Parent Thread

Our kids daycare had a child escape today, wandering around the parking lot, next to a 40mph road, which is a couple blocks away from a new home community which is actively being built, with dump trucks and such running up and down that road all day long.

This is the same daycare where when the all female staff filled out “About Me” sheets, which were plastered at the entrance for months, nearly everyone wrote 50 Shades of Gray as their favorite book. That’s cool if it is, but wtf. That’s like a Priest saying his favorite tv show is To Catch A Predator. (The outliers were The Bible and Dr Seuss. Yes, their favorite book is an author.)

I’m grateful our baby is being taken care of by The Bible one. But seriously, we need a new daycare. Last thing that pissed me off was when our twins told us about how one of the teachers own son threw a chair at their heads. No one from the daycare said anything.

Another time a kid got lice and they refused to tell anyone, citing HIPPA violation. It’s in their own damn policy book they link to with every email, that they notify the parents. Oh, that policy book? The last half of it is missing half the friggin pages. Maybe that’s the problem!

And according to my sister in-law who was an excellent assistant director at a different daycare, ours is violating state licensing by exceeding ratios of children to teachers, shuffling our girls around from class to class all day...I had to hunt to find them most times when I’d come pick them up. Often no one is at the front desk or the directors office in the morning or evening, or when a kid escapes.

And my wife told me about this one. The director “tutors” “a student,” who doesn’t go to the daycare, for several hours a day in her office. When questioned about this, my wife was told it’s none of her business what the director does with her free time.

Despite all that our twins did well there. They are in kindergarten now, so it’s just the baby. She’s just beginning to cruise so she’s not breaking out anytime soon. She’ll be moving on from being under The Bible’s care soon because of the cruising, but the ladies on the other side of the baby room seem competent enough.

If things don’t change after this escapee incident, we probably won’t keep her there when she’s ready to move out of the baby room. I am tempted to just jump ship right now, but our baby does really well there too. And shit, what if it’s worse at other daycares.

Gave my 10 year old nephew a good slap across his face.

This boy don’t listen, openly curses and fights with his older sister and inserts himself into every conversation about her or anyone really, plenty of times has hurt our girls by being too rough, talks back to everyone, disrespects his mom and never listens to her, on and on. His mom don’t do shit about it and openly defends him like he’s not at fault.

A couple years ago he got a letter sent home from school with the teacher listing specific examples of his inappropriate behavior. My wife reads it and doesn’t say much, sister in-law starts going on about how the teacher just doesn’t like him. I read the letter and tell her it looks like she has a bad kid. The teacher isn’t going to take the time out of her day to write you a letter with his specific malbehaviors just because she wants to fuck with him (this was second grade iirc). The kid is in the wrong and you aren’t even punishing him for it.

Yesterday we had our twin girls birthday party at home. Nephew and them show up later, but still that didn’t stop him from immediately start causing trouble. He’s 10 now. He kicked a ball at a 6 year old so hard on purpose that the kid had a welt across his face for two hours. Then he goes down the moon bounce slide while there’s a bunch of kids at the bottom. They ran off crying because it don’t felt good getting slammed in the ribs by a 100 pound asshole.

Then he ends up hurting some other girl, all the while just being a bully and trying to control everyone.

Now the slap. I’m sitting with my niece in the living room trying to help her figure out why her iphone doesn’t pick up WiFi. Then I hear one of my girls scream the kind of scream when she’s in real pain. He pushed her off a barstool chair in the kitchen into the corner of the kitchen island.

And his mother is doing nothing. So I get up and walk over to him and give him a good slap. The kind of slap that sends a message, but not enough that it’d hurt him. My girl has a good bruise on her leg, so fuck him either way.

Then his mom gets up in my face telling me not to touch him. At this point I’m over this bullshit, tell her to get him out of my house. She storms off mad at me, idgaf.

We had a good family of friends over too that this happened in front of. The mom thought it was excessive. The dad was like yeah I was pressure holding him earlier for being too rough, but maybe that slap was too much, but he did deserve it.

My wife is kind of indifferent. She struggles with him more than I do. If she slapped him no one would have blinked an eye.

And the kind of stuff that happened yesterday with his behavior, is every day. He hasn’t been over to our house one time and not gotten into trouble. Shit I remember making him and his older brother stand outside and wait to leave because they were so bad when he was 5.

It all has to do with his mother. His dad is around but just doesn’t care, works and cheats...not sure why he’s even married. But his mom was the daycare assistant director mentioned in an earlier post. When it was circle time for stories, he didn’t have to sit in the circle, but could wander around and do what he wanted. He was the only one allowed to do that of course.

She parents him like he’s a child at the daycare. Half ignores him completely, and basically disciplines him like they would at daycare. Except, the daycare teachers, like any adult in charge of kids, expect the parents to deal with their child’s behavior so that it doesn’t continue. That doesn’t happen. Daycare mom never becomes just mom and keeps her kids in line.

So what do you guys think? The womens are saying I was wrong. I’m saying play stupid games, win stupid prizes. I’d do it again to be honest.