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Marriage and the Power of Divorce
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Soooooo, just wondering what the ground rules are for dating a single mom. Back story is that I was dumped by my woman back around Christmas last year, and it's been a huge dry spell for me ever since. I haven't had much luck on Tinder/Bumble, and haven't really put any effort in to the more time intensive dating websites like Match. A couple friends have asked me if I'd be interested in being set up with people they know, but they've all been fatties. I'm still somewhat hung up on the ex, if I'm being honest with myself, and a big part of that is probably just that I haven't seen/banged other chicks. The best way to get over a woman is to get under a new one, and all that.
So in any case, I was at a golf tournament for one of my clients, and ran in to an old ex-girlfriend of a good friend of mine (they dated like 15 years ago in our university days). I never knew her very well, but she's a pretty cool chick from what I know of her. I actually sat beside her and her husband last year at a different mutual friend's wedding (that couple were the ones that introduced me to the ex, coincidentally). Husband was 10 years older than her, and while a nice enough guy, he was a real wet blanket compared to pretty much everyone else in that group of friends, most of whom are basically professional party animals and just straight up good times in any situation. I saw her across the room at the banquet facility after the tournament and went over to chat with her, with zero intent other than being friendly, as she was married as far as I knew. We chatted for a couple minutes, she introduced me to her co-worker/friend, who was also pretty cute. Some other people came up and the conversation ended, I ate dinner and got out of there.
A couple days letter she friend requested me on Facebook, and messaged me. The conversation went like this:
Her: Hey! It was nice seeing you today. I wanted to chat more but I didn't see you afterwards. Hope to catch up again soon. Are you going to folk fest?
Me: Sorry, just saw your message now. Most likely won't be at Folk Fest this year, unfortunately. Doing a road trip out to Vancouver Island that week. It was good seeing you!
Her: The line up for folk fest doesn't seem that great this year. So you might not miss too much. Hope to run into you again soon. *winky face emoji*
Me: *thumbs up emoji*
At that point, she called up my mutual friend and was like "is he autistic or something?" In my defense, her Facebook profile said she was still married, and I just assumed she was being friendly. And I was half thinking that maybe she was angling to get me to go out with her cute friend (who as it turns out is happily married). So then my mutual friend called me and was like "dude, she wants to go out for a drink, wise up, jesus. Do I have to do everything for you?"
So we met up for a drink the other night, and I had a good time. Just chatted about mutual friends, her situation, my situation, what we've been up to the past 15 years since we last hung out much etc. She and her husband separated last October, she's got 9 and 7 year old daughters. She's got a good career as does her husband and certainly isn't needing a sugar daddy. I've never dated or screwed around with a single mom before. So like I said, what are the ground rules? Personally I'm not overly interested in any sort of a long term relationship with someone who's got kids. But I would like to get my dick wet!
So in any case, I was at a golf tournament for one of my clients, and ran in to an old ex-girlfriend of a good friend of mine (they dated like 15 years ago in our university days). I never knew her very well, but she's a pretty cool chick from what I know of her. I actually sat beside her and her husband last year at a different mutual friend's wedding (that couple were the ones that introduced me to the ex, coincidentally). Husband was 10 years older than her, and while a nice enough guy, he was a real wet blanket compared to pretty much everyone else in that group of friends, most of whom are basically professional party animals and just straight up good times in any situation. I saw her across the room at the banquet facility after the tournament and went over to chat with her, with zero intent other than being friendly, as she was married as far as I knew. We chatted for a couple minutes, she introduced me to her co-worker/friend, who was also pretty cute. Some other people came up and the conversation ended, I ate dinner and got out of there.
A couple days letter she friend requested me on Facebook, and messaged me. The conversation went like this:
Her: Hey! It was nice seeing you today. I wanted to chat more but I didn't see you afterwards. Hope to catch up again soon. Are you going to folk fest?
