Parent Thread

Learned a lesson over the past couple of months. My middle daughter started having accidents. They always seemed to be tied to gaming/electronics, like she was so into the game or whatever that she just zoned out and shit herself. At least, that was the assumption we made because of her prior behavior issues. My wife and I were trying to keep it cool and not make it a big deal, figured that would make it worse, but once or twice we definitely did. So this started to become a daily thing, and I'm reading all kinds of stuff on the internet, and almost nothing out there talks about behavior/regression related to this kind of thing, it is almost all about constipation in kids. Which to me did not make sense, because she had never complained about being constipated and when we asked her if it hurt etc she said no. So yeah, turns out, it was constipation the whole time, issue resolved now. Second kid we've had issues with constipation with, manifested in different ways. It's hard to say what I should have done differently. I tried talking to her, and she was embarrassed (of course) but didn't indicate anything was wrong, and it wasn't unbelievable given her previous issues. idk, it is something for me to consider going forward I guess.

The wife gave birth to our first on may 2nd. It has been an utterly exhausting two weeks but couldn’t imagine life without this little guy now.

Anyone else here? I'm so ready for the kids to be done school...

We dont allow shit talking in grown up forum. Surely we dont allow sideways pics here either, right? I mean, come the fuck on -- sideways pics demand shit talking.

There aren't rules about sideways pictures. We just hold those people in great disdain, and let them know it periodically.

How do you guys deal with the death of a pet when telling a toddler? My parents had to put their dog to sleep Friday due to renal failure and my son is going over to their house later this week. Not sure what the right way is tell him. I hate taking away his innocence but I'm not sure I want to lie to him either. I thought about when he brings up why is the dog not here, that she was and old and sick and she died and go from there. At least everything I've read online says to be honest with them and don't use euphemism like went to sleep.

Arative said:

How do you guys deal with the death of a pet when telling a toddler? My parents had to put their dog to sleep Friday due to renal failure and my son is going over to their house later this week. Not sure what the right way is tell him. I hate taking away his innocence but I'm not sure I want to lie to him either. I thought about when he brings up why is the dog not here, that she was and old and sick and she died and go from there. At least everything I've read online says to be honest with them and don't use euphemism like went to sleep.

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Had to put our cat to sleep recently. All three kids dealt with it really well. We didnt use any euphemisms, we explained exactly what the vet did. We dug a grave in the field and buried him together. They cried but I think letting them work through the process (saying goodbye before the vet, burying him together after) helped.

I didnt give a crap about that cat, but I'll admit I choked up when the next morning my son woke up, walked outside, and picked a bunch of flowers to put on the cats grave.

I took him over this morning, right away he asked where the dog was, so I explained that she was old and very sick and that we would miss her very much. He said that she was with God in heaven. Then he asked who came and got her and I said Grandma and Grandpa took her to the animal doctor. He asked if we would see her again and I said no, he teared up a little bit but then got distracted. I stayed there about an hour before going into work and he didn't bring the dog up again.

So all things considered, I guess that went pretty well.

My Wife and I decided to do away with birth control a few months ago and 'let nature take it's course'...after a week or two of feeling pretty sick my Wife just took a test and both lines lit up. It's absolutely what we both want but, and I'm sure I'm not alone, the emotions running around my head are pretty mixed and scary right now.

It's funny how, after originally finding this site in the early 00s for Vex Thal pics when my guild were still farming ToV, I find myself breaking my daily routine of browsing the FSR to read a thread about parenthood! Where did those 15, 16 years go?!

If anyone has any websites they'd recommend or golden tips for the next few weeks and months I'd be very grateful! My Wife and I are both teachers of young children (her 3 - 4 year olds and me 6 - 7 year olds) but I'm not sure it prepared me in any way for these feelings. I also just gave up teaching and opened my own gym which, whilst it's opened well and is making solid profits, scares the hell out of me. Providing for a mortgage feels a lot different to providing for an upcoming family. The 16 hour days I'm clocking up are also going to need addressing.

I've also suddenly started dissecting just how awful a Father I had (the typical alcoholic, abusive, cut contact with him a decade ago etc) and panicking about the cycle repeating itself as he did his Father. Cards on the table, after celebrating all night and my Wife going to bed I found myself suddenly crying on the sofa (like a bitch). I was always pretty sure it was the girl that was meant to experience hormonal moments. My Wife is one of those women just born to be a Mother and making sure I don't let her down is at the forefront of my brain.

From what I've already read it feels like these first few months involve heavy self-reflection whilst simultaneously prioritising the Mum's stress levels, emotions etc. I'm just amazed at the realisation that my Wife is growing someone inside of her, just amazing. I've always really admired her but it's on a completely different level.

Tilluin said:

If anyone has any websites they'd recommend or golden tips for the next few weeks and months I'd be very grateful!

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Find a Daddy Boot camp and attend it (probably at month 6-8 of the pregnancy)

Get "Happiest Baby on the Block" Video and watch it with your wife (again, at about month 6-8 of pregnancy).

Two best things I did pre-birth to prep for later. The birth classes were largely bullshit for the dad, probably good for the mother but the stuff is all lady focused since they are doing the hard stuff.

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Born 6/7/18 after 45 hours in labor, here's little miss Bandwagon.

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45 hours? Holy crap, man. Your wife is a hero.

Congrats on the cute little rug rat! Your life is now different forever. It's awesome.