Marriage and the Power of Divorce

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Husband finished moving out today. Thankfully no drama or any bullshit from his family. They were in and out pretty quickly. My brother came over to hang out while they were here just in case any shit started, which made me feel better. Husband will be back in a week to pick up Bruce and Bruce’s things and that’ll basically be it. It definitely feels quiet and empty here but it’s also really nice being able to just say whatever the hell I want now when talking with friends vs. filtering myself in case he was listening. The friend I really like watched some movies with me after, which was nice of him and that also helped.

Just over 2 weeks until the court hearing and we both hope that’s the only one we’ll need and that it’ll just over and done with.
 
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Koushirou said:
The friend I really like watched some movies with me after, which was nice of him and that also helped.
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How much movie did you see?
 
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Judge finally signed after 9[!] revisions of the prove-up decree.

Cad Cad we spoke with a couple lawyers on a limited scope basis, and I guess Quisenberry is a local legend with how pedantic he is regarding decrees. As soon as we told them we were in the 415th, they were like "Oh, there's your problem." Thanks again for your help.
 
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Judge finally signed after 9[!] revisions of the prove-up decree.

Cad Cad we spoke with a couple lawyers on a limited scope basis, and I guess Quisenberry is a local legend with how pedantic he is regarding decrees. As soon as we told them we were in the 415th, they were like "Oh, there's your problem." Thanks again for your help.
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Congrats, glad it worked out. I had a case in that judge's court last year and we were called down 4 separate times for trial where we didn't end up going, and it turned out he had called multiple parties down (with clients, witnesses, everything) each time to make sure he had a trial ready to go, not caring what it did to clients/experts/costs. Just seems like kind of a self centered douche, but thats pretty standard for judges. At least he isn't lazy.
 
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Well, getting married in 6 hours. Hope I'm not being retarded again.

Seems like not. But it seemed like not 25 years ago too.

Prenup done. Asset declaration on the prenup really drives home why you should do it. That's a big fuckin number if you're established in life. Notary said she's been seeing a lot more of them recently.

She wanted an outdoor wedding. Gonna rain all day. Hope that ain't an omen. She picked the date very carefully too and got her period Thursday. Maybe I'm just gonna do all the planning from now on.
 
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Well, getting married in 6 hours. Hope I'm not being retarded again.

Seems like not. But it seemed like not 25 years ago too.

Prenup done. Asset declaration on the prenup really drives home why you should do it. That's a big fuckin number if you're established in life. Notary said she's been seeing a lot more of them recently.

She wanted an outdoor wedding. Gonna rain all day. Hope that ain't an omen. She picked the date very carefully too and got her period Thursday. Maybe I'm just gonna do all the planning from now on.
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Good luck! Whatever shit I might talk about marriage in current day, I do hope for as many people to find happiness as possible in this miserable ass universe.
 
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Good luck! Whatever shit I might talk about marriage in current day, I do hope for as many people to find happiness as possible in this miserable ass universe.
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Yeah, I kinda see it the same way. You can either succumb to the black pill, or you can give it a fuckin try.

Penalties for failing are pretty high, but so are the rewards for success.

Already enjoying having someone to grow old again with.
 
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Rain all day......

Why the fuck do we pay people to predict weather?
 
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Well, getting married in 6 hours. Hope I'm not being retarded again.

Seems like not. But it seemed like not 25 years ago too.

Prenup done. Asset declaration on the prenup really drives home why you should do it. That's a big fuckin number if you're established in life. Notary said she's been seeing a lot more of them recently.

She wanted an outdoor wedding. Gonna rain all day. Hope that ain't an omen. She picked the date very carefully too and got her period Thursday. Maybe I'm just gonna do all the planning from now on.
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Good luck brother! I know based on the thread that a lot of marriages haven't worked out, but be positive, there are a lot of good marriages out there.

Enjoy the day, congrats on the wedding, look forward to a new life afterwards.
 
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Man, why do people do this.

Good thing I took Monday and Tuesday off. I need a fuckin weekend after this.
 
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You know, 26 years ago I got married. Spent 18 years and gave everything I had to her. She took it and broke it. I haven't felt great for the last few years, because I felt like I just could not give the new one everything I had - mathematical impossibility. I had already given everything I had and it was broken and never returned.

But yesterday I realized I wouldn't want to do this with anyone else. She got everything she deserved - she got her big wedding, it worked out exactly as she had hoped for (minus a few small inconsequential details), and she got her husband, the thing she wanted more than anything else.

I never wore my first ring. Was working labor jobs the entire time, wasn't worth risking a finger. I've transitioned into leadership now, so I'm gonna give it a try.

The world is shit now. It's a scary place. Full of fake and gay. Seems like everything turns to shit in short order.

Can't be black pilled all the time. It's true that if you never get married you can never get hurt like that, but it's also true that if you never take the risk, you can never get the high points either.
 
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You know, 26 years ago I got married. Spent 18 years and gave everything I had to her. She took it and broke it. I haven't felt great for the last few years, because I felt like I just could not give the new one everything I had - mathematical impossibility. I had already given everything I had and it was broken and never returned.

