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I used to do physical work. Go for a reall long walk which obviously not available for everyone, like half a day. All kinds of physical stuff around the property so that end of the day I felt tired or done something. I've never been big on gym stuff though I do lift weights at home, or used to.

Even now on good days I get out and walk around as much as I can. Up and down the driveway which is 3/4 of a mile if I go to the road and back (maybe once). It helps with the mind especially on stuff I have zero control over.
 
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Koushirou said:
I managed a 15min walk around the block the past three days. I don’t know if it helped. Was at least able to cook and make dinner today and ate it all.

Therapist and my parents both brought up potentially moving again. I still don’t like the idea but I’m not sure what I want really matters. I’m not really capable of taking care of myself, so maybe I just do need people to just tell me what to do.
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If your parents actively want you there with them, then by all means do it. It will be miles better than being alone. Rent your house out to help get it paid off ASAP. Or just sell it to get out from under the mortgage. Is your job remote?
 
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Yeah, it’s remote. I’d try and rent the house, pretty sure I’d have to write a check right now if I sold it. Parents are taking me around house hunting this weekend while I’m there just to try to give me something to be excited about. And yeah, they’d just have me stay with them while I found something myself eventually. The idea just scares me.
 
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Yeah, it’s remote. I’d try and rent the house, pretty sure I’d have to write a check right now if I sold it. Parents are taking me around house hunting this weekend while I’m there just to try to give me something to be excited about. And yeah, they’d just have me stay with them while I found something myself eventually. The idea just scares me.
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Being with your parents shouldn't scare you. They love you, and having them present in your life would end the loneliness issues for a while. Give it a shot for a couple weeks?
 
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Koushirou said:
Yeah, it’s remote. I’d try and rent the house, pretty sure I’d have to write a check right now if I sold it. Parents are taking me around house hunting this weekend while I’m there just to try to give me something to be excited about. And yeah, they’d just have me stay with them while I found something myself eventually. The idea just scares me.
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As somebody who lost their mom 2 years ago, spend the time with them. Sure, it isn't awesome living with your parents as an adult, but there is going to come a time in your life where you're thankful you got to spend that extra time with them.
 
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Kirun said:
As somebody who lost their mom 2 years ago, spend the time with them. Sure, it isn't awesome living with your parents as an adult, but there is going to come a time in your life where you're thankful you got to spend that extra time with them.
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If you get along with them, though, it can be awesome. If they treat you as an equal and an adult you can be a great source of help and comfort for each other.
 
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Koushirou said:
Yeah, it’s remote. I’d try and rent the house, pretty sure I’d have to write a check right now if I sold it. Parents are taking me around house hunting this weekend while I’m there just to try to give me something to be excited about. And yeah, they’d just have me stay with them while I found something myself eventually. The idea just scares me.
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You'll be fine. Sounds like a good opportunity to level out and de stress. Nice to have a safety net, anyway. Lots of people right now are completely fucked and have zero support.
 
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Small steps make a big difference. Some days might feel harder, and that's okay. Giving yourself grace and celebrating little wins can help restore some balance and peace.
 
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Finding a therapist:
Figure out what you can afford (assuming 2+ sessions a month to start)
Jot down the top two or three issues that you want to address (probably going to say put the addiction item near the top)
Call around to therapists you can afford and see if they do a 15 minute or so free consult so you can get a vibe check.
Pick the one that you feel the most comfortable with.

Other notes:
Good for you for getting help.
Stop talking politics with your mom. Entirely. If politics comes up tell her you don’t want to talk about it. It’s adding no actual value to your lives and actively hurting your relationship.
Also, you used to teach martial arts, getting back into that is probably a good idea.
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Found a therapist, just sorta ran into one in a supermarket who overheard me talking to a friend about my issues, and she told me what she does and asked if there was anything she could do to help me. I said yeah, got her number, went to her office and chatted with her a bit and we were like old friends, made an appointment. Just fell into that one before I even had to call around, lucky me. Bonus, she's single and pretty, not that it matters, she'd be out of her mind to be interested in someone with my volume of problems.

Also went to rehab, pretty much right after I posted that diatribe about my issues. Was good, system is cleared-out again (and replaced with new drugs but at least it's managed and controlled now and I don't feel like absolute dogshit anymore). Wasn't able to do the full rehab because I had to get back to work, but I stayed as long as I could and participated in all the AA meetings and so forth.
 
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Rajaah said:
Found a therapist, just sorta ran into one in a supermarket who overheard me talking to a friend about my issues, and she told me what she does and asked if there was anything she could do to help me. I said yeah, got her number, went to her office and chatted with her a bit and we were like old friends, made an appointment. Just fell into that one before I even had to call around, lucky me. Bonus, she's single and pretty, not that it matters, she'd be out of her mind to be interested in someone with my volume of problems.

Also went to rehab, pretty much right after I posted that diatribe about my issues. Was good, system is cleared-out again (and replaced with new drugs but at least it's managed and controlled now and I don't feel like absolute dogshit anymore). Wasn't able to do the full rehab because I had to get back to work, but I stayed as long as I could and participated in all the AA meetings and so forth.
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Good on you on getting clean and getting help. Keep stacking up the wins.

Don’t try and fuck your therapist,lol.
 
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