The number of people I know in their 20's in open relationships or just dating with no intention of marrying is pretty staggering. There's a shit ton of people having kids in their late 30's to early 40's now because they didn't take a relationship seriously when they were younger.
So he completely failed at the most very basic anti-pedestalization aspects of RP, then preaches anti-marriage obnoxiously all over the board. Precious.
I honestly think that's a good thing. What the fuck does a 20 year old know about what they want in life or how serious a responsibility having and raising children is?
Eh I'm not really putting a value judgment on it. It's fine with me.
No it isn't, but in our society it's a cornerstone. Divorces don't require double the resources, it involves the same amount of people already within our economy. Your argument is that somehow divorces create a new need for more resources for children that already exist. Children who require those resources either way. Being married when you have children doesn't magically make those children cost less and even after divorce they still need to be taken care of the same as if you were still married.
2 adults 2 kids "in a live in relationship" same house, shared food etc. costs less than 1 adult + resources for those 2 kids at X days/ time intervals and another 1 adult + resources for those 2 kids the Y days / time intervals -- cant pull the 1br studio apartment and live off ramen like your college or single days while you are to create and foster an equal environment for "your time" with the kids while one side usually also has to pay support so the other side can "maintain" the environment while then somehow being expected to maintain similar environments again for themselves and their time with the kids... often this literally doubles "growing up" resources that the kids need- furnished bedrooms, clothing, food etc. to be duplicated at both residents.. this is all assuming that the people where self supporting to begin with... it is also why wealthy have not as much "issue" with divorcing as they can sustain it the same as those government supported as the government support often moves on to both sides now being supported (causing more strain) while "middle" cannot usually sustain this and do not get divorced until after kids
I think you meant self interest, not selfish. There's a huge difference between the two.
It isn't Double but it clearly cost more.
You guys are missing the point. You don't need to be married to co-habitate and pool resources. Marriage isn't a pre-requisite for any of that. It's just considered unsavory or impolite in many cultures to "live in sin out of wedlock"
Most marriages with children have one person working full time while the other person is ether not working or working much fewer hours while also focusing upon raising the children. The daycare costs for that scenario is much less then for two parents both working full time.
Do you have a source for that? Almost every couple(with kids) I know have both people working full time.
What country do you live in dude? Do you have a time machine you use to post from 1950?
I know lots of people that both work full time, and lots where one doesn't. Long way from "most" and certainly not "most marriages"
