Marriage and the Power of Divorce

Oblio said:

Seriously how fucked was your childhood thag you still cannot function? Mine was terrible and I have managed to find and live a full adult life. @McDipshitj22 you need to go to a counselor asap. Protecting your kids is honorable, but not when it involves assaulting a 10year old boy. That is/was a cunty thing to do and I honestly think you are cowardly cunt for stiking a child.

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I’d do it again too.

Best part is that kid is behaving now because his mom is actually parenting him.

Cutlery said:

mcdj22 -- you're handling this poorly. Don't ever make anyone you're in a relationship with pick anyone over you, nor put them in a position for them to do so. The only exception is another guy she has romantic interests in. You don't get to dictate her friends or family, and you're in the wrong every single time you do it.

Now, the rest of you guys settle down or I swear to god I'm gonna start the Blood Bowl league back up so you can handle this like the Undead and Saurii do.

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It’s not about putting my wife in a position, she chooses to do what she does and I’ve capitulated a lot. There have been too many times where she disregards what is appropriate.

Like I said, this was the last straw. Couples counselor pointed out that when my wife talks to me, she doesn’t have any respect for what I say. Whatever she has her mind set on, she keeps going for it, doesn’t matter what I communicate. “She’s off to the races,” is how she put it, then asked me how can I let her treat me like that. That was very eye opening.

I appreciate the feedback, thank you.

mcdj22 said:

It’s not about putting my wife in a position, she chooses to do what she does and I’ve capitulated a lot. There have been too many times where she disregards what is appropriate.

Like I said, this was the last straw. Couples counselor pointed out that when my wife talks to me, she doesn’t have any respect for what I say. Whatever she has her mind set on, she keeps going for it, doesn’t matter what I communicate. “She’s off to the races,” is how she put it, then asked me how can I let her treat me like that. That was very eye opening.

I appreciate the feedback, thank you.

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I don’t doubt that this is all true.

I think you have taken that as justification though to be as shitty or shittier. Any team, and marriage is a team, will have some conflicting personalities, flaws, and fights. It’s about trying to figure out what is or is not worth ending things over.

She should respect you and your role but that is a major two way street. If your counselor said that they also need to evaluate how they are presenting things in a one sided manner. That kind of language doesn’t side like it’s conducive to reconciliation but I don’t do this for a living I must admit.

I am adopted and I learned at an early age that you can choose family. Some people are not worth keeping around because your mother fucked the same dude and decided to bring you all back to the same home. You can’t ever make that choice for someone else though, ever. Even if that is exactly what they should do you will always be the bad guy for even suggesting it. If you force the issue ..... fuck. They have to come to that conclusion natively no matter how long it takes.

a_skeleton_03 said:

I don’t doubt that this is all true.

I think you have taken that as justification though to be as shitty or shittier. Any team, and marriage is a team, will have some conflicting personalities, flaws, and fights. It’s about trying to figure out what is or is not worth ending things over.

She should respect you and your role but that is a major two way street. If your counselor said that they also need to evaluate how they are presenting things in a one sided manner. That kind of language doesn’t side like it’s conducive to reconciliation but I don’t do this for a living I must admit.

I am adopted and I learned at an early age that you can choose family. Some people are not worth keeping around because your mother fucked the same dude and decided to bring you all back to the same home. You can’t ever make that choice for someone else though, ever. Even if that is exactly what they should do you will always be the bad guy for even suggesting it. If you force the issue ..... fuck. They have to come to that conclusion natively no matter how long it takes.

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My wife is a narcissist though. Shits not going to change.

Just to give you an idea of the shit my wife has pulled...at her best friends wedding (a guy, a really good guy too) she gives a speech talking about their time together and how he knows all of her secrets, “things my husband doesn’t even know.”

In front of 200 people.

A few years ago I went reading her text messages because I knew shit was fucked up somehow. To one of her closest female friends, she tells her about the sexting thing. Her friend asks her if she loves me. “I think so,” was her response.

Fuck that.