But yesterday I realized I wouldn't want to do this with anyone else. She got everything she deserved - she got her big wedding, it worked out exactly as she had hoped for (minus a few small inconsequential details), and she got her husband, the thing she wanted more than anything else.

I never wore my first ring. Was working labor jobs the entire time, wasn't worth risking a finger. I've transitioned into leadership now, so I'm gonna give it a try.

The world is shit now. It's a scary place. Full of fake and gay. Seems like everything turns to shit in short order.

Can't be black pilled all the time. It's true that if you never get married you can never get hurt like that, but it's also true that if you never take the risk, you can never get the high points either.
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Interesting that your wife chose a grey tux, not very traditional. I do like her long hair though, too many women cut it short.
 
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Well, getting married in 6 hours. Hope I'm not being retarded again.

Seems like not. But it seemed like not 25 years ago too.

Prenup done. Asset declaration on the prenup really drives home why you should do it. That's a big fuckin number if you're established in life. Notary said she's been seeing a lot more of them recently.

She wanted an outdoor wedding. Gonna rain all day. Hope that ain't an omen. She picked the date very carefully too and got her period Thursday. Maybe I'm just gonna do all the planning from now on.
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Too long to get into, but my dad at 74 is considering giving in to my harpy mother's threats of divorce and saying fuck it worth it to be rid of her and her descent into alzheimers/dementia as well. He's moral like me who was ready to move them into a 2nd home on my property despite my disdain for her, but given her behavior lately, I am almost ready to embrace encouraging here's your half, good luck you do you. Only problem is he's a succesful defence sector engineer, and all told assets close to 2 million, so that's going to be pretty pricey for a stay at home bitch who had a few failed college degree's that at best lead to a couple years subbing.
 
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I fucking lost it this afternoon. It wasn't reasonable, and I regret it. Whenever my wife takes on a project around the house it immediately turns into my project. She starts, then needs help, then disappears. This has happened a lot. Dozens of times. And I told her she was manipulating me to do what she wanted me to do regardless of my own plans for the day. It got pretty fucking heated, which is not a thing for us. Ever. Like really, ever. I just flat out refused to help her with her project because I was working on something else for the home. She told me I was being a dick. I told her not to take on projects she can't do without my help, especially if she just starts it without talking to me.

She was angry, dudes. I don't see that side of her much, and after nearly 30 years together I know her. She was fucking incensed. Not rational or making any sense.

Then, just an hour ago she developed a rash. On her whole body. Like hives everywhere. We're in the emergency room. Pray for sanity.
 
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I fucking lost it this afternoon. It wasn't reasonable, and I regret it. Whenever my wife takes on a project around the house it immediately turns into my project. She starts, then needs help, then disappears. This has happened a lot. Dozens of times. And I told her she was manipulating me to do what she wanted me to do regardless of my own plans for the day. It got pretty fucking heated, which is not a thing for us. Ever. Like really, ever. I just flat out refused to help her with her project because I was working on something else for the home. She told me I was being a dick. I told her not to take on projects she can't do without my help, especially if she just starts it without talking to me.

She was angry, dudes. I don't see that side of her much, and after nearly 30 years together I know her. She was fucking incensed. Not rational or making any sense.

Then, just an hour ago she developed a rash. On her whole body. Like hives everywhere. We're in the emergency room. Pray for sanity.
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That kind of emotional reaction is embarrassment I think as she realized not just that you were right, but that she's incapable of doing things herself and she's just embarrassed. (I know you know this, just thinking out loud) When someone reacts in an overly emotional way that doesn't appear justified by the actual argument, there's almost always something other the covers causing that reaction.

Some things that occur to me - embarrassment at being told she's incompetent, feeling rejected if she just wanted to spend time with you and around you and this was her way of doing it, or she may be upset that you refused just because she feels like she should be in charge and you reminded her she's not.

Just some ideas but I would bet it really has nothing to do with the actual project or what was said, and the underlying emotions that caused her to have that outsized reaction.
 
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lurkingdirk said:
I fucking lost it this afternoon. It wasn't reasonable, and I regret it. Whenever my wife takes on a project around the house it immediately turns into my project. She starts, then needs help, then disappears. This has happened a lot. Dozens of times. And I told her she was manipulating me to do what she wanted me to do regardless of my own plans for the day. It got pretty fucking heated, which is not a thing for us. Ever. Like really, ever. I just flat out refused to help her with her project because I was working on something else for the home. She told me I was being a dick. I told her not to take on projects she can't do without my help, especially if she just starts it without talking to me.

She was angry, dudes. I don't see that side of her much, and after nearly 30 years together I know her. She was fucking incensed. Not rational or making any sense.

Then, just an hour ago she developed a rash. On her whole body. Like hives everywhere. We're in the emergency room. Pray for sanity.
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Cad is probably right, but the hives might indicate hormonal issues. Is she at menopause age?
 
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