Marriage and the Power of Divorce

McCheese said:

she won't give a shit about the size or price; the only thing she'll care about is that it's not a conflict/blood or whatever diamond.

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Get a lab-grown stone. My wife's engagement ring was alexandrite and not diamond (changes colors depending on the light, she's a physics nerd). I got a much bigger, cleaner stone than is available from mines and it cost $100 vs $40,000 for 1 carat. Similar savings are available for diamonds.

Anyone who insists that you get a natural stone is actually saying they care about how much money you're spending. Manufactured gems are categorically superior to natural ones.

I want to get a real stone, even if it's small. She doesn't care, but family/friends/society have a perception of lab grown being "fake," and I don't want her to have to deal with that.

I was looking into doing an emerald (her birthstone) instead of a diamond, but I've read that they are too fragile for use in a ring that will be worn most of the time.

McCheese said:

family/friends/society have a perception of lab grown being "fake," and I don't want her to have to deal with that.

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So don't tell anyone. Are they going to ask to see the receipt or something?

Appeasing the biases of people who aren't directly involved is about the worst reason I can think of to spend a bunch of money, never mind willingly participating in an industry that is basically a giant marketing scam. (Natural diamonds are actually quite common and should be close to free if it weren't for DeBeers hoarding them in giant warehouses to prop the market up.)

I know all that. If I were making logical choices I wouldn't get married at all.

Honestly if no one died mining it what's the point

I bought my wife a moissanite stone, my wife had similar concerns to your future spouse, , ie diamonds are pretty unethical. No way you can tell it isn't diamond, unless you're a jeweller. It's not like diamonds are special, they're not that rare, and they're only expensive because the DeBeers of this world drip feed their warehouses full to artificially inflate the market. We got it on a palladium band (the stuff they use to make white gold), which was more expensive than gold but it is still nigh on perfect after 10 years, something you wouldn't be able to say for a yellow gold band, although if you want a yellow gold band then a silver metal isn't much use

We bought it from these guys: MoissaniteCo: Moissanite Jewelry Shop and I was a little edgy spending so much on a company over the internet, but the service was great.

Bros will stop buying diamonds when women stop caring about having them.

Khane said:

Bros will stop buying diamonds when women stop caring about having them.

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Bros will stop getting married when they realize there is literally no benefit to it

Noodleface said:

Bros will stop getting married when they realize there is literally no benefit to it

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What bro thought there was a benefits package? Or this is a joke I'm missing?

Khane said:

Bros will stop buying diamonds when women stop caring about having them.

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Or we stop trying to marry women who care about them.

alavaz said:

What bro thought there was a benefits package? Or this is a joke I'm missing?

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I wish