moonarchia
The Scientific Shitlord
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Any child support or alimony, or was it split finances and go separate ways?
Either way, sorry it happened. Glad you weren't destroyed by it.
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Marriage and the Power of Divorce
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Either way, sorry it happened. Glad you weren't destroyed by it.
Seananigans
Honorary Shit-PhD
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Nah no lingering stuff other than the judgment against her to pay half the shared debt to me (I pay it in full to clear it from our shared names).
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Tarrant
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Everyones a statistic in something, don't let this be the one that gets you down. Choosing to move on from a bad situation and for your eventual happiness isn't something to be upset with.
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Izo
Tranny Chaser
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The FOH naughty bits and tits thread
I'm over there as Herv again. Just tell me where to post my wife's tits... @Herv Right here, mate.
Grats on moving on, Sir.
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Ishad
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I think every normal person feels some sort of shame or guilt as if divorce is some sort of personal or moral failure. You can’t keep a marriage together through your own will, it still takes two people.
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Tarrant
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Yep. Almost 20 years later I still feel sad about my first divorce. It sucks, honestly, but it’s how it works I guess.
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Cutlery
Kill All the White People
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Near as I can tell, the vast majority of relationships fall into some variation of one person carrying all the weight and the other being a piece of shit. The trick is finding someone who would carry all the weight, and then you carrying your own weight, and then getting lucky that they don't decide to be a piece of shit after they see that you're carrying the weight.
The first part is hard. The second part is just being a decent person, so that's pretty easy. The third feels like a fucking saving throw on a D20.
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Sheriff Cad
scientia potentia est
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You are spot on here. I think part of the magic is to be a partner that someone would fight to keep, thus tipping the scales that they won’t turn into a piece of shit at some point.
But even then, people are retarded and don’t operate from logic all the time, so even if you are doing everything right they can be a total piece of shit. And really, there’s no way to know if you are doing everything right - you just have to do the best you can.
I like to view relationships as 2 stepladders sitting side by side. You have to climb yours, the partner has to climb theirs, and you have to carry an object (your relationship) between you as you ascend the stairs. If you go up before your partner, the load becomes unbalanced and you’ll drop it. If your partner rushes up while you’re still on step 1, the load becomes unbalanced and you’ll drop it. The only way to raise the load to the top is for you to take one step, and the partner to take one step, and so on.
This metaphor works on a lot of levels and can be used to guide your decisions in a relationship. Is the person on the same step as me or am I being a dumbass and rushing ahead, ensuring that the other person will break my heart? Is the person rushing ahead of me, guaranteeing that I’m going to have to break their heart? Or do we go together one step by one step?
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