Marriage and the Power of Divorce

Chysamere_sl said:

Am I the only one who sees the threesome potential in this situation?The new husband is obviously looking for someone to spit-roast his wife with.Who better than someone who has already fucked her in the past?

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Haha, I've never heard that one before. That's good.

TheBeagle_sl said:

Hah hah, so much this.

For what it's worth I've been quietly lurking and have always thought Sutekh was a voice of reason in all the relationship debates and I was quite surprised to learn he was only 27. But this latest turn of events regarding going to Swiss-land to hang out with the ex and her new boy toy seems really whack, for lack of a better word, while also doing a complete 180 on the girl from Pittsburgh at the same time. I don't know, seems kind of odd to me.

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Thanks bro, but the thing is with the Pitt girl, I have a very strong sense of impending doom on the relationship. The frequency at which she's been responding/talking to me has plummeted and her messages seem detached and in-affectionate. I've just been responding and talking as if nothing has changed but it seems pretty clear to me that she's probably grown uninterested in me or the situation as a whole. It's a shame, but that's kind of the risk you take when you start dating a younger woman.

Ahh, well there you go. That explains a lot. Sorry bro.

Sutekh_sl said:

Thanks bro, but the thing is with the Pitt girl, I have a very strong sense of impending doom on the relationship. The frequency at which she's been responding/talking to me has plummeted and her messages seem detached and in-affectionate. I've just been responding and talking as if nothing has changed but it seems pretty clear to me that she's probably grown uninterested in me or the situation as a whole. It's a shame, but that's kind of the risk you take when you start dating a younger woman.

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But ... but we were told this newfound relationship wasn't in the honeymoon phase earlier!

He is 27 and still has cock brain.

All I said is that it wasn't in the "honeymoon phase" for me. Can't really account for the actions of others. When we started I gave it really low odds for success anyways so the fact that it might be failing isn't surprising to me. Then again I may be completely wrong and she's just been busy the past week.

See that's the real problem with long distance relationships. You have way too much fucking time to over-think everything.

The biggest problem with long distance relationships is you can't call your woman in when you take a really impressive shit that deserves an audience.

Sutekh_sl said:

All I said is that it wasn't in the "honeymoon phase" for me. Can't really account for the actions of others. When we started I gave it really low odds for success anyways so the fact that it might be failing isn't surprising to me. Then again I may be completely wrong and she's just been busy the past week.

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I wonder if you might be giving off a weird ("I want to fly around to world to hang out with my ex-wife, vibe.") Regardless of how you and and Onoes insist that this can be done, this isn't even remotely standard and would be considered a huge huge huge red flag to a relationship.

Have you mentioned your close platonic friendship with your ex-wife to this girl, yet?

Eidal_sl said:

I wonder if you might be giving off a weird ("I want to fly around to world to hang out with my ex-wife, vibe.") Regardless of how you and and Onoes insist that this can be done, this isn't even remotely standard and would be considered a huge huge huge red flag to a relationship.

Have you mentioned your close platonic friendship with your ex-wife to this girl, yet?

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I haven't told her about me wanting to go on the trip. There hasn't been enough conversation since then to even give off that vibe. She knows all about my relationship with my ex and is envious that she can't have that with her ex. Although I'm thinking she's got a different type of relationship with her ex.

Go to Switzerland, post results while running from man with machete.

The last thing I'm worried about is that dude hurting me. He'd have to pull some really deceptive shit to get to me, he's not what you would call intimidating.

Sutehk, obviously, there is no point to really dispute your impression since you're the guy there and I'm just guessing...

That being said: I find it really hard to believe that you met some woman who is envious of your very close relationship with your ex-wife. Maybe in some objective sense she's able to articulate how it'd be nice to not leave wreckage in one's past, but I think if I polled the handful of sensible adult women that I know, they'd all be unanimous in saying that this is a very clear red flag for a fledgling relationship.

Flipping it around, were I to start dating a woman and then find out that she is in close contact with her ex-husband on a daily basis, I'd assume a lot of things that may or may not be true, but they'd all be distinctly negative.

I understand what you're saying, but I am friends with my ex and I told her this from the week we started talking. It hasn't come up since then, I highly doubt she even cares about it. If she did care about it and have an issue with it I would just end up telling her that I'm sorry she feels that way but I'm not going to stop talking to my ex.

You said you and your ex still talk every day. My closest friends on earth and I don't talk every day. In fact, we probably talk 2-3 times a week, and they live 10 minutes away from me, not halfway around the world. I don't even talk to my girlfriend every day.

See what I'm getting at here?