bearing the genetic pre-disposition of my family for thinning hair in our 50's. For me, I focused on finding clothes in a style which made me look less than trollish. Although I am really not the person to ask for advice on this front. heh
Lambourne
is pretty spot on. I'd also add that from the outside it looks like you're suffering from something of a crisis in the self image department, but it's wholly normal in your situation to be suffering from that. Sounds like you are getting rid of a hubby who didn't make you feel attractive, and that's an asshole move IMHO as it's one of the roles of any spouse to help remind their other half that they are desirable, even if it's not clothes ripping pipe laying lust on tap. (for many men it's simpler things like the drive by grab ass while you're standing around) Caveat this with the fact that I'm one of those married guys (so not in the available pool), and have no clue whatsoever what you actually look like.
Add into this that you were fired from a job, and are going through a divorce which would also tend to ravage anybody's self esteem and it's a potent negative combo.
As for what to do about feeling less than attractive? I have to deal with that some since I'm heavier than I want to be, have a body that shows my stout mountain dwarf genetic lineage, and am bearing the genetic pre-disposition of my family for thinning hair in our 50's. For me, I focused on finding clothes in a style which made me look less than trollish. Although I am really not the person to ask for advice on this front. heh
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