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Think positive. The oldest boys won't be on the street when you kick them out after they graduate.
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Marriage and the Power of Divorce
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I'm probably the worst person on earth to give any advice about kids, so listen to everybody else instead, but imo, the oldest ones probably have their minds on everything except what's happening at home. They've got one foot and 10 brains out the door already (or if they don't, you've got other problems... go teach her oldest to weld or something). And the younger ones could probably benefit from having both a mom/dad living together in a healthy relationship.
Also, are the exes married yet? If not, bet on them sowing some discontent with the kids whenever possible. Not that that should change your plans, but you might be able to mitigate some of it if you're expecting it.
fris
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no, neither x is married. I bring my 2 to see my parents every other week so they can see 'happily ever after'. my parents are coming up on 55 years, both my grand parents were close to 60 before one on each side died.
her oldest has some weird goals, that his father either supports or is the model of. i plan to encourage him in ways I htink are best. but the kid has no intention of going to college, despite having a free ride due to his father's time in the army.
her oldest has some weird goals, that his father either supports or is the model of. i plan to encourage him in ways I htink are best. but the kid has no intention of going to college, despite having a free ride due to his father's time in the army.
Kithani
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What weird goals? Maybe he can get whatever stupid out of his system and then go back and use the GI bill?
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fris
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He thinks he'll start a small business right after high school, think vape shop, yet can't get motivated to get his driver's license 6 months after turning 16. I'm being intentionally vague as I don't put much stock in the life goals of any teenager.
My 16 hates school despite being highly intelligent. Typical kid that gets all As if he tries. Then skips school over a week and gets all Fs the next report card. Take his truck away, back to straight As. All he cares about is talking to girls on snap. He does through a new gf in less than a month usually. Hopefully he figures out the girls he's into are into college so he does that just to keep his game up.
He did have an amazing epiphany the other day. At 15 he got a job as a buss boy at a small restaurant by his mother's house. It's not that busy and doesn't have late hours, and the owner intentionally hires a bunch of young kids as busboys, so he doesn't work a lot of hours in the work isn't that hard. The other day he told me that the owner of the restaurant also owns a small fast food burger place. He said that he could also work at that burger place, getting more hours, over the summer. He said " if I work two jobs and don't have a girlfriend, I'll have so much money ". That almost brought a tear to my eye
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I mean, he's smarter than average either way. As a white male you go to college to be a deadbeat loser with $400k in debt because no one will hire you.