Marriage and the Power of Divorce
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My wife would not only yell but she would probably cut you if you left the house like that.
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Get contractor bags, lock the door, open the window, fill, and throw outside. Could be cleaned out in an hour.
Phazael
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I bet the whole banging other chicks after she had kids had zero to do with her checking out on the relationship.....
This is going to come off as harsh, but she probably was dead inside and too nice to say anything until your shift change made her resentment of the thing something she could no longer internalize. Then she got with another guy and found out that she didn't have to live as the second choice all the time. I get that you are hurting, but I think you are being unrealistic if you think being the sole person with side action is not super corrosive for a relationship. You had to know by the fact that she never took that option herself until your shift change made things different that she could not have been as thrilled as you apparently were with the whole open relationship thing, at least deep down. But you went with what served yourself best, despite having kids in the mix. Jesus, man....
What you are going through sucks, but its going better for you than a lot of men who got dumped through no fault of their own. Don't blame this on "women are crazy", when there were clearly by your own admission a fair number of red flags you chose to ignore before things got to this point. I am sure you care about your kids and maybe even your soon to be ex. But I think you cared about yourself more, or you would have not been in an open relationship when there were problems to be solved with your marriage.
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A5150Ylee
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'Bitches be crazy' is ALWAYS a valid defense (cause it's true).
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Cutlery
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I like you bro, we've had a lot of good discussions over the years, but you're making way too many assumptions here.
She has always been number one. Always. Side action is side action. Furthermore, the open relationship was her idea. Due to the childhood I had, she wanted me to form more relationships with people. She finds the thought of me banging other women hot and it's lead to threesomes along the way. She just never felt the need to look for anyone else until all her friends convinced her that she was somehow being exploited when she was finding other girls for me to bang. (Lol)
So yeah dude, you're pretty far off base. Don't infer shit that isn't there and assume what's going on from bits and pieces.
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Big Phoenix
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I hope you dont wonder why your children turn out like your soon to be ex in a decade or two and you are pulling out your grey hairs dealing with your mulatto grand children.
Seriously, for the love of god going forward put your children first, not some random piece of ass. Nothing will fuck up your kids more than seeing you interact in a toxic manner with your ex, and whores off the internet.
Seriously, for the love of god going forward put your children first, not some random piece of ass. Nothing will fuck up your kids more than seeing you interact in a toxic manner with your ex, and whores off the internet.
Noodleface
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Khane
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Are you serious with this shit?
I know a lot of people here like to use that "virtue signaling" buzzword. This entire post fits that description precisely.
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stupidmonkey
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Mrs. Gravy
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Mrs. Gravy
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Big Phoenix
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You think children turn into well adjusted adults when they come from homes that fell apart due to open relationships with parents that place higher value on their sex life with random people than time with their family?
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Khane
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I don't know Big P, what's the reason you haven't turned into a well adjusted adult? Did you see the line I bolded? You're telling him he is amoral and that his punishment will be that his children will fuck black people and have mixed race kids.
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Big Phoenix
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Yeah bad choice of words.
Point being guy has set a monumentally horrible example for his kid when it comes to relationships.
Point being guy has set a monumentally horrible example for his kid when it comes to relationships.
Khane
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Or he and his wife came to an adult agreement about their sex lives and their children have no idea about it because they don't wave it around in front of them.
There is always potential for an arrangement like that to be more volatile than a traditional relationship, you just never really know how an outsider may try to inject themselves into your home life or, like in this case, what feelings might be "caught". But to say it's a foregone conclusion or that you can't still be a good parent just because you don't follow traditional societal roles is nonsense.
People do all kinds of different things in their personal lives and still end up being good parents. You're acting like he and his wife were just bringing random tinder dates home to meet the kids before fucking on the sofa in the living room for all to see. We don't really know much about his arrangement other than he told us it was an open relationship.
There is always potential for an arrangement like that to be more volatile than a traditional relationship, you just never really know how an outsider may try to inject themselves into your home life or, like in this case, what feelings might be "caught". But to say it's a foregone conclusion or that you can't still be a good parent just because you don't follow traditional societal roles is nonsense.
People do all kinds of different things in their personal lives and still end up being good parents. You're acting like he and his wife were just bringing random tinder dates home to meet the kids before fucking on the sofa in the living room for all to see. We don't really know much about his arrangement other than he told us it was an open relationship.
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