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Think positive. The oldest boys won't be on the street when you kick them out after they graduate.
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Marriage and the Power of Divorce
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I'm probably the worst person on earth to give any advice about kids, so listen to everybody else instead, but imo, the oldest ones probably have their minds on everything except what's happening at home. They've got one foot and 10 brains out the door already (or if they don't, you've got other problems... go teach her oldest to weld or something). And the younger ones could probably benefit from having both a mom/dad living together in a healthy relationship.
Also, are the exes married yet? If not, bet on them sowing some discontent with the kids whenever possible. Not that that should change your plans, but you might be able to mitigate some of it if you're expecting it.
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no, neither x is married. I bring my 2 to see my parents every other week so they can see 'happily ever after'. my parents are coming up on 55 years, both my grand parents were close to 60 before one on each side died.
her oldest has some weird goals, that his father either supports or is the model of. i plan to encourage him in ways I htink are best. but the kid has no intention of going to college, despite having a free ride due to his father's time in the army.
her oldest has some weird goals, that his father either supports or is the model of. i plan to encourage him in ways I htink are best. but the kid has no intention of going to college, despite having a free ride due to his father's time in the army.
Kithani
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What weird goals? Maybe he can get whatever stupid out of his system and then go back and use the GI bill?
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He thinks he'll start a small business right after high school, think vape shop, yet can't get motivated to get his driver's license 6 months after turning 16. I'm being intentionally vague as I don't put much stock in the life goals of any teenager.
My 16 hates school despite being highly intelligent. Typical kid that gets all As if he tries. Then skips school over a week and gets all Fs the next report card. Take his truck away, back to straight As. All he cares about is talking to girls on snap. He does through a new gf in less than a month usually. Hopefully he figures out the girls he's into are into college so he does that just to keep his game up.
He did have an amazing epiphany the other day. At 15 he got a job as a buss boy at a small restaurant by his mother's house. It's not that busy and doesn't have late hours, and the owner intentionally hires a bunch of young kids as busboys, so he doesn't work a lot of hours in the work isn't that hard. The other day he told me that the owner of the restaurant also owns a small fast food burger place. He said that he could also work at that burger place, getting more hours, over the summer. He said " if I work two jobs and don't have a girlfriend, I'll have so much money ". That almost brought a tear to my eye
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I mean, he's smarter than average either way. As a white male you go to college to be a deadbeat loser with $400k in debt because no one will hire you.
Noodleface
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Tuition is far from the only thing those loans pay for. Room and board. Transportation. Books. Fees. I do agree though, anyone who goes to an out of state college is a retard. And there are millions of them every year.
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I went to an out of state, to a state university in TX , it was the only one that had programs that fit what I was looking for since it is mostly localised and regional. I paid out of state tuition (myself) the first semester and then the law was changed TX would charge in state tuition for students in adjacent states. I think a number of states are like that now.
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Living the dream man. Life is just easier when two people can row in the same direction but there's lots of people who can't do it for one reason or another.
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My youngest decided she doesn't want to be here at all anymore. She's 14, there's no set age here for when they can decide. She's starting to talk and act a whole lot like her mother the last year or so.
The oldest lives with me and just decided she's not talking to her mother anymore after this. So, yeah - that's the other way it could go. Would be 27 years for me this year. Could be a mom, a dad, 2 kids, a dog and a cat, but instead, now we have half a family each.
Good choice!
The oldest lives with me and just decided she's not talking to her mother anymore after this. So, yeah - that's the other way it could go. Would be 27 years for me this year. Could be a mom, a dad, 2 kids, a dog and a cat, but instead, now we have half a family each.
Good choice!
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Sheriff Cad
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My brother was like that when we were young. Couldn't get along with anybody, and my bio-dad gave him an out by saying "hey come live with me!" ... so my brother basically didn't get parented after like 12 years old, didn't finish high school, worked construction, fucked his body up, impregnated a fat stripper, etc etc... you wouldn't recognize my brother and me as related in any way.
Some kids are just that rebellious and would rather do ANYTHING than do what someone says. My brother is STILL like this, I have to field calls from hospitals that he's trying to walk out against medical advice because they won't give him the food he wants or some nurse "has it out for him" or whatever... it's always something. (He has cancer.)
I used to laugh if you wanted to kill him all you'd have to do is order him to breathe and he'd hold his breath just to spite you.
As a parent you can only do what you can do, at some point the kid has to take the ball and run with it. If you're doing everything you can, sometimes circumstances and the people involved are not fixable. Do what you can but don't beat yourself up over the decisions other people made.
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