Dating

Koushirou said:

I was hoping that everyone I’ve talked to basically being in agreement would help me just get over it and try, but I’ve already found myself trying to distance from him.

Simple question:

Am I more likely to figure out if I actually love this guy by staying with him and constantly getting fed external validation that I crave so much or by taking a break and seeing if the novelty wears off or if I still miss and want him after learning to be on my own?

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Everyone in agreement just makes your woman brain ("Don't tell me what to do!!") dig its heels in harder. The bottom line is the same. You won't know unless you take the risk and if the downside is unbearable for you then you probably are not ready to date and won't be for a while, realistically. You know you are up against the clock on this and opportunities for a working relationship are few and far between as you get older, especially as a woman. Ultimately you have to decide yourself, but don't let feelings and some impossible standard you have set internally prevent you from seeking happiness. That is the road to never ending depression and being forever alone, and you do not want that for yourself.

We’re going to try it. My mom offered to come up and house/cat sit for me while I go up to stay with him for a week. Just gotta wait for her to come back from her vacation and take care of some stuff where she lives then we can pick out a week.

The nausea’s finally mostly settled down the past day or two. Gonna try to at least have some strategies for dealing with that because we all know this won’t be the only anxiety spell I get about this, but I don’t want to make decisions based on fear anymore.

Thanks guys as always for keeping me only mildly retarded instead of full retard.

Good luck.

Izo said:

She should deffo post on FoH - we got lots of brown and guid officer titles.

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As much as we would like to believe it, we are simply not up to the high standards of racism and hatred that Asians operate on. She probably would be bored here.