Me: Sorry, just saw your message now. Most likely won't be at Folk Fest this year, unfortunately. Doing a road trip out to Vancouver Island that week. It was good seeing you!
Her: The line up for folk fest doesn't seem that great this year. So you might not miss too much. Hope to run into you again soon. *winky face emoji*
Me: *thumbs up emoji*
At that point, she called up my mutual friend and was like "is he autistic or something?" In my defense, her Facebook profile said she was still married, and I just assumed she was being friendly. And I was half thinking that maybe she was angling to get me to go out with her cute friend (who as it turns out is happily married). So then my mutual friend called me and was like "dude, she wants to go out for a drink, wise up, jesus. Do I have to do everything for you?"
So we met up for a drink the other night, and I had a good time. Just chatted about mutual friends, her situation, my situation, what we've been up to the past 15 years since we last hung out much etc. She and her husband separated last October, she's got 9 and 7 year old daughters. She's got a good career as does her husband and certainly isn't needing a sugar daddy. I've never dated or screwed around with a single mom before. So like I said, what are the ground rules? Personally I'm not overly interested in any sort of a long term relationship with someone who's got kids. But I would like to get my dick wet!
TrollfaceDeux
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she is gonna want a LTR and a ring. go with the flow and you will end up with a ring and aids.
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My opinion on single moms is you need to be prepared day one for marriage. If you aren't don't attempt it.
If that is something you can live with it give it a shot.
That doesn't mean you have to just don't get into it without that as a strong possibility.
If that is something you can live with it give it a shot.
That doesn't mean you have to just don't get into it without that as a strong possibility.
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Hoss
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I'm cool with old pics of her, as long as she was 18+ when they were taken. Scan in some of those old polaroids bro.
Hoss
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3 Fs, just like any other girl. Find em, fuck em, forget em.
For real though, being prepared for marriage day 1 is idiotic. I dated a lot of single moms so here are Hoss's tips for dating single moms:
There's no reason to be scared of them. They're women too, they want companionship.
What you'll find with single moms is that they won't string you along. If they decide you're not the guy, they won't waste time on you. If they just need some dick, they won't waste time getting to that either.
Most of them are probably looking for a daddy and BF, but not all. If you're serious about her, remember you're interviewing for both jobs.
If you find yourself needing to break shit off with her, criticize her parenting. Nothing sets off a single mom quicker than a perceived criticism of her parenting. My theory is that they're already feeling guilty about dating.
That can be a real minefield actually. Since their kids are their life, they will talk about them and things they do. Just listen, don't comment.
I always tried to dissuade them from introducing me to the kids. Not that I'm afraid of kids (it's the opposite actually, they friggen love me), I just don't think it's good for kids to see a parade of stunt cocks marching through their mom's bedroom. But I didn't usually put it like that. I'd say that I think it's important for us to figure each other out before we introduce miniature people to the mix.
If they are desperate to get their kid's opinion on you, it probably means she's desperate in general and you should get out.
Because of the kids, you won't be going back to her place, and she won't be spontaneously staying the night. Plan accordingly.
That's all I can remember right now.
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Hosix
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Run now. Skip the sex and just run. Any emotional attachment will make it worse.
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Are you fucking crazy? Do not ever suggest a bipolar person to go off their meds... Or anyone with mental anything. It would take weeks and weeks to even see the effects. Jesus. This your first day on planet earth?
Eomer take it hella hella hella slow. Single moms want one thing: a new chance at marriage, which usually means a new baby daddy. Don't trust her "birth control" methods.
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iannis
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I dunno... why would you assume that she was hitting on you?
Yes, I see it now. That's woman code for "bend me over the kitchen table and do me like the whore that I am".
Honestly. You might have to work pretty hard on that whole "I'm not a fucking mind reader, use your WORDS" thing.
Yes, I see it now. That's woman code for "bend me over the kitchen table and do me like the whore that I am".
Honestly. You might have to work pretty hard on that whole "I'm not a fucking mind reader, use your WORDS" thing.